Lysis
Bluelighter
Wow. It is good that you recognize these things in yourself, but since you are aware of them, don't you feel some pressure to act less selfishly?
Not really. Most of the people I've lived with have moved in with me. Don't get me wrong. I try to accommodate when I'm with someone, but I'm like anyone else whose home you're walking into: I'm not gonna change much in how I run my house. For instance, you ain't gettin' me to cook or clean. It's just never going to happen. I've tried getting into cooking, but I just don't like it. If he were paying most the bills, then I'd consider his opinion when buying stuff, but when you're the main bread-winner, you get to buy the stuff you like. I did have someone give me shit like "Why would you buy an expensive car? Why not do something else like give to charity or pay off your house quicker?" I told him that I didn't go to college and crawl and kick and scream to a comfortable income to give it away to charity. It's not like I have so much extra money I don't know what to do with it. I just have no responsibility, I like nice things, and I'm gonna spend my money however I want. If someone was supporting me, it would be a different story.
At the end of the day, I'm single, I have no kids, I have a good career, and I want to enjoy it, because I've really worked my ass off for everything I have. It's about me, because it can be about me and there is no one else to focus on. If someone wants to rip that away from me, they are gonna need to bring something to the table other than words and promises.