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Sober and BORED

Foreigner

Foreigner

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It's been a month since my psychedelic meltdown and I've quit all alterants, even weed. One whole month. My lungs are much cleaner and my sense of smell has returned. I feel more "here" and reality feels more concrete. The problem is that I'm bored out of my damn mind. I live in the pacific northwest and all it does at this time of year is RAIN. It's hard to really go anywhere outdoors which is normally what I'd do to address this, so I've been stuck inside a lot.

I am really coming to terms with the fact that the reason I alter my consciousness is boredom. I seek entertainment and fun. I don't do it to escape reality or deal with some deep seated trauma. I do it sheerly because mundane reality is sooooooooo boring. I've been going to the gym, watching movies, reading books, hanging out with friends: anything to keep my mind off of drugs. But it's gradually not working.

Can anyone make any recommendations for how to enjoy this fucking boring life? Sorry to sound so negative but it's really a struggle for me right now.
 
I agree with yoga and meditation. What do you think of those?

Can you cook? What do you think about playing in the rain? Do you work? Do you have the ability to travel?

How about heading to somewhere natural? Got any barns / farm near you where you can volunteer (I only suggest barns and farms because typical volunteering places are higher stress)?

Take a day trip on your bike when it is nice out.
 
I visited the PNW and while I was only there for a few days, I didn't witness many all-out downpours. I think it all just depends on your state of mind. I went for a hike in the drizzle and it ended up clearing up beautifully! Sure, I got a little muddy on the trails, but who cares?

If I were you, I'd invest in a waterproof jacket and go do what you want outside. :)
 
Good for you - on the quitting. It takes a lot of strength and self respect.

Boredom: clean your house. get a puppy - it'll be a pain in the ass, but you won't be bored! and it's rewarding. If all else fails - sit on your hands.

It's been my experience that this is a phase - one that comes and goes. But it does go
 
I second that you should get a pet!

The boredom of post drug lifestyle will fade with time, even if it doesnt seem that way now. Just don't be content to be bored.

Check out pinterest.com to get some inspiration for projects at home and make some shit!

The PNW can be so dreary and it sucks the life out of you. I lived there one winter for a few months and it almost killed me. But don't let it! Get sunlight every day. Try to explore places in your area that you've never been before, or people generally don't even know about.

Grow some plants.

Ride the Amtrak somewhere.

Also, you can volunteer in your community.
 
Its been 1o weeks now sense my melt down with DXM. Havent taken a drug sense then. Yeah the crave will get me really boared and put my mind on DXM. I even wanted to try the choking game on my own... I did it once witrh friends and it was like if Iw as in a dream a new world a transperent world for 3 to 5 seconds. It was actually pretty cool but then I saw the bad videos and all the brain damging it can do so I dont really wanna do it any more...

probably getting a dog would help...
 
I'm in a similar position as you OP. Just gotta stay strong and keep putting positive energy into the universe, and find your passion. Find a road and follow it! Being on drugs just isn't a sustainable lifestyle. I'm a bit different though, as I did use them to escape and deal with childhood trauma.

But hey, when you're high all the time, sobriety is a trip!!
 
i have found that the boredom never leaves for good..it rears its ugly head no matter how mansy years sober..ill leave with a quote from ol dirty bastard..one that basically summed my thoughts up perfectly

"the hardest part about parole is staying off those motherfucking drugs man..thats the only thing that makes me happy and enjoying myself because life is boring to me"
 
U need to find a passion In life like playing music or something dude.. Something that when you do it time just fades away...

Video games rule for boredom ... skyrim bro
 
cire113 said:
U need to find a passion In life like playing music or something dude.. Something that when you do it time just fades away...

Video games rule for boredom ... skyrim bro
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Skyrim? Really? Dark Souls runs circles around that game.

Skyrim is just too easy. I could beat that game on the hardest difficulty blind folded. Now Dark Souls.. I shudder whenever I hear those words spoken in one sentence. Just remembering my first playthrough.. there are no words for the horrifying experience that unfolded over the 1 month period that took place at my house. I died so many times.. lost so much shit.. but in the end, I conquered it. There was nothing more sweet than beating that game.
 
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HALT! Never allow yourself to get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. Bored should be in there, too. Many addicts use to alleviate boredom. You've received some good advice.
 
Missykins said:
HALT! Never allow yourself to get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. Bored should be in there, too. Many addicts use to alleviate boredom. You've received some good advice.
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Could always try a 12 step support group? Get into service/volunteering. I'm about 60 days off heroin and trust me today is a boring motherfucking day for me, especially since my mom is an awful alcoholic, her irrational behavior triggers anger in me which is definitely triggering. I always justified using dope over catching a domestic violence charge. I just got out of jail, I'm not trying to go back. But anyways, hobbies are always great. I recently started writing short stories and poetry (sounds lame I know) but it keeps me busy and its kind of like reading the book, going off into another world, but you get to control this world, like a lucid dream. Don't trade up addictions/substances either, it hardly ever works. I tried substituting shoplifting (got another charge), casual bar sex (bad reputation with women), but just plain growing up and being "mature" as society calls it has been working the best for me. Best of luck to you, much love.
 
I've taken up photography. I have a professional camera but I haven't broken it out in years. I'm trying my best to focus on beauty and inspiring imagery, and going for walks in nature. Anything to keep my mind off of using.

I've noticed big changes in my lungs, both good and bad. They are much more sensitive to pollutants and illness now, but on the other hand I can breathe more deeply and my sense of smell is amazingly strong now!

Thanks everyone for your kind advice. I'm trying my best to hang in there but it isn't easy. The other night I almost smoked up when a friend was smoking. I was standing with him talking, and even though he knew I had quit, he automatically passed the joint to me and I automatically took it. I had the joint in my hand, and had to stop and think about it... then I gave it back to him. I really wanted some though :(
 
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