Ok guys..here is further clarification on everything.
Like I said, I've only been in a relationship for 3 months prior to this one which is 10 months. I haven't spoke up or said anything because I haven't really known how to handle this situation (the fact that in her past relationships she has been in an abusive one, and also told that she cant do anything she wants to do etc etc) but what I have figured out is what to say.
I am going to start off by explaining to her that I do not want marriage yet if ever. I would like a child, but now...no. not until we are in a good perdicinent with money and such.
I'm going to tell her I love her, but i also feel trapped and suffocated. I'm going to tell her that I want to try and fix things and work on things. Possibly giving us a day or 2 a week to ourselves. Either so we can just have alone time, or time with our friends by ourselves.
I haven't been a good boyfriend by not communicating with her. I need to start doing this. I would like to be with her, but if the issues arent going to be fixed or worked on then no. So we shall see. I will keep everyone updated. The situation might play out quite ok though.