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Cohesion said:
Beachcat, no joke!

Wow. Early congrats :)

So much for "trying, maybe".
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I know! We decided we would try, then decided we were done. I was very ok with being done considering my daughter is pretty independent and our ages. This sure came as a shock....I recently lost over 50 pounds, I am sure I have that to thank for a boost in my fertility!
 
Animal Mother said:
Wtf? Your boyfriend LOOKS gay? that's DEF the problem lol. If I were grinding on you, and he came up, I'd just look at him with a big smile on my face and say "HIGH FIVE GAY FRIEND!"

So, what exactly does 'looks gay' look like. Clothes, style, haircut....makeup? Or does he just have an effeminate body and face...?
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Why is this a "WTF" moment? He cares about his looks, he's stylish. He has a boyish/young look. He doesn't wear makeup. He still looks like a guy. I only know he "looks gay" because tons of guys are like "huh??? you're straight??? but I thought you were gay" like legit, after we've hung out with people multiple times (and we are together quite often) .... they STILL think he's gay (until we confirm he isn't). Ah well. He is quite attractive. To both males and females.
 
It's a wtf moment, because I also care about my looks and style. I wear nice clothes, watch, shoes, hats, jewlery, and am in great shape. Nobody could call me unstylish. But I certainly don't look like, nor have I ever been mistaken for, a homosexual.

I've met guys that maintain that boyish look to their face well into their 30's, but I've never just assumed that they were gay based on that. It seems like you'd have to do several different things intentionally together to present a look that is borderline gay.

Does he wear Hollister or American Eagle or something? Tight clothes perhaps?


Kytnism, Glad I could make you smile.

Mustlord, thank you! Good luck with your bitch. Can I say it like that, or is that demeaning?
 
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So your daughter is about age 7? What do you mean "our ages"? How is she reacting to the news?

I got married this summer in India, and we will be having another but not right away. I have always thought the best time to have another child is ideally after the 1st one is old enough to help and be responsible- about age 7-8, during concrete operational stage and change of teeth. Usually they like to act like little mothers at this age too isn't it?
 
you got married? AWWWWWW WICKED! <3 where in India?
Cohesion said:
So your daughter is about age 7? What do you mean "our ages"? How is she reacting to the news?

I got married this summer in India, and we will be having another but not right away. I have always thought the best time to have another child is ideally after the 1st one is old enough to help and be responsible- about age 7-8, during concrete operational stage and change of teeth. Usually they like to act like little mothers at this age too isn't it?
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Weird, I use to have a problem with premature ejactulation back in the day, now I am a fucking stallion. I'll be lucky to cum after an hour. I guess it is because I don't do drugs anymore. When I did drugs, I would sometimes last a long time, but if I didn't have them, I would always bust a nut early from being overly sensetive.

But yeah our sex is fucking amazing right now. Gah. Even got some rope. She was bent over the bed the other day and I had her legs tied up and her hands behind her back. She slipped off the bed and ended up face first on the carpet. We both busted out laughing and she was like DONT STOP so I just kept fucking her with her face buried in the carpet.

good times.

im in love
 
I am simply tapping into basic developmental psychology in deciding the best time to have a child. There is no harm in making the most of a child's natural inclination to help and take care of babies.

I will lightly mention my personal belief that it is the parent's job to enforce certain responsibilities, caring for others, and selfless duty. I am all about fostering helping nature and interdependence. We are a partly Indian family so my outlook is different from the Western type families where children generally do not absorb some of the household responsibilities.
 
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Wow! Congrats on the wedding, Cohesion. That is really awesome. Where are y'all living now?

When I say "our ages" I just mean that my husband turned 50 today and I will be 38 by the time the baby is born. Yep, my daughter is 6 now, she will be 7 in two months.

I haven't told her yet...it is still early and I have been having a little bleeding so I will wait until after the ultrasound on Monday... I have been getting Hcg blood draws due to the bleeding and they are going up, but I have another one tomorrow to see if the trend continues....
 
soundsystem00 said:
Weird, I use to have a problem with premature ejactulation back in the day, now I am a fucking stallion. I'll be lucky to cum after an hour. I guess it is because I don't do drugs anymore. When I did drugs, I would sometimes last a long time, but if I didn't have them, I would always bust a nut early from being overly sensetive.

But yeah our sex is fucking amazing right now. Gah. Even got some rope. She was bent over the bed the other day and I had her legs tied up and her hands behind her back. She slipped off the bed and ended up face first on the carpet. We both busted out laughing and she was like DONT STOP so I just kept fucking her with her face buried in the carpet.

good times.

im in love
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Ah, way to go - get it buddy!
 
It teaches them to be responsible from an early age. They do need time to be a children, so not too much responsiblity, but simple housework and very simple tasks help teamwork and interpersonal skills, reducing tendencies towards apathy.
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Kids aren't unpaid labour.
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Cohesion - me? Just working on me...working on plans for teh 2nd half of the year. I shall post more when I have done what I plan to do, but what I've been doing is plenty of yoga, crystal work, delving into astrology more, taken acu-pressure AKA Marma AKA shiatsu points into my lifes work, and just started on the next stages of ayurveda and palmistry. All good things :) Also fixing my motorbike with my bro, which has taken a wee while :( - been good learning. Will PM!
 
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My relationship has been great lately. I seem to have overcome my insecurities sexually, and we've been having mind-blowing sex seemingly daily. Our fighting has leveled-off, and I've learned to apologize when I'm clearly the one causing the problems. She's super-supportive of me, despite the fact that I'm not really living up to my potential, and she's always there for me. We basically spend each day together, and have fun all the time, even if we're doing nothing. We just visited my parents for the second time, and my mother already asked me if a wedding was in the future. While it has only been 8 months, we've certainly considered it a possibility, and I hope one day that she's my wife and mother to my children. Never thought I'd say those words...
 
Awww Changed, that is so sweet, I'm very happy for you :)

My coworker got engaged a couple weeks ago. She's 24 and her boyfriend is like 28 or something but they've only been together for a year(ish). I mean, they're definitely old enough and all that. But she's been talking about getting engaged for like half a year before that and now she's been talking about weddings and marriage for the last two weeks. Anyway, I haven't talked about marriage much, in depth. I'm 22, my bf is 23, we live together and we've been dating for over three years. But now all this marriage talk at work has made me think about my life and marriage in my life. I don't even want to get engaged until I'm at least 25. Not that I care about people getting married young lol. But grrrr she talks about it so much, it forces me to think about it, I do not even want it anytime soon!
 
llama112 said:
Awww Changed, that is so sweet, I'm very happy for you :)

My coworker got engaged a couple weeks ago. She's 24 and her boyfriend is like 28 or something but they've only been together for a year(ish). I mean, they're definitely old enough and all that. But she's been talking about getting engaged for like half a year before that and now she's been talking about weddings and marriage for the last two weeks. Anyway, I haven't talked about marriage much, in depth. I'm 22, my bf is 23, we live together and we've been dating for over three years. But now all this marriage talk at work has made me think about my life and marriage in my life. I don't even want to get engaged until I'm at least 25. Not that I care about people getting married young lol. But grrrr she talks about it so much, it forces me to think about it, I do not even want it anytime soon!
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Ugh! I've been in your shoes lols. Two of my coworkers are already married and I'm the only one who isn't in our department. Now they are talking about babies and one of my coworkers is pregnant and she will be due next year Feb which means I have to take over her work wahhhhhh!!! lol
 
Cohesion said:
thank youuu :) We were married in Bangalore, but toured all over. Mumbai, Rishikesh, Pundag, Purulia, Ooty, Mysore. PM me for a photo.
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(!!!) Congratulations! I know you have wanted this forever, may you and your husband share much happiness together! <3 I would love to see a photo. I can be e-mailed through my profile; happy to send it or FB link to you as well.

I totally understand the nerves about the wedding thing. For a long time I liked the idea of getting married. My boyfriend is divorced and we have a lot to work through before we can consider it, most of this is related to money and the fact that he already has 2 kids that I love and who love me. I won't deny that I have a biological drive, though, especially now that I'm in my early 30s. He is 10 years older than me.

Re: kids being unpaid labor: LMFAO, you guys must not know the parents I know - probably half of my friends that are parents ask their kids to do NOTHING! The other half pay age-appropriate allowances and give extra privileges for reasonable chores. My biggest gripes about kids today (which makes me feel really, really old) is that they make TV and video games a priority over going out and climbing trees/playing sports/etc., and that most of them are fed sugary and processed crap. BF has 50/50 custody with his ex-wife. The kids outright refuse the healthy food in the house and 'hate all vegetables' - I was able to sneak in some kale into a homemade marinara, though, hehe.

Beachcat, congrats to you as well. There are advantages to being a bit older when having kids, usually you're more financially secure, more patient and more mature. My parents were 25 and 29. When I was 25, I worked 60-hour weeks and lived with an unemployed deadbeat; at 29, a serious relationship ended. Now I'm quite ready to be a stepparent, absolutely ready to be a foster or adoptive parent (particularly if I am single), and maybe a biological parent once I've had more time being sober. I've heard of women having an increase in fertility when they lose weight, good work on dropping those 50 lbs as well. :)

I guess wish us all luck? :) Being back with "recycled ex" has its own set of challenges. I'm glad we have reconciled. Time will tell.
 
Agreed! I think it's much better to have kids at a later age. I'm not done with enjoying a free kids life for now lols.
 
Mariposa said:
(!!!) Congratulations! I know you have wanted this forever, may you and your husband share much happiness together! <3 I would love to see a photo. I can be e-mailed through my profile; happy to send it or FB link to you as well.

I totally understand the nerves about the wedding thing. For a long time I liked the idea of getting married. My boyfriend is divorced and we have a lot to work through before we can consider it, most of this is related to money and the fact that he already has 2 kids that I love and who love me. I won't deny that I have a biological drive, though, especially now that I'm in my early 30s. He is 10 years older than me.

Re: kids being unpaid labor: LMFAO, you guys must not know the parents I know - probably half of my friends that are parents ask their kids to do NOTHING! The other half pay age-appropriate allowances and give extra privileges for reasonable chores. My biggest gripes about kids today (which makes me feel really, really old) is that they make TV and video games a priority over going out and climbing trees/playing sports/etc., and that most of them are fed sugary and processed crap. BF has 50/50 custody with his ex-wife. The kids outright refuse the healthy food in the house and 'hate all vegetables' - I was able to sneak in some kale into a homemade marinara, though, hehe.

Beachcat, congrats to you as well. There are advantages to being a bit older when having kids, usually you're more financially secure, more patient and more mature. My parents were 25 and 29. When I was 25, I worked 60-hour weeks and lived with an unemployed deadbeat; at 29, a serious relationship ended. Now I'm quite ready to be a stepparent, absolutely ready to be a foster or adoptive parent (particularly if I am single), and maybe a biological parent once I've had more time being sober. I've heard of women having an increase in fertility when they lose weight, good work on dropping those 50 lbs as well. :)

I guess wish us all luck? :) Being back with "recycled ex" has its own set of challenges. I'm glad we have reconciled. Time will tell.
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i wish you all the best of luck posa. <3

im conflicted a little as to what age is best to have your children. i had my daughter at 21, and while it was incredibly difficult at that age, so are all of the adultive transitions, new found responsibilities and transformations you are making. i love now in my almost mid thirties, having an almost teenage daughter who is also my closest friend as well as my child. im not too old to be "uncool" to her, and still young enough to keep up with trends and playing with her actively. in saying that though, id love to have another child at this age. you are so much more settled into your own skin, and lifestyle; and know what you want out of life. everything runs at a much cruisier pace than it did when i was in my 20's and would love to give myself wholely into the parenthood experience at this age.

its so nice reading everyones tales of love at the moment in this thread. it really warms my heart. <3


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