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Social Anxiety Disorder and Dating

Captain.Heroin said:
You'll never be able to exude faux confidence you don't have. Just be yourself and if someone doesn't love you for who you are they aren't worth your time.

Just my 2 cents. Not trying to contradict anyone else's opinions <3
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Plus anyone will be able to see right through that.
 
Dating is the number one situation in which something other than what one is will not wear well on a person . . . when I was dating a 41 year old woman when I was 19 years old there were a lot of people who had all sorts of questions for me, quite a few from men and some women too about how to replicate the situation. Which actually would be difficult because there were a number of different variables involved which couldn't be replicated: cultural elements, the fact that there was a range of outcomes desired by those who asked me about this . . . simply getting laid and winding up engaged to be married and everything in betwixt . . .

All I could say is be oneself, and it worked well when people took the advice . . . and luckily for all involved only turned into a moderately large Clusterfuck when the advice was disregarded or modified in ways I never would have intended. If it is a matter of anxiety of the type which has physical symptoms and the like, that is something which can be mitigated a bit pharmacologically . . .
 
nuttynutskin said:
Plus anyone will be able to see right through that.
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Absolutely correct, and the other person can react to such a case in any way from seeing that the person is nervous and trying hard and realising that it means a lot to that person, and gives high marks for effort and things go more smoothly from that point, , to wondering if the person is trying to put something over on them.
 
"confidence is a confidence trick"
ive been diagnosed with a fairly debilitating social phobia, and just wanted to say that IME, Alcohol, Benzos and Opioids do not help you establish a relationship with a stranger. drugs are an option to get to know people better but they will not solve any of your problems with meeting people. (ive been dependent on all 3, this is my experience) there are chemicals I believe are much better for this kind of thing but im not about to dish out that kind of advice.
sorry i cant offer any actual help, i just wanted to offer my current experience with a couple previous poster's suggestions. good luck.
 
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