stupid asshole peice of shit "dad"

[mgmt&mdma]

im minding my own Goddam business and the asshole comes in and starts telling me about how I-(me!!!!) make it difficult for him to be a father to me. well that stupid piece of shit cunt shouldnt expect me to show ANY respect to him or even refer to him as my dad after all the abuse and stupid shit i had to go through.

Stupid fucking asshole catholic, found out i was gay 3 years ago and thought "well since hes different, ill beat him, cuss him out every night for 3 straight months, tell him hes going to hell, tell him hes retarded and how he'll never be good enough, and put him through as much hell as i can- that'll change him!"

and now he wont fucking accept that I WAS BORN THIS WAY! i put up with ur shit for 3 YEARS, 3 years i cried myself to sleep, 3 years that every night suicide would come across my mind, and you have the balls to tell me that IM making our relationship difficult. well FUCK you piece of shit. once im 18 im moving as far as fucking away as possible. the only thing that youve ever taught me was that just because you have a mother and father doesnt mean you have a mom and dad.




UGH gonna take a shower and go to bed. hope you guyss dont mind me venting

 

[TINK]

I suggest that you reach out to some community organizations for people in your same situation. Surround yourself with people who understand what you are going through and get in a positive environmet. I know it is not easy, but just try and ignore what he has to say to you about all this. It appears that he has not come to terms to his issues. He will never be able to be the father you need/want until he deals with his own demons.

It is classic psychology, blaming someone else for their unhappiness. Do not let him take you to his level. Stay strong. Project confidence and do not let him get to you, even if it does, do not let him know that.

You are a wonderful person and belong on this earth, please do not make any rash decisions (like suicide) You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Do not let him project his faults on you and bring you to his level. From reading this he has a lot of emotional issues that from reading are his issues not YOURS

Good Luck

Keep in mind..... you are better than him. Don't go down that path

 

[Dr Pepper]

Get the fuck outa there bro

 

[Lysis]

I used to live in a house where my mom would come EVERY FUCKING day, slam open my door, and scream at the top of her lungs for something. Basically that I was a piece of shit and I ruined her life.

Best advice...get the fuck out of that environment. It will make you so much happier. It's a toxic situation, and I'm sorry you are going through it. We don't get to pick our parents. No one deserves that shit

Losts of hugs for you. I understand. Now that I'm gone, my mom keeps trying to make up for it, but she never acknowledges the verbal abuse.

GET OUT of the house when you can. People like this, even if they are your parents, are bad for your soul. Make something of yourself and get out. Ignore his shit. He's taking out his hatred of his own life on you. You can rise above it.

 

[epiks]

Thats an extremely unhealthy environment. I fear you're reaching your breaking point and I don't want that to happen. You said you're not 18 yet..You have SO much of your life ahead of you. Its just beginning!

If you get out of that shithole things will get better and you can start ENJOYING life!! Keep me updated. I'll come over and dare you're dad to lay another hand on you..I'd kick his ass. Abuse is NOT fucking okay, no matter what.

 

[theartofwar]

I can't imagine how people can still live in these ignorant fogs - treating your own child like a second class person due to his sexuality. I am truly sorry for you bro, nobody deserves that.

 

[deaf eye]

damn your in a tough spot, my buddy went thru pretty much the same situation , but his drunken pops (wasnt religious, just a dumb redneck)
tried sexually abusing the gay out of him too. my friend says the best thing he ever did was get out .

he's struggling financially and emotionally but he's happy he doesnt have to ever see his dad again,

 

[kaywholed]

When people suck, I like to make them mad. Simply to let them feel emotional discomfort like they have put upon me.

I recommend telling your father that he made you gay. Infer that his actions have homosexual tendencies that you have picked up on, and thus have grown up to be a homosexual like your father.

This will likely enrage him. Do not attempt this if he is physically violent because he may try to hurt you (maybe you want that tho so you can charge him).

 

[theartofwar]

I have to disagree kaywholed , do not stir a fire - let that shit burn out.. he lives there for now.

 

[kaywholed]

I have to disagree kaywholed , do not stir a fire - let that shit burn out.. he lives there for now.

So, if its that bad then pissing the father off will:

change things for the better (hurray)
not change things (meh)
change things for the worse (boo)... which should be followed by a "fuck you im moving out"

 

[theartofwar]

I just can see that pushing someone with that much of an unstable mind over the edge. If he was to get physical , he could hurt OP.

Believe me I'm first person to use that technique , it's just gotta be applied depending on the situation - if OP is reliant on his father for food/ housing etc - doesn't seem like a good call imo.

 

[kaywholed]

I just can see that pushing someone with that much of an unstable mind over the edge. If he was to get physical , he could hurt OP.

Believe me I'm first person to use that technique , it's just gotta be applied depending on the situation - if OP is reliant on his father for food/ housing etc - doesn't seem like a good call imo.

So staying in a non-friendly home with abusive parents is tolerable for food and housing.

 

[theartofwar]

when did I say that ?

 

[wooger]

Hi

Just wanted to say I'm sorry your father is treating you like that and I agree with everyone says it's definately him with the issues and there is nothing wrong with you AT ALL. I also think you had its great you had the courage to come out to your father... obviously he didn't react well but again, thats HIS issues nothing to do with you at all..

I was wondering, have you considered talking to social services about your situation? I saw on your profile that you're 16... as he is being quite violent towards you etc they may be able to help you out with a place to stay (for a while at least) and put you in touch with others forms of support, just an idea

 

[hobhead]

religion is no more than the sum of it' superstitious dogma .

if i had a genie i would wish that the young OP had progressive, compassionate parents . this mutt of a father must be so frustrated by his son's orientation because of some woo woo shit in the backwards ass religion he clings to.

hope the mother is not as crazy mean .

 

[mgmt&mdma]

Wow i was planning on deleting this but i feel like theres way too much support put into it from you guys to do that now8) After reading all the responses i feel alot less lost, thanks so much guys

GET OUT of the house when you can. People like this, even if they are your parents, are bad for your soul. Make something of yourself and get out. Ignore his shit. He's taking out his hatred of his own life on you. You can rise above it.

im gonna go job-searching this weekend, im sorry to hear that u had a similar problem

This will likely enrage him. Do not attempt this if he is physically violent because he may try to hurt you (maybe you want that tho so you can charge him).

ive tried verbally fighting back but he just screamed at me and got in my face, he knows that leaving any bruises on me means theres proof to abuse so he either does stuff to me that wont leave a bruise or shakes me really hard then pushes me away.

I was wondering, have you considered talking to social services about your situation? I saw on your profile that you're 16... as he is being quite violent towards you etc they may be able to help you out with a place to stay (for a while at least) and put you in touch with others forms of support, just an idea

Ive gone to a few therapists/counsilers, but my parents have always convinced the therapists that they merely grounded me for a few days because they misunderstood my situation. i have one therapist who knows that thier full of crap and i see him alot. thanks for the advice tho

I've been in your situation before, my parents used to beat me and scream at me throughout my childhood and adolescence. My sister ran away, but since she was under 18, she was caught and my parents beat her even more. I don't think further angering them is the answer, or at least that's not what I did. I saved my money and left at 18 to avoid any issues with the cops. I know that's probably not what you want to hear though.

i never thought about saving up for some reason (probably cuz i spend all my extra money on drugs), but since ill be searching for a job soon ill probably have enough money to save up for a car/apartment by the time i turn 18, thanks. im really sorry to hear about ur past how has your life been since you left?

And btw my moms the same way, she just tends to ignore me more.

Bleh after reading all this i feel like one of those "boo hoo feel bad for me" kinda guys, but just so you all know i was VERY pissed/sad/scared/etc when this was happening. anyways thanks so much for the support guys. to everyone/anyone who's had/is going through this, send me a pm and maybe we can help each other out in time of need

much love to everyone who visits/posts in TDS

PLUR, Nick

 

[Regenesis2]

What is wrong with these old-fashioned jerks who think they can get what they want through treating others like shit?
You know what to do. I'd put off college too until you are out on your own and financially secure. College can bankrupt your ass and you don't want to end up being around your toxic dad anymore. It is a sad and unfortunate situation, but people can be too mean and cruel and staying away from them is your only chance at survival. Best wishes.