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TDS Social Thread v. RIP tobala & junctionalfunkie, we love you both

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Tootsie- I think I know that feeling- usually I just think of it as this empty missing something, kind of feeling.......I didn't really get the homesick feeling much when I was little b/c we spent a lot of time moving around and the only place that I even considered close to a home was my grandparents house (which I do recall having some missing feelings for.) All that moving prepared both my brother and I for independence and living far from our family- He lives in Europe, and my parents live half a country away from me......
My brother (before moving overseas) and I had said we'd live where ever the other was, but that hasn't happened :( I do miss him alot and sometimes get that feeling when thinking about him.......
Strangely I don't really get that for my parents.....



edit: ^Okay, that was an unexpected ramble this morning! :D
 
^I am INTP, like an INTJ but I am inclined to keep things open & ongoing. J's drawn to closure, P's to beginning things and keeping ongoing. J's r decisive. There are threads where other BLers have discussed there MBTI but they are very old afaik. P's as you might expect are more clutter tolerant. Look at the back seat of a P's car. Unfinished projects and stuff to get stowed. J's are not inclined to postponing decisions so stuff is stored or thrown away. I think Rated E & Ebola? are likely the most knowledgeable ppl about MBTI on BL but I'm probably missing some enthusiasts who don't post as often. I do know both of their types but should probably let everyone self disclose.
 
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^I am INTP, like an INTJ but I am inclined to keep things open & ongoing. J's drawn to closure, P's to beginning things and keeping ongoing. J's r decisive. There are threads where other BLers have discussed there MBTI but they are very old afaik. P's as you might expect are more clutter tolerant. Look at the back seat of a P's car. Unfinished projects and stuff to get stowed. J's are not inclined to postponing decisions so stuff is stored or thrown away. I think Rated E & Ebola? are likely the most knowledgeable ppl about MBTI on BL but I'm probably missing some enthusiasts who don't post as often. I do know both of their types but should probably let everyone self disclose.
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You are so right about P's and clutter... my car is always clean, and I am always taking all of the trash out of it whenever I go to a gas station, I can't stand extra empty water bottles in my car at all.

That's interesting stuff though, thanks for sharing!
 
lolMBTI... bad subject (I am an INTJ, btw) I feel that categorizing people is often very counterproductive.

I saw my shrink today. He got me affordable Wellbutrin, and refilled my Valium and Xanax. I'm going to sleep well tonight and wake up to a new day full of hypomania and sexual arousal, but that's what work and vibrators are for.

Oh, psych meds, will I ever be free of you? :(

We nixed putting me back on tramadol.

:)
 
^ We all type people through different means. The question is if the model is useful and the typing is carrying us to better understanding and more choices or limiting us. I know you don't have much use for MBTI, and I'll respect your judgment for your life and not push that model at you.

On psych drugs "psych meds, will I ever be free of you?" I've been doing them in my own haphazard manner for 27 years. The process has gotten less heavy over time. Success has increased. You are smart and intuitive and barring strange new developments I predict it will get continuously easier for you as well. Newly marketed meds and new models tend to mean constant readjustment though. It would be very nice if you got free but I know you can manage very well otherwise.

Anyways on the light side of social, I saw Legion today and liked it far better than I expected. 4/5 on a 5 star system for me. Some of Michael's speech was TDS relevent & I may find it and post in quotes.
 
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lolMBTI... bad subject (I am an INTJ, btw) I feel that categorizing people is often very counterproductive.

I saw my shrink today. He got me affordable Wellbutrin, and refilled my Valium and Xanax. I'm going to sleep well tonight and wake up to a new day full of hypomania and sexual arousal, but that's what work and vibrators are for.

Oh, psych meds, will I ever be free of you? :(

We nixed putting me back on tramadol.

:)
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Cool!

Glad to hear you got affordable medication, I really do think that medication should be affordable for everyone.
 
Thanks Ocean. Life is good, it's only the situation that sucks, watching a parent that's begining to lose what's been extremely long battle with cancer is surerly enough to put things into perspective. I couldn't really disappear, just the thought of an emotional escape and temporarily running away came to mind when reading that post. Long days can often be the ones that seem to go by the quickest, hope your's is a good day.
 
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Cool!

Glad to hear you got affordable medication, I really do think that medication should be affordable for everyone.
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Yeah, we did some calling around and it turns out my meds will be around $50/month - I'd rather save that money or spend it on something else, but I can't put a price on my health.

I am in full agreement that meds should be affordable for all. I hope Obamacare does not look over mental health.

Down the hatch with my first 150 mg of Wellbutrin in years after a tasty asiago and herb gluten free bagel.

Enki, I'd like to get the stick out of my ass about the MBTI. I'm well familiar with it but to me it smacks of "newspaper astrology". Also, someone who does not post in here that I know has a slight obsession with it. However, I'm not here to rain on anyone's parade. I am almost 50/50 on extraversion-introversion and strong on the rest. I am about as typical an I/ENTJ as you will find. Others can make of that what they will. <3
 
^ I'll make sure if I ever start a TDS thread about types and their relationship to drugs/recovery that I go with Enneagram or big five. I have been contemplating bumping MBTI threads from SO or P&S for quite a while though. Postponed for now.

I've been a lot more content lately. I don't think its alzheimers or infarct dementia so its probably a good thing. A saying I heard from a friend a long time ago is a guiding principle when I'm maintaining a good state. "Most problems are unsolvable and those that aren't tend to work themselves out."
 
ive taken the MBTI a couple of times, years apart. the results were pretty much the same as i remembered from the first one.
all im sure of is that i was a 50/50-49/51 intro. extro.

im about to take it again though.... so wes a will see.
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i took the test and it essentially gave the same generalization as my astro-chart, and numerology reading does, which is interesting to me i suppose. i agree with 85% or something of this, i want to take it again though.

at a different site...
/shrugs.
 
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Uh Oh! Have your neighbors been informed that you are loose and in their community?;) ENFJs are pretty cool. This description gets fun like sun sign astrology because you get the list of famous people.
 
Edit: Enki responded by the time I wrote my huge post. Maybe I shoulda blogged it or started my own thread.......ITs a ramble.


Oh man. I offended my mom tonight.
I have been for a while now and I feel pretty guilty about it.
I'm always the sympathizer, the strong one, the adult really in our relationship. She knows this, acknowledges this, often. And she likes it that way. BUT I have issues with some of it. Not really the having to mother my mother so much as mothering my drunk mother. When she is drunk she says hateful shit that I get angry about. There are only a few subjects to touch on to get my blood boiling and she touches on all of them. I'm pretty calm and easy going about things. It kind of takes a bit to get me angry enough to argue in the way she does. Its like she wants a fight.
I am very protective of my family and the people I love- even TO the people I love.
Anyway- my therapist and mother in law (and husband and best friends) have told me I need to set boundaries with her and either put an end to the drunk calls or take more drastic measures.
My therapist even suggested cutting off a relationship- well she asked if I could and told me I needed to look out for myself and start focusing on myself........She has brought it up a number of times, that it is an option- anyway I have been trying to put an end to her calling me when drunk.
(I have friends who call drunk and I have NO PROBLEM with people drinking. My friends are NOT closed minded or bigoted when drunk)
So I laid down the law for my mom and she just calls drunk anyway-
Like tonight she forgot she left a msg saying not to call back b/c I might wake my dad- (and I didn;t want to at that point b/c in her msg she was obviously drunk) So she calls and tries to guilt trip me "why didn't you call me back? Don;t you want to talk to me?!?" In this voice that screams "I'm trying to get you to feel sorry for me!" and
I said ":You said not to call you back and you sounded drunk so I wouldn't have wanted to call back anyway" and
she was like "WHEN DID I SAY THAT?" and I had to explain that she called and left a msg.........
then she tried to play like she wasn't drunk "WHO said I was DRINKING?!?!"
And I was like "Um, you're slurring your speech- its obvious. I don;t like talking to you when you are drunk"
Then she gets that hurt voice (which is her number one manipulation tool- well, that and crying).
Anyway I feel bad b/c I might have hurt her feelings but I don't know what else to do but be mean.
Ive tried being nice and asking her to not talk about certain subjects- I've asked her not to call drunk.
I've told her in a fight not to call my house drunk.
I don't know what else to do anymore.
(Oh yeah, same exact scenario happened two days ago also- I was watching movies though)
I don;t know...........
 
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