I do my best to get a woman to my house or her house.
I just say come by and watch a movie and drink beers. I sometimes might cook a woman dinner. I know that sounds cheesy but that works.
I do stuff like a walk in the park or coffee like Alladin said. I don't think a first date should require much money. You do not know how it is going to go so why spend a bunch of money to have a good time with someone who you might not enjoy spending time with?
I remember I took this rich chick to a movie and she wanted me to spend as much money as possible and I hated her as soon as she got mad when I used my student ID to get a discount. It got worse because she wanted to hit up the arcade games and damn she bought alot of snacks (well I ended up paying) for someone who said she was not hungry when I asked if I should grab some soda cans and candy bars. I dunno, I guess I would not want to date someone who does not sneak their own food into a movie theatre. After the movie she asked if I wanted to get some coke and I guess she wanted me to buy it. She suggested splitting an 8 ball but she did not have any money. She seemed really lame so I took her home. She told me she had a good time and wanted to see me again and I went in for a kiss and it did not go well. She still called me again and asked me to take her out to dinner which I politely declined. I guess she forgot about the date before or was just a serious bitch.
I have had friends spend over 100 dollars on dinner and have the date go terrible and I be like damn dude that sucks. I suppose I just invite a woman to hang out and just be a gentleman and stuff just happens. I did take a woman to the shooting range on a first date and that did not cost that much money in ammo. Maybe 30 bucks between the two of us. She seemed like she had the time of her life and yeah we dated for about a year so that is the most money I have spent on a date. (other than the movie theare thing)
I think half the work is getting her to your place or getting into her house. You are not that far from the bedroom if you are already in your house.
Just my two cents.
Thanks for the advice! Since we're both vegetarians I was thinking about taking her to the bar (Juice Bar) that is. I know a great place in the city to do this that has a really chill cafe vibe style where we can sit outside, talk and chill. Afterwards We'll take a walk around and get to know each other more. She has to catch a play later that night so I don't have much time with her. I have to leave anyway since I'll be racing tomorrow morning and need to prepare for that. I'll have more time to spend with her on our second date.
way to live in the moment, not overthink and not plan minutely.my hopes aren't high
alasdair
Ha! You have got to be kidding me. I have a busy schedule and laid out clear options like Friday, next Wednesday. Hell, I even said tomorrow Thursday. My line of work requires me to travel and shoot as I'm a DP for a small brand and work with clients on odd days. Often times schedules get changed. We'll be meeting this Friday after I let her know tomorrow I'll be able to make it out there around 3pm. I can't stop my projects to go on a date as they're already scheduled, I work around them. She didn't stop her play she's attending in the city to accommodate my schedule. I'm just saying we're both working to make this happen and I'm sure it will happen.
Question: Would you think it's best to just reach out again tonight and tell her Friday works or just save it for tomorrow?
maybe there's a lesson here?Ha! Well that would suck don't you think?
maybe there's a lesson here?
alasdair
Why would you offer to pick her up if you don't have a car?