Tell my wife I take drugs?

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Recently I have done MDMA, DMT, Salvia, Codeine and 5MEO-DALT. I will be doing more opiates, hopefully stronger ones, cannabis or possibly some synthetic cannabinoids, some of the 25x nbomes and ketamine. That's it, nothing crazy, no really high doses or anything. Use will be infrequent but possibly more frequent use of opiates if I could acquire them consistently. I want to try as many things as I can that I haven't already done and use a few things I already know I like once a week on a Saturday with my day off work to recover.

Sounds like a newly found drug hobby? Um, I think you need to slow it down if you're going to talk to her. Once a week is KIND OF a lot.. especially to someone who wouldn't even think of doing drugs ever. You got to start slow with simple drugs in low doses, then start getting more exotic. You can't really confess you've been doing drugs this whole time and list all these crazy drugs and then ask her if once a week is ok. I mean, she's going to FLIP OUT. First off, the betrayal.. sneaking behind her back? How long has this been going on? She's married a secret DRUG ADDICT?! Are you dealing too?!? Like my uncle?!?!

I do think you NEED to tell her.. but not the whole truth because that's WAAAY too much for someone, especially someone who doesn't even believe in drug use at all. Pick a drug.. tell her you've gotten high off it it a few times and wanted to come clean. Then start telling her more and more based on her reaction. Like someone said earlier, it's definitely something that should have been discussed before (and resolved).

Oh! I just thought of a brilliant idea. You should convince her to do ecstasy with you! This would maybe be the 2 or 3rd drug you introduce to her. Rolling may make her more open minded about this and easier for you too to talk about.

 

[placid space]

The drugs you said you do/tried, aren't even addictive. There is a huge difference to experimenting with different drugs that you have than being addicted to Heroin or Meth. This is what most of society fails to understand, they just don't want to hear it.
(escalates from here.. 8))

True but he did mention he wants to do opiates as frequently as possible especially if he can get them or something in those lines. We all know where that leads to. Once you get deep with opiates all that experiementing with various drugs will most likely go straight out the window and only opiates will stay.

Honestly OP, if you hadnt mentioned opiates Id agree with everyone more or less. But with opiates, it is kind of hypocritical to go "educating" your wife about it, because its close to impossible to keep them in check. No offense dude. But I think youre targeting them a bit more than the other drugs. Just avoid them.

 

[Derschieber]

Seems to me you are looking for a sounding-board...I'll echo the good advice above...tell her what you are doing...but this is falling far too short. You say she has a negative (accurate) view of drugs, and understandably so. After all, the context here is marriage & starting a family...RIGHT??? You knew from the start she will not be agreeable. Your decision is already made, because you decided to go with the lady instead of your obsession with drugs. So there you go. Next you blabber about how you don't miss drugs and if it comes down to it, you'll choose your lady.

You already did chose your lady...now it's time for you to not be missing the drugs (is this not what you said you can do...will do etc )...add to that the already mentioned opiates...I especially point to your listing of drugs...it reads like a child's wish-list...

Why you don't know how to talk with your wife? Let me tell you why you're asking strangers about how to have this conversation with your partner....because you are being dishonourable. Sure there will be some of like-minded people making comments that you can cling to, in your lame effort to feel better about a rotten thing...that's why you're here, isn't it..."Hey guys, I need some tricks on how to shaft my partner into smiling and agreeing whilst I make a world-class Idiot of myself"...oh yea possum, top class...
Ever thought about counselling? I'm guessing you're still a long way from a smart idea like that...but it will come to you...I just know it will.

Let's look at your plans to be sloshing around on opiates (or whatever) once a week, and sitting on your ass recovering on the day off...sounds pretty lame mate. How would you go selling that one to your partner? I could be wrong, but I'm guessing she wants a husband who is emotionally available on his day off, not some self-absorbed lump sloshing around the house...staring at the wall...

In case you really haven't a clue...and I can see you don't...even if she was open to drugs...in partner relationships, drugs are highly corrosive...yes yes there are people who win at lotto... You will certainly lose. Building a loving, trusting, caring, healthy & intimate relationship should be your pet obsession, not frigging drugs...if I was a prick, I'd be telling you what a fucking idiot you are...but I'm not like that...fortunately. It's better we encourage you to stand up like a man, because that's what you're supposed to be. Not a delinquent child inside an adults body...no. A man on the inside...the man your partner is relying on.


Listen mate, you need to pull your head from where it should not be stuck, and think about how to best catch up the last 5 or so years you forgot to grow up, because what's coming your way is a whole bunch of responsibilities you ain't fit to even look at, let alone handle them in a responsible way. Seriously, if I knew you personally, I'd be telling you exactly what time it is...

I hope you reply, and don't be holding back with the whining and excuses...your rationalisations, justifications...it's ok. Be rude curse me, swear me... whatever...I understand if you feel offended...I expect you to feel offended...it's all good, only don't run back into obscurity, sneaking around entertaining secret plans to start your slimy little double-life with maybe the help and good advice from some seasoned druggies & partner-abusers...

Best wishes...I mean you no harm.