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Aww pagey....I tend to agree with model, kaywholed and B1t'O, but your mind is obviously made up, and this is something you need to do for yourself.

It will probably feel really good to stick it to him in some way at the time, but I imagine that this feeling will fade as time goes on. I think you should see him, but not take revenge in any tangible way...just show up looking smoking hot, dazzle him with your brilliant wit and intelligent conversation, have the best night ever....then kiss him on the cheek and simply walk away.

You will leave him probably pining for you for a long time, kicking himself for what he so foolishly lost. This, IMO is the best revenge. If you do something assholish, it will be easy for him to hate you and dismiss you from his thoughts. With this other way, you will have taken the high road, and you will leave him thinking about you and regretting what he did for a long time.

Lysis, where is your next WaaO meet up? Are you coming here???
 
^That's exactly what I plan to do, which is why I don't understand how anyone could think I'm being awful :?

Months ago I would have gone to much greater lengths to hurt him but as I've said, seeing as I really don't care about him much anymore, it'll simply be nice to show him what he's lost for one evening.
 
do on to others, as you would like others to do on to you.

Would you like this guy to get you worked up, and then tell you to fuck off, out of revenge/entertainment?
 
Cool. I don't think you are being awful at all....your reaction is completely normal and understandable. Honestly, I think for the most part we all really care about you and don't want him to hurt you further, that is all.

Just do your thing, girl...you know what you need to do. I want to be in on the outfit picking...
 
kaywholed said:
do on to others, as you would like others to do on to you.

Would you like this guy to get you worked up, and then tell you to fuck off, out of revenge/entertainment?
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The question makes no sense simply because I'd never find myself in his position :)
I'm not saying I don't fuck up in relationships as well and that I'm not a bitch sometiems or whatever - I think this has showed that I am - but I'd never be horrible to someone and cut them out of my life completely when they really need help and then just expect them to fall back into my lap when I suddenly contact them out of the blue over 6 months later. Not cool. I find it incredibly arrogant actually.
As I said. I'm not gonna do anything drastic, I'm just going to show up looking as good as I possibly can, not make it clear that I'm not interested, and act all shocked if he tries to make a move. It's not that big of a deal!


Beachcat said:
Cool. I don't think you are being awful at all....your reaction is completely normal and understandable. Honestly, I think for the most part we all really care about you and don't want him to hurt you further, that is all.

Just do your thing, girl...you know what you need to do. I want to be in on the outfit picking...
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Thank you <3
Hahaha I'll post pics before I go and you can help.
 
Beachcat said:
Aww pagey....I tend to agree with model, kaywholed and B1t'O, but your mind is obviously made up, and this is something you need to do for yourself.

It will probably feel really good to stick it to him in some way at the time, but I imagine that this feeling will fade as time goes on. I think you should see him, but not take revenge in any tangible way...just show up looking smoking hot, dazzle him with your brilliant wit and intelligent conversation, have the best night ever....then kiss him on the cheek and simply walk away.

You will leave him probably pining for you for a long time, kicking himself for what he so foolishly lost. This, IMO is the best revenge. If you do something assholish, it will be easy for him to hate you and dismiss you from his thoughts. With this other way, you will have taken the high road, and you will leave him thinking about you and regretting what he did for a long time.

Lysis, where is your next WaaO meet up? Are you coming here???
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Today but in charlotte
Are u saying we have a place to stay if we come to beach?
 
Pagey said:
The question makes no sense simply because I'd never find myself in his position :)
I'm not saying I don't fuck up in relationships as well and that I'm not a bitch sometiems or whatever - I think this has showed that I am - but I'd never be horrible to someone and cut them out of my life completely when they really need help and then just expect them to fall back into my lap when I suddenly contact them out of the blue over 6 months later. Not cool. I find it incredibly arrogant actually.
As I said. I'm not gonna do anything drastic, I'm just going to show up looking as good as I possibly can, not make it clear that I'm not interested, and act all shocked if he tries to make a move. It's not that big of a deal!
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It is irrelevant if you think you would never find yourself in such a situation. Being a decent person is about doing the right thing in any situation.

Imagine there is a boy you like, and he leads you on, with the prior plan to fuck with your head and leave you hanging. Doesn't feel nice eh?

He hurt you, so grow up and move on, don't try to get back at him.

When people fuck with my life I cut them out of it completely, trust me revenge is truly bitter, not sweet.
 
kaywholed I genuinely don't understand why you're taking this so seriously. It's not as if I had plans to ruin his life. He's gonna be sad for what, a day? A week maximum?

That being led on just for sex thing has happened to me and I've never blamed the guy. My fault if I wasn't perceptive or careful enough. And if I'd previously been horrible to him, well even more so. You gotta accept responsibility for your actions and learn to deal with the consequences. That's what 'growing up' means to me. Not letting yourself be walked all over.
 
just go with a hybrid of the plan I told you and the rest of the posters :P should be interesting. post results. :D
 
im with the old fock crew im sorry to announce, pagey. i understand your want to seek revenge; but the best revenge is to simply walk away from a toxic situation. let him stew in his own queries of "what if id have done things differently?" than point out all the flaws and give him uncause reason to later resent you unfairly.

whatever route you choose to take; we'll understand and support you regardlessly.

i just hope (as your friend announced) that you ARE truly happy enough with your current love interest to move forward from this and enjoy a healthy love life.

...kytnism...:|
 
Lustmord said:
I say fuck him, he's not even worth your time.
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And the time of the 10 other people participating in this discussion about him. IMO it alls seems a big fuzz about nothing.

(if this really must take so much energy and dicussion, well... maybe it's not nothing; but I am not the one to judge about this matter)
 
^Fair enough. Carry on ppl :)

Thanks kyt, the 'being resented unfairly' bit helped me understand what you & others mean. I'm still planning on meeting up with him I think, be it just to catch up, and tbh if he thinks that means we're getting back together it's his problem, not mine. Won't lead him on more than just agreeing to see each other, if that's even really leading him on :)
 
Well it's social, we'll talk if we want haha. Obviously we weren't forced to comment on it.

And Pagey, it's not leading him on per se, but it sounds to me like he is hopeful. I've been the guy that has fucked up, and having your ex that you still have feelings for agree to see you down the road is a pretty big deal. Why else would you agree to see him?

Now you can wreck him out of spite because he was a fucking asshole, sure. I just don't think that will help you any! It's fun to talk about because of those "fuckers" and how much you hate them because they hurt you, but my opinion is simply to share that time with someone worth it.
 
It seems that way doesn't it...yikes. Nah I fucking love the shit outta you, so I expect you to act better.
Pagey said:
B1tO, honestly, do you make it your mission to disagree with everything and anything I say on this forum?

No, it doesn't show he has a certain power over me, it shows I'm bored and entertained by the situation.
I wasn't asking whether or not I should take advantage of the situation but how to do so. Thus suggesting, I think, that there's no point in telling me not to do it because I'm going to.
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