Trigger Warning Small Vent: When you say you're good and get back "Don't be a pussy!"

[cautiousenjoyment]

Partying socially ever seem worth trouble than it's worth to you?

Made an uncommon break from my hermitage and went to a buddy's last night. Brought a little bit of party for myself, plus a bit to share. There's a new to me feller there, mostly alright, but he does two things constantly that ruin any enjoyment for me.

For the lesser of the two grievances, the main thing he wants to talk about is how much everyone can do/has done/wants, specifically bragging about how much he can handle. This always makes my inner parent want out for a lecture, but I get that that's a me problem and I'd be both killing the mood and wasting my breath. Figured I'd just leave a little sooner if the topic didn't change, but before too long number grievance number two starts.

Anyone here ever meet someone who is absolutely adamant about sharing their gear? I politely decline pretty much all offers. I'm stringent about limiting my fun, and anal retentive about testing what I use. There's only one buddy I'll take up an offer from because I know he tests too. It blew buddy's mind when I turned down one of the two absolute train tracks he'd put out.. Responses started with sales pitch "no serious it's the best shit you ever tried" to my post's title "what's the point in partying if you've gotta be a pussy about it" and even a guilt trip attempt "seriously if you don't take one I'm stuck doing both right now". That last bit of stupid was where I had to pack er in. Said my goodbyes and still gave a friendly 'nice to meet ya'.

Wasn't the absolute most aggressive person I've seen act like this. That honor goes to a young gentleman who actually jumped on a guy for saying his gear was shit... In fact other than the ego and weird pushiness, buddy was a friendly and happy guy. Great to talk to the few times the topic wasn't frat like... But it felt like if there was an equivalent to a keg stand he'd be hollering for it, just ruined my night. I did text the friend that invited me this morning, I'd rather not be there with the new guy on a gear night. Apparently the bragging got to more than just me.

Any thoughts on why buddy was so insistent? Pretty sure my age bracket is WELL passed the "cool" peer pressure stage. I might get it if he sold, but I know he doesn't.

Anyways, thanks to anyone who decided to read through my vent. Cheers and God bless!

 

[Vastness]

Ugh yeah no I can't answer your question about the why but obviously whatever it is, just gonna be some kinda psychological dysfunction basically. But nah don't be hanging around with people like that, that's concerning IMO. Just so not chill.

 

[Jnowhere]

Irish exit.

Don't pay attention too or ever give a shit about narcissistic people. With one exception.( unless they can kick your ass)

If you can make them look stupid; that is always fun.

 

[Ki3ly]

That seems like a cool party. But then eventually I just learn to party at ' home '. wink wink.


I guess because I can. And it's glorious. All I have to do is log out, sign out, shut down and restart later if I want.


Hopefully I can always be so joyous . .


I had to make the Font larger so that I was able to read all of that in a fraction of the time it would have took.


Like life takes and takes and takes. And sometimes it gives.



Cool Story Bro !!!!

 

[Ki3ly]

I suppose the moral of my story is that being said that the healthiest result would be without lol'ing too much or hard.

Is that.

Harm Reduction should be the Priority.

You do Great !!

 

[thujone]

ride or die, dude

come on pussy, ride or die

ROOF ROOF ROOF!!!

are you saying NO to the alpha dog?!

 

[Jnowhere]

Sounds like the alpha dog needs to be neutered.

 

[cautiousenjoyment]

Ugh yeah no I can't answer your question about the why but obviously whatever it is, just gonna be some kinda psychological dysfunction basically. But nah don't be hanging around with people like that, that's concerning IMO. Just so not chill.

Exactly my thoughts, and I was very thankful the host felt the same! The why of it just scratches my grey matter and I wish I had an insight...

Harm Reduction should be the Priority.

This is my single greatest focus, and it's been heartwarming seeing people with the same feeling all throughout this forum! As to partying alone, I'm a homesteader so most of the time that's exactly my MO. Occasionally though, I do find it nice to swap stories with friends over a half. Wouldn't consider it a party. Half dozen guys shooting the shit and playing battletoads and duck hunt.

 

[cnnka]

Lots of ppl also do that with alcohol I’ve been on the verge of hitting one guy in my best friends wedding he wanted that we drink the 500ml glass beer with one gulp

 

[cautiousenjoyment]

Lots of ppl also do that with alcohol I’ve been on the verge of hitting one guy in my best friends wedding he wanted that we drink the 500ml glass beer with one gulp

Yes sir! Fortunately the last time I encountered the frat boy mentality with booze was in my 30s. Thinking about it, I'm exceedingly thankful for that fact. Being legal and socially acceptable, the party animal booze hounds were always more brazen than when something required at least a base level discretion. Definitely an interesting comparison though!

 

[thujone]

interesting you say frat boy mentality, because i do think it serves as a sort of hazing for some people.

i don't trust anyone who doesn't drink is a common saying, which is valid in the sense that drinking together can serve as a pact - let's lower our inhibitions together and get to know each other, unfiltered.

circles/sessions (smoking) serve a similar social function, a means of lowering barriers to deepen bonds.

but i think if someone's getting aggressive about you having to take what they take then maybe that's the only way they know how to bond...