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Social Life Away From Drugs?

I must say I have the 2 'groups' aswell.. Old people from P.S., High School, Werk etc... and the people who I have grown to lurve inside and outside 'party' life.. Thanx guys...
 
I have friends who are bluelighters.
And friends who arent.
And I wouldnt seperate the both. I am friends with them because they are good people. I'm not going to hide someone I respect away, because they are a blueligher.
BUT I wouldnt intruduce them as a bluelighter, I would introduce them as a friend.
I was introduced to bluelighters before I knew what "bluelight" was, so I like to think I met bluelighters through a friend, opposed to a webpage. So I feel I have no obligation to say I met them from "bluelight" itself.
If I went to a club with a group of bluelighers and thought a friend who WASNT a bluelighter would enjoy it - I would invite them. I wouldnt seperate other friends, just because of the bluelight label. They are friends, no matter what they like to call themselves. They could call themselves fuzzy porno silly pink people if they wanted to.
I have friends who come out partying who arent bluelighters who use drugs... so I wouldnt call bluelighters drug companions - & I wouldnt neccessarily need bluelighters in order to have accompanied drug fun.
I have friends who come out to enjoy the scene who dont do drugs.
My friends who dont do drugs and dont enjoy the atmosphere, I still see, still have a good time with, and I am open and honest with them about who I see, where they are from and whether I take drugs or not. If they specifically asked.
Hrm.... hope I didnt ramble off-track..
 
As an older "rocker/drugy" i have no normal friends,they have all grown up ,they all are "families" hence RETARDS ,most are tunnel visioned about life ,children.SO, as im a random. when i go "rockin" ive got NO MATES ,though frankly i dont care,(sometimes) they are judgemental,sometimes selfish, sometimes too much trouble.i like (most times ) being my ownly friend,and only have too cower to the missus when i get (eventually) home.
 
Really interesting thread here, keep up the discussion. Of course people are going to have friends in both the drug taking and non drug taking sphere, simply by the fact that there are those who pop and those who do not. I don't think friendship should be based on drugs, but then again my best friends are all drug takers and part of the act of sharing the drug experience revolves around really strong friendship. I mean your not gonna organise to spend 16 hours trippin with somebody you don't like, are you? I guess what i'm trying to say here is that taking drugs is all about friendship intensification- you get together with a bunch of your best friends, alter your state of consciousness and having a rockin' time. Although this can become a double edged sword when friendships become about drug intensification rather than vice versa. Other than this what mowie said, or maybe pleo..... god your right it does look shitter if you read it again!
 
*ROTFL*
I don't have any friends that don't take drugs, oh, wait. ONE person I know has not used "serious" drugs but then she wants to.
Scratch my social life off the salvageable list. ;)
Meh!
-plaz out-
[ 08 April 2002: Message edited by: plazma ]
 
insert random muzby wisdom here...
i live my social life the way i want to. my social world revolves around me, not other people. if i feel like going out, i will. if i feel like taking drugs i will. if i feel like drinking i will.
my life is not dictated by the fact that i take drugs, or by the fact that i choose to go out with people from work (in fact, i go out and take drugs with ppl from work...)
for those who are dissing bluelight as a place to meet people, i have met some of my best friends here... i have also met a lot of fuckwits.... and everyone in between... but thats the same at work/school/etc...
bluelight is a way of meeting people, not a way of life.
keep that motto in your head, and you will be a lot happier.
[ 08 April 2002: Message edited by: muzby ]
 
Same here Calvin. Same here. You know, I think we should make a 'life' for ourselves. Expect a call from me sweetie :)
I know where you're coming from...
I don't have any high school friends, as i moved here from another country at the end of my high school career. And the only friends i have are those from uni. And even then we don't do 'normal' things outside of uni - other than go out to clubs and stuff. Most people assume you still have your high school buddies, your old best friends...
Life can be lonely sometimes i guess.
 
I'd split my friends into 3 groups, Uni friends, druggo friends, and highschool friends.
Uni friends i rarely go out with, but we sometimes share a beer down the pub after a hard day of uni.
Then i've got my druggo friends, whom i mostly run into at parties and clubs and so on.
Then i've got my highschool friends. I can go months without seeing these people, but when we all come together its pretty much business as usual. Its like school never finished. :)
Superbass is both a highschool and a druggo friend. So there is no escape! The poor bastard :)
 
An interesting thread, but i'd have to agreee with what Up All Night said. I have an absolutly huge social life outside bluelight, and I don't ever wanna lose that, but at the same time, I wanna do bluelight things as well.
One other thing, has anyone here become a bluelighter and then turned their back on their friends or things that they loved doing before?
food for thought, go play uplink !
 
Originally posted by evilcalvin:
So how big is your non-drug social life?Mine is practically non-existant. :( :( :(
That's pretty much it. It is very sad. I think the reason why we classify bluelighters away from those who are not is because many, though not all, of bluelight friendships are based or revolve around drugs. Though it is not true for all, that is basically the theory. I had made a few true friends that are not based on drugs in Bluelight. A few months before I wouldn't even consider being friends with someone who doesn't do drugs, because I feel they wouldn't understand. Now, I think it's healiter to have both drug doing and non drug doing friends....
I feel like all the above is crap. Let me think about it for a bit more...
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Unlike alot of people who seem to have drug friends and other friends, we have a large group of buddies(which includes bluelighters and non-bluelighters) that we hang with and we do lots of things together...including "partying". Having said that, a majority of time spent with these people is taken up by treks to the beach, hiking in National Parks, picnics, camping, videos beer and pizza, coffee and just hanging. Very occasionally we decide to say hey to Ian and Crystelle, but that's really rare now. The cool thing is that we all know where eachothers heads are at in pretty much every state of being. It's a great group dynamic! We don't always do everything with everyone, sometimes the group is smaller, i guess we're lucky to have found a great group of like-minded people, where there are NO politics, no headfucks, no games, just good company!!
So, in closing, you could say that our social life and our "drug" life overlap, but really, our 'drug' life is that negligible that there is no need for us to make a differentiation between the two :)
[ 09 April 2002: Message edited by: samadhi ]
 
After thinking a while i have come to the conclusion that all my friends do drugs- some just not as often as me perhaps ;)
I have lots of groups of friends, uni friends, high school friends, work friends and then bluelighter friends. My bestest friend is not a BLer, but occasionally takes drugs with me. We have great fun all the time though, without drugs.
I only really started hanging out with Bler's last December (unknowingly i knew a few b4 then but neither of us knew the other was one.) Since then most times I go out pilling it is with Blers. But my bf is a Bler, so i guess that is why. Anyways all the bluelighters i know rock and there is no problem just having BL friends i dont think. I guess it is just nice for me that my best friend is kinda anti drugs (despite the fact she takes them) so she can make me feel guilty once every while :)
I have a big social life away from drugs, or i could if i wanted, i guess i am just choosing at the moment to have fun and somehow drugs usually comes with that... i like em, so why not :)
Anyways everyone in the world takes one kind of drug or another.
Stopping now. Did i even get the point of this??? I dunno if i posted on topic or not.
 
Yeah BoppyChick, you were spot on...
I wish I had more time to devote to a social life away from drugs, but unfortunately the only time I have to get together with my friends is on the weekend, and then only half the weekend since I work Saturdays, and most of the time there is an event my friends or I want to go to, and inevitably drugs are involved.
This doesn't mean that my social life revolves around drugs however, but it does involve drug use... I don't believe there is a problem with having a social life involving a lot of exposure to drugs, as long as your own drug use is moderate... I do believe its good to have a varied social life which some parts of don't involve drug use, but I'm very happy with where I am at the moment and have no desire to find other friends just for the sake of knowing people who don't take drugs...
I also have many interests outside of drugs, the only thing I really feel I lack is time to persue all those interests...
So ultimately, as long as people have some variety in their life, they shouldn't feel like they're lacking something if much or all of their social life involves drugs... It's when drugs are your entire life, or when you can't get by without drugs, that you should worry...
 
Raspberrywatergirl, EvilCalvin.... What the fuck? I mean really! What do you classify us as? You can't say that you don't have non-drug fun when we are together! So BAH! Drag yourselves out of your mire of self pity and kick yourself in the arse!
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I'm sorry I shouted baby, you know I love you. Come here.
*hugs for the superhappyluckjoybot division*
 
I damn well agree FetishJester..
We have had fun chem free.
Pure may have been the first, (Thanks Taliana!)
but it was a demonstration nonetheless.
That night kicked ass, and the need for substances was a non-event.
I'd like to think 'non-drug social life' is equivalent to social availability outside the time drug use occurs.
I mean, if I didn't have to forget about what a crappy week it's been, I doubt I'd be taking anything very much at all. And not going out with 'friends' solely because you don't have anything to drop doesn't make you much of a friend in the first place.
I guess thats one way of sorting out friends from 'friends'.
So *hugs* to EvilCalvin and Rasberrywatergirl..
DRUGS DON'T MAKE GOOD PEOPLE!!
[ 10 April 2002: Message edited by: Vaile* ]
 
Originally posted by Tarsarlan:

I also have many interests outside of drugs, the only thing I really feel I lack is time to persue all those interests...

Do you realise the number of times I've started a reply to this thread but deleted it cause I didn't really know what I was trying to say.
But that's it Tars!! When I thought about it, I had to admit to myself that most of my social life involves drugs. But that's only cause my social life is on Friday and Saturday nights. So inevitably anything that me and my friends do on those nights is going to involve alcohol, or pot, or pills, or a mixture of everything ;) But that doesn't mean that that's all I like to do with my time.
I'd love to have the time to do more. Although my druggy friends (only one of whom is another bluelighter) are organising a mixed netball team to play on Wednesday nights. Which obviously won't involve drugs! So we're trying to do other stuff :)
I dunno...they're just my friends. Whether drugs are involved or not. And we do whatever we want to do together. Our friendships don't revolve around drugs, even though that's what we do most of the time!!
All that said of course I do have friends who don't take drugs, or who do it only on a special occasion every few months not every week, or who only ever smoke joints, or who only ever drink alcohol. I have to say those friends tend not to mix most of the time. But if my druggy friends (my closest friends) and I organise a drunken night at the pub, then all my friends are invited. Cause there's not a single person I know who doesn't like a drink or two :)
So yeah, I guess substances are a consideration in who I see and when and what we do together. But that's just a part of knowing different people and everyone just doing whatever the hell they want to do with whoever they want to do it with.
I don't think I really made a point through all that babble! But you have my 2 cents worth :)
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Fetish_Jester and vaile*: I mustn't of worded it very well....what I meant was that of all my friends, all of the ones that are closest to me take drugs on a regular (recreational) basis.
*phew* :)
 
I have never been prepaired to put up with people who judged others on face value. As a consiquence I have a group of friends amoungst whom the drug users and non drug users are completely assimillated. We all do lots of stuff together and most of it has nothing to do with drugs. When we do go clubbing those who want to take stuff do, and those who dont want aything dont have anything.
Occassionaly it does cause some problems but for the most part our whole group is pretty close nit and I dont tend to distinguish between the users and the non users.
As a result of this I tend to think that its not about the actuall taking of drugs, but the fact that the people you take drugs with are more likely to be non judgemental of you and, as a result easier to confide in and to be close too.
But I do tend to think of asking the drug users first when we are going clubbing or something. So I know what calvin means.
If that made any sense at all I'll be happy.
*josh rides off into the sunset on a giant, purple, halucination of a chicken*
...I think I really have lost the plot this time
 
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