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should the first time be special?

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who_can_say said:
My advice: picture yourself in 10 years time. Do you want to be regretting your first experience or do you want a little smile to start because it was something that had a little bit of meaning behind it?
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I dunno, the longer that passes since I lost my V-plates the less it matters too me.
That said, it was quite nice, if a little lustful.
We dated for a while, so it wasn't a one night stand.

Looking back, he was far from perfect.
The most important thing really is the here and now. I have a wonderful boyfriend, and previous guys don't even come close!
 
I lost my virginity to a good friend, and although we don't talk much any more, I'm glad it was with him. It was a rushed, stupid thing, but he was a good friend, we spent a year getting to know each other really well... and it just happened.

I don't regret it... somewhat wished I waited, but in the end... I'm just glad it was with a friend:)
 
My mother gave me the best advice I've heard on this issue: Wait until you absolutely can't keep yourself from doing it (that happened a little earlier in my life than she expected, I think). If you wait until you are so extremely horny that the guy is in danger of getting raped, then I think you will have a good first time. If you do it when you're only lukewarm, it will not be as good. The guy doesn't have to be special for the first time to be special - even though it does help a lot!
 
Make sure its with someone you really want to have sex with, I think your body will tell you when you're ready. I personally don't think that sex is a huge deal, my first time was special, but not that memorable. I don't regret anything about it, but looking back, I'm not crushed that it wasn't some mind-blowing experience. Everyone's different, but I'd at least make sure that you really want the guy.
 
My first time was in a bunk bed and her vagina was the hairiest I've ever seen to date. I was lucky because I came really fast but I was able to keep it hard and came again and she thought I was a real champ. She refused to believe me that she popped my cherry.

I remember thinking after I was done--"I should've done this a long time ago."
 
my first time was the night before i turned 18. it sucked, i just didn't want the stigma of being an 18 year old virgin. I could have done so much better.
Almost everyone i know who gave up their virginity "just because" regrets it. Waiting for someone you actually love is a beautiful thing. You only lose it once, make it worth you're while. I totally think it's awesome for girls who wait. don't give into the popular idea to fuck anything that moves that is unfortunately oh so popular with people 18-25.
My second time i had sex with someone i loved, it was absolutely amazing.
oh yeah one last bit of advice, some guys will pretend they love you just so they can "pop your cherry". maybe look for a quiet (shy/slightly geeky) guy who feels the exact same way that you do. don't rush it, watch the beauty unfold and savor the moments while attraction turns to love.
 
katmeow said:
I'm glad I waited for someone who mattered to me. I wasn't in love or anything, but it was special in its own way and being comfortable with someone I think helps a lot when it comes to your first sexual experience. It's not the hugest thing in the world, but I think it is nice to have good memories of the person you lose your virginity to.

:)
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I'm kind of in the same situation as katmeow and I completely agree. The biggest benefit is being comfortable, you have to decide if it's worth it.

It's kind of like tripping. To have the best experience on a consistent basis you want to optimize your set and setting. It's the same with sex. You could have an amazing trip in the most uncomfortable situation, but more often than not you will have a better experience when you are comfortable....either way it can be fun or it could suck...i find it to be fun more often than not....a lot more often
 
The first time you peed in the potty instead of in your Pampers, do you think that was "special?"

Or would it be more accurate to say that it was simply a necessary step in order to LEARN how to get good at something you're going to be doing regularly for the rest of your life?

Twenty years from now, you'll think about the first time you had sex approximately as often as you'll think about the first time you peed in the toilet.

I promise.
 
I've turned down multiple chances for sex because I didn't want it to be with some random.

different people have different values
 
I think all the guys in this thread are the ones saying not to over think it and just get it over with, but the ladies are the ones saying to make it special, makes me giggle =p

My first boyfriend and I tried to make it special.....we bought a vibrating cock ring, turned the black light on and some Daft Punk and did the dirty. I'm really happy I chose to wait til I found someone I loved, and I think I would've really regretted loosing my virginity to some random dude. Although, I'm not the promiscuous type, I have to really love a person to have sex with them. Just make sure that you aren't doing it because you feel pressured, that will just make it twice as awkward for you. Do what feels right.

I do have to agree with a lot of the responses in here though....sex is fun, and loosing your virginity is basically just like a stepping stone. Be safe =)
 
L O V E L I F E said:
Twenty years from now, you'll think about the first time you had sex approximately as often as you'll think about the first time you peed in the toilet.

I promise.
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Hmmm... Well I can't disagree with that statement yet as it hasn't been twenty years for me, only six... But I don't think that would happen for me, because my first time was 'special' and with a special person, so it's a memory I like to relive now and again. Then again I'm an extremely nostalgic person.
 
threelibras99 said:
I think all the guys in this thread are the ones saying not to over think it and just get it over with, but the ladies are the ones saying to make it special, makes me giggle =p
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I'm a guy still waiting to make it special. is that odd?
 
Jimboach said:
My first time was in a bunk bed and her vagina was the hairiest I've ever seen to date. I was lucky because I came really fast but I was able to keep it hard and came again and she thought I was a real champ. She refused to believe me that she popped my cherry.

I remember thinking after I was done--"I should've done this a long time ago."
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Nice story lol.
 
threelibras99 said:
No, it's beautiful
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way to reinforce my masculinity hehe. lol yeah.

naw, i think that in the end hopefully, waiting for waiting for love and romance with someone special will pay off.
 
Just say that you're not a virgin if you feel the social stigma. Its just a label, nothing significant.
I agree with the previous poster that you should wait til you can't wait anymore. Don't do it just to get something done and over with.
 
Judas said:
Just say that you're not a virgin if you feel the social stigma. Its just a label, nothing significant.
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I would think that feeling it's nothing signifigant would be the first indication that person is not the right one to lose it to.
 
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