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SLR Social vs. Hello Nurse

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sometimes chicks do ask out guys. I've had girls ask me to hangout, or go see a movie, etc. or they were like "oh I need to go pick this n this n this up, wanna come with me?'. dates don't necessarily mean something exotic as some people make them out. I can make a trip to Walmart a date.
 
I tend to ask guys out a lot cuz I'm not patient and I hate it when it's obvious something's gonna happen but he never finds the balls to ask me out. So I do it myself, so much easier that way.
 
Sepher said:
Hell yeah, like your style. Shibari is just beautiful done well, bondage raised to an art. I have zero talent for it and I have tried, could take a lifetime to master as you get more and more complex build. So horny, not a lot more erotic. Unfortunately for you I reckon Mrs G has got this in the bag, women tying other women up, it just works better doesn't it. ;)
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Dunno, Shibari is not my style tbh. It's more the 3rd chick's style, so we'll indulge her. I dislike Shibari. I'm all about pragmatic, and perhaps, the familiar? I like cuffs, zipcuffs, or just minimal rope required. I find Shibari is a circle jerk...it's a waste of time and effort, and it makes too hard to access the whole body and/or re-position them.

Ms.G is at a disadvantage I think tho. She is not nearly as good, imo, at written banter. Like, she doesn't seem to be able to write sexy, flirty or even overly lulzy texts/emails or in real time chat. So given the nature of this pick up, I think I have a better chance.
 
soundsystem00 said:
Ok so I got a date! And she asked! Out of nowhere.

She was like "so wanna get ihop Sunday?"

I remember my friend telling me that girls sometimes ask him out and was thinking "not possible! Why does that never happen to me?!"

And it did. Whoa.
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Yup... it happens! :P lol. Have fun though! Keep in mind that she's already initiated it sooo, if you like her, you should make sure that you ask her out on a second date :)

Pagey said:
I tend to ask guys out a lot cuz I'm not patient and I hate it when it's obvious something's gonna happen but he never finds the balls to ask me out. So I do it myself, so much easier that way.
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:D that's awesome! More people (guys and girls!) need to take the initiative and just go for it! :)
 
^^Ms. G sounds like a helluva woman man. Btw the Fourier animation on that AKautomatics tumblr was simply beautiful.
 
A lot of guys are intimidated by attractive women... Fear of being shot down hold them back. Then there is the whole "let 'em come to you" school of thought.
 
iheartthisthread said:
A lot of guys are intimidated by attractive women... Fear of being shot down hold them back. Then there is the whole "let 'em come to you" school of thought.
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Yeah, same with women and attractive guys, haha...it's a problem. Which is why I've decided to just go for it now, I can't be bothered with the waiting thing.

kaywholed said:
because losing friends sucks more than being alone.
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I meant when it was obvious something was gonna happen anyway. Otherwise yeah, it's more delicate ofc.
 
iheartthisthread said:
A lot of guys are intimidated by attractive women... Fear of being shot down hold them back. Then there is the whole "let 'em come to you" school of thought.
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It's not so much a "let 'em come to me" as it is do I really think I could hit it off with someone who doesn't have the balls to ask me out? I don't think I could. I don't think I'm scary or intimidating at all, and I'm not an asshole about it if someone asks me and I decline. I'm quiet and introverted unless I get to know someone, so two of us together would be no fun.

Plus, I have a 3 date minimum, although WAAO got me at 2.5. God dammit. I broke my own rule.
 
pagey, having women that have come up to me and ask get points for having balls...

Kaywholed, yeah, the friend thing could suck... Sometimes it works... Depends on how long you've been friends I suppose.
 
*sigh* women and their "rules"...

But you are right lysis, most women aren't going to bite your head off... I know this, but a lot of the younger guys here just seem to think that is what women do...
 
After pleasant first meeting with someone new, we exchanged numbers and I texted back:
Hey. Ok no problem [that she cannot do something tonight] See you soon [at the shared social place]. I liked our first meeting :). grt
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She must know what this means, right? Hopefully I clearly crossed the boarder of "being just friendly"? I will find out in a few days. Hopefully she got the hint and she plays along.
 
Well, I cannot speak for both. I suppose it's better to presume the best... I'll figure something out to make it obvious. Don't want to wait 3 weeks or something and get friend-zoned... I do want to avoid "you are beautiful, blablabla" or any kind of similar statements to make it obvious that I am interested. They always sound really lame imo, unless you are drunk, then it often seems the right thing to say :P
 
I don't know. I somehow guess that because the phrase "you are beautiful" is used 90% of the times by guys to get somebody into bed with as little effort as possible*. Somehow it has lost its sincerity. I rather compliment her on something she's good at (writing, music,..) which sounds less "cheap."

* Don't ask me how my expectations are different from this, because you know the answer ;)
 
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