Originally posted by SIM-1
Ok i may have mis read Samadhi's post. She's said she may be insecure about doing it...(as i would be) But insecure about herself, Not the relationship. I didnt say people in this thread have been saying that & i didnt mean for it to sound like I was paying out on em. Like i said , Its interesting, & different. Its no ones call weather its wrong or right. That was just my opinion.... Guess i should keep em to myself...LOL
Oh gosh! I was in a fight and not even there!
only joking.
I read your post where you said you were sick of people thinking that if you're part of a successful 3some, you're part of a stable relationship...i didn't even realise it was directed at me! LOL
Having said that... i actually think that... BUT i also think that if you choose not to be involved with open relationships, your relationship can be just as, if not more, stable and secure... i'm certainly not one to think that only people who are in 3somes or whatever have trusting, stable relationships...not at all! I've actually found it offensive in some past threads where some members have alluded to the fact that those who aren't open to group sex or open relationship/polyamory (sp?) aren't enlightened or whatever. I completely disagree with those kinds of sentiments.
I guess i should have clarified... i was really just venting with that post, posting an opinion on why
I may or may not do it...perhaps better left to my journal? Basically what i was saying was that i think my issue with having a 3some with myself, Mr Samadhi and another female would be that tiny (very annoying and irrational) part of my mind that would be thinking that he may be into her more than me, or that she may develop feelings for Mr Samadhi. (it wouldn't be hard, he's hot, a lovely guy, and has an amazing cock
) Funnily enough, i'm much more open to the idea of 2 couples enjoying eachothers company. Not partner swapping, but same room sex, me ravishing the other girl with my mouth, hands, and anything else i can use, while our partners watch, that kind of thing..for me, having 2 couples would balance it out a bit more...
Another major concern both Mr S and I have is that the female in question may turn into a "single white female" kinda gal... We've had to deal with too may psycho friends in our relationship, and we'd be tentative to invite something potentially destructive into our lives.
There is another thread now, i believe you started SIM-1? Regarding the rules for a 3some? I've pretty much posted what i would and would not be happy with.
Originally posted by Strawberry_lovemuffin
I actually disagree with samadhi for the first time ever.... I don't think not being into threesomes has anything to do with personal insecurity. For some people, it's just not "them". And that's okay.
Oh no!!!
hehe, yeah, i think my post was mis-interpreted. I was basically posting
my reservations about a 3some (ffm). I believe that i may have the potential to become insecure within myself. Now that i think about it, while there is a small part of myself that may be insecure about me, my (and our) main concern is inviting a potentially negative situation into our lives. I just want to clarify again, that there are many reasons for not wanting to become involved in group sex... some (like me) may have issues regarding themselves that they have to deal with, some people don't like the idea of sharing their partner (also like Mr S & I... we're not interested in hetero partner-swapping at all), some just love 1 on 1 sex with their loved one... just enjoy life, love and sex any way you want! :D
Oh, i don't know if i'm even making sense anymore! All this talk about sex, my mind goes all mushy.
