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Should I Or Shouldnt I?

itsabirditsaplane

itsabirditsaplane

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My boyfriend says I Don't understand why he likes pills so much and blah blah blah. Well should I find out???? Im getting sick and tired of his bull shit about all this. So if he can do it whenever he wants why cant I. See I like my weed. I find it very satisfying! I don't do it all the time because I have a job and bills but when I do. I love it. never displeases me! I have been smoking for 13 years now and not as strong when I was in my teens but shit. If he can sneek behind my back and do what he wants. why cant I? yeah I know about the 2 wrongs don't make a right but one wrong don't make a right either! What should I do? I don't have an addictive personality at all. I just want to know what he is thinking since he wont let me in! So should I try doing opiates?
 
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No. You definitely should not. It's fun at first, but you can go down hill quick. Wish I never tried em.
 
You should talk to him about this and ask how he feels. then tell him how you feel, and work on reconciling both sides.

This "if he can do it, so can I" mentality is spiteful and is just going to get you dependant out of revenge. Is that what you want in your life, more resentment and debilitating addiction?

BDD -> TDS.
 
Venrak said:
You should talk to him about this and ask how he feels. then tell him how you feel, and work on reconciling both sides.

This "if he can do it, so can I" mentality is spiteful and is just going to get you dependant out of revenge. Is that what you want in your life, more resentment and debilitating addiction?

BDD -> TDS.
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true, and I know this. and I have tried to talk to him. but I do find my self getting irate. But he just keeps lying about it. So maybe if he seen if from the otherside. Seeing someone HE loves on this shit he would quit? because I don't understand his addiction no matter how hard I try. I read about it. and all that. But no matter what I do he will never see what I see unless I show him right? Honestly I couldn't see myself getting on them. I hate taking meds. period. even for headaches. I just wish he would smoke weed instead of putting this crazy shit in his system
 
Nope don't throw your life away. It's Absolutely addicting and hard to get off.
At first you'll enjoy them and want more and more. Then you'll be taking high amounts of pills just to get a high.
After that you'll be chasing a high you'll never get again.
 
Pills are a slippery slope. You may think you are in control...but they eventually control you. Is your boyfriend at the point of getting sick when he doesn't have them? If not, then h has a very good chance of beating the habit....but don't hold your breath.
 
with pills,they "lose"effect,and you need MORE and more to get the same effect.
it's a horrible addiction.
weed is my all purpose medicine instead of those fucking benzos or opiates.

do u love this person?
pills will ruin your life.
think.
 
manboychef said:
Pills are a slippery slope. You may think you are in control...but they eventually control you. Is your boyfriend at the point of getting sick when he doesn't have them? If not, then h has a very good chance of beating the habit....but don't hold your breath.
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um yes. he gets sick when he doesn't have them. I mean back when we started dating I did them like 4 times in total. mostally just for energy. not for the high. because weed was my high. u know. but then I got pregnant and I wanted to do things the right way. I just need to know how to help him. the right way. I mean it seems like me caring is really just pushing him away. should I just turn the other cheek and ignore that he is sneeking around doing pills or should I keep on with the questioning and asking him if he is high.
 
thedawn said:
with pills,they "lose"effect,and you need MORE and more to get the same effect.
it's a horrible addiction.
weed is my all purpose medicine instead of those fucking benzos or opiates.

do u love this person?
pills will ruin your life.
think.
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I mean I never seen a use for benzos or any opiates period. I have never been that person who would look for a high wherever I see put. I smoke weed. its always around and not addictive. ( to me.) but he loves weed to. I just wish he would just smoke weed instead of pills
 
itsabirditsaplane said:
is there a difference between doing pills for energy and doing them for a high?
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I would say doing pills (amphetamines) for energy is due wanting energy to work harder and stay up late to finish work but doing pills (opiates) for energy / a high is to escape from reallity and to feel happy, which woult implicate that there are problems one want to forget trough the high, but both are addictions
But that's just my opinion :)
I wish you all the best with your bf
 
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Opiates only "give me energy" if I am sick as fuck in withdrawal. Amphetamines give you energy. There might be a stimulating effect. It might be easier to do things you're not looking forward to. But that's it, at least for me. I've never railed a bunch of oxy then wanted to go out and get stuff done... Maybe that's my personal opinion, though. My girl gets super fidgety on opes and has to clean.
 
kleinerkiffer said:
I would say doing pills (amphetamines) for energy is due wanting energy to work harder and stay up late to finish work but doing pills (opiates) for energy / a high is to escape from reallity and to feel happy, which woult implicate that there are problems one want to forget trough the high, but both are addictions
But that's just my opinion :)
I wish you all the best with your bf
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yeah i think so too. i mean you hear about collage kids all the time popping pills to cram a late night study. but i didn't know if there was a difference or if it was just an excuse.
 
Opiates make me zip. I can understand that they give you energy. If he is at the stage that he gets sick,aka dependence, the best thing you can do is maybe talk about treatment. Opiate addiction is progressive and only gets worse unless you live a life of recovery.

My advice to you is decide how much you love/ are willing to invest in your relationship. If you are willing to do the work, go to an alanon meeting. You can learn a lot about codependency, and being the significant other of an addict. It is only a matter of time till jobs get lost, jail time is incurred, or promises get broken. Its a very hard road...but if you really care you will help him by not enabling him to use.
 
manboychef said:
Opiates make me zip. I can understand that they give you energy. If he is at the stage that he gets sick,aka dependence, the best thing you can do is maybe talk about treatment. Opiate addiction is progressive and only gets worse unless you live a life of recovery.

My advice to you is decide how much you love/ are willing to invest in your relationship. If you are willing to do the work, go to an alanon meeting. You can learn a lot about codependency, and being the significant other of an addict. It is only a matter of time till jobs get lost, jail time is incurred, or promises get broken. Its a very hard road...but if you really care you will help him by not enabling him to use.
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I think this is the best advice i have received yet so far. i never thought about going to a meeting. i will talk to him about it. i hope that he agrees. i know the first step to recovery is to admit that you have a problem. maybe i should start there. thanks man!
 
Don't play games with this shit. Getting back at him for using behind your back is counterproductive and could set you on a path to complete self destruction. Better just to leave him.. You've got more important things to worry about.
Opiates, especially in the contect of relationship like this, will ruin you life irreprepaply.
 
Using drugs for 'revenge' is a bad idea. It's passive aggressive and will only cause problems in your relationship.

itsabirditsaplane said:
My boyfriend says I Don't understand why he likes pills so much
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Sit him down and talk to him about it. Get him to tell you exactly why he likes pills so much. Don't accuse him or attack him, be patient, calm and understanding. Getting him to be open and honest about it makes him have to seriously think about his reasoning behind it too, essentially forcing him to face his addiction head on. Don't let him give vague answers and try to blow it off, because that won't benefit either of you, but don't push it to the point of an argument.
 
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