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So There Are These Girls...

Butterwood

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and they are driving me crazy. I dont know where to begin..but i will start with the amount of them
4 girls. and i like them each a fair amount(i wouldn't use the term love because...im not at that point with either of them currently..but i could see any of them as my SO)

Girl 1- Known her since gradeschool. gorgeous blonde athlete. doesnt do drugs but drinks every now and then
and if she wanted me to im sure i would probably quit everything i do for her. Shes really cool and ive told her how i feel about her but she doesnt know what to do and kinda wants to just stay friends but i think if i worked long enough she would see me in a different light. (it could be because she has done things with my other friend..but she doesnt know that i know)

Girl 2- Known her all of high school but never really talked much.Small blonde.she recently got a job at my work and we tease eachother alot and flirt too. Shes really cool and she drinks about every night give or take.Im sure she would try other drugs with me because she has had previous experience with them. BUT she has an ex boyfriend that she cant seem to let go of. saying that its 'complicated' and things of that matter. But after telling her that i liked her she said that she didnt know that i thought of her that way. shes really outspoken and doesnt give a flying fuck about what others thing..and i like that alot. She always seems to be breaking up with her ex and fighting. then getting back with him like its NBD.

Girl 3- Known her for about 9 months or so. She is also a coworker of mine and we have hungout alot and she is into drugs more then any of the 4 i think. She would love to roll and smoke weed and drink and anything else minus the harder stuff. Shes a party girl and is kinda just looking to have fun. BUT my friend has fooled around with her and we had this big blowout of an argument..the 3 of us. but for now everything is fine. We flirt and fool around at work but we get our shit done. We always find something fun to do. I know she likes me but after the fallout with my friend she doesnt really want anything with either of us.

Girl 4-Known her for a little over 2 months maybe less. Awesome blonde girl...coworker lol. my other coworkers have been saying she has a boyfriend but she hasnt told me otherwise. We talk alot at work and tease each other. We haven't hungout outside of work but that will change soon since she drinks. Idk if she does other drugs and am a little cautious as to whether or not i should expose myself with all the things ive done and see if she would want to do some with me. Anyways she seems pretty cool and i could see myself with her.

Yeah i know..the coworker trio is kinda crazy but they are all really down to earth and are all physically attractive and some have better personalities

i just kinda want more opinions on who i should be focusing on more.other then the ones friends are giving me cause they think im doing everything with all of them. when i havent even made a move on ANY of them lol.
 
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Well, first off, let me recommend that you find someone compatible, and not just a drug buddie to be using with (unless that's what you want)
I would say , go out on a few more 'dates' with them, get to know them ,get to know what they do , what they like.
See which of them gets your interest most. See which seems like the most reliable companion.

Just, remember, there are more than just these 4. Find someone who has similar interests, who likes to do some of the same stuff you do.(This makes a huge difference, I can't tell you how many times Ive been with someone who is a complete opposite from me, and it's not a bad thing, we just don't 'click' when it comes to relations and would've made better friends)

I would type more, but I'm so dog tired, Im sorry.
 
I would suggest staying away from the ones with a boyfriend. You don't wanna get involved in that mess. TRUST me.
 
oh to be young and in love! that's quite the list you go there. I would take it easy and recommend testing the waters (in a respectful way, of course). I'm sure you can agree with me that you are not in any sort of rush!

also, stay away from ANY girl that has a boyfriend. you don't want to be "that guy!"
 
yeah i get where your coming from...just wish she would ditch the chump that shes usually fighting with
but i digress.
i need to meet some new girls >.>
 
1 and 3 seem to be fine...but it's not up to you to "de-chump" a girl. I did that once...it was awkward whenever I saw the guy. Granted, he was verbally abusive and a 'tard, but it wasn't my place to break them up.
 
What would your intentions be with these girls?

In high school I would just juggle as many women as possible until the whole thing (inevitably) blew up in my face. That being said I would not recommend it unless you let them know there are other women in your life, or they never ask ; ). Enjoy your youth, meaningful relationships are a very important part of my life today, but at the same time you have to get out get some perspective before you make a choice, buyer beware, eh?
 
i could see me being in a LTR with 1/2/3
even though im pretty sure in friend zoned with them.
4 i kinda just want to get drunk with..hookup. yeah.
3 i really think i could try to work up a FWB type of thing since she doesnt really want a LTR
 
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