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laVoix

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I am writing this from my and my gf's cozy bed. Having her sleeping at my side. I can now officially say that "truth's never been closer" though I believe she knows me very well and would not in fact be too surprised if she read all that I shared with you guys here on this fu...wonderfull blue pill. The reason I am here is well, she doesn't want to have sex neither tonight. Tomorrow she needs get up very early in addition to headaches and hypochondriac manias. And I am so willing to have some chick play with my dick, but fuck the zen, when you want it the most no beef. To hookers I'd go, if Richard I was. But just a poor soul who albeit temporarily has run out of options. You know that I can't wish you well cuz for that I the capacity don't have, thou one who feels prive of everything ain't able to give back anything to anyone. But still an advice like I'd give to myself: never run out of options. One rarely loses everything, since where I lose sex I gain peace and silence in a quiet night to live my life how I'd like it to be at least in my head for now, because thoughts...thoughts and desires they change faster than any relationship can develop. Ah, if only the clock would stop to lose the fear that I'm wasting too much time. One rarely wins all battles
 
Yes.


Are you saying you're sometimes ultimately ok/content with just sleeping next to your woman? I know those feels. It's a safe place.
 
Has this been an on-going problem? If two people have very different ideas of how frequent sex should happen within a relationship, there's a good chance that one person is going to cheat or use (unhealthy) manipulation on the other.

Find a partner who wants to have sex more often. Or get out of the relationship and start having casual sex with multiple partners.
 
freehugs said:
If the lack of sex is causing you to write posts like this, then you should talk to her. You could always try suggesting it earlier in the night. Oh and having an orgasm relieves headaches. http://www.livescience.com/27642-sex-relieves-migraine-pain.html. Should be the same concept.
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Of course it's lack of sex, at least as a nr. 1 thing. Then we could talk about other things like her sucking it sometime, dressing up certain way, or accompanying me to some places etc. From there I guess new needs and desires would go on and on...it's like that hierarchy of needs thing lol. That's why I said that desires progress faster than any relationship can develop, and unless you happen to find an amazingly flexible and open minded person you'll always resent monogamy in one way or another. Couple that with "lack of options" (real or perceived) i.e. having to be around cuz not having anywhere else to go, and you feel trapped.

In order to cheat, you need solid financial resources. If you've moved in together with your gf that means buying or renting another flat, having enough free time, or going to hookers which costs $$$. Those hot professional ladies ain't fulfilling your desires for free, are they?
And while some girls are not so openly materialistic when it comes to their bfs or husbands, I argue that still everything would go much smoother if I could now pull out a fancy trip to some island or at least some 5* SPA to "cure" those headaches of hers and all that "tiredness", including the best doctors to be here everyday (giving all the attention she wants 24h/24h and )trying to figure out what's wrong with her sex drive and some other organs.

Or I could be like Richard with a naked model on his back and just say fuck it all and have fun in the moment when I want it....
But not, I am constrained by the environment and resources. That's why I can't give anything 'back' to anyone, since I have no capacity to do that, one who always feel like missing everything ain't giving anything to anyone (and that might include love, attention, etc. or simply advice) Here we come basically to the chicken egg dilemma.

And btw, she promised me sex Saturday night 4 days ago lol :P What a long term planning! It's not like I am asking for it everyday. What you think would I put up with this shit if I had like millions in bank? I could just take my wallet and walk out right now and live the life however I want it. Have time to think, re-think, try out, explore...But not. The fucking clock is fast, free time is scarce, thinking time next to zero and that's how our lives will pass. The bright moment of the day is when you put your headphones and let yourself to music and all that vibrant life going inside your own head. Have you noticed how many people have headphones in metro? Hey, ask why.
 
RedLeader said:
Has this been an on-going problem? If two people have very different ideas of how frequent sex should happen within a relationship, there's a good chance that one person is going to cheat or use (unhealthy) manipulation on the other.

Find a partner who wants to have sex more often. Or get out of the relationship and start having casual sex with multiple partners.
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THIS!


I have a very high sex drive.. and so does my man.. except when he start using again.

Before he went to prison, we were having like ZERO sex.. and I swear man, I was thinking of cheating on him constantly. I never did, but I just wanted some dick so bad. I just hope that when he gets out and is clean, he will start fucking me like he used to.

God damn, I am ready. He gets on feb 14th, and I cannot even begin to think of all of the things that poor bastard is going to have done to him.
 
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