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Share something POSITIVE from your day!
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Captain.Heroin
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^ fresh, warm towels
shedder
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Well I drove my wife and kids to a small lake yesterday. The kids had so fun. There was a 3 stories huge tower ppl jumped off to the water. Yes, I was sober. 1.5 month and counting. It was a lovely day. For once, I can be proud of something at least.
Black Rabbit of Inle
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This is more positive for my week than my day but...
I've been managing to get at least 3 hours sleep every night for the last few days which is a huge improvement on what it has been. I feel refreshed
I've been managing to get at least 3 hours sleep every night for the last few days which is a huge improvement on what it has been. I feel refreshed
stardust.hero
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Have been out of work for a month but my at home business is starting to work. The money only equates to part time cash-flow but it makes me feel a whole lot better about being unemployed. 
spork
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^we gotta catch up soon!
My positive something for today was getting a good start to moving into my apartment. In a couple days I should be able to sleep there.
My positive something for today was getting a good start to moving into my apartment. In a couple days I should be able to sleep there.
stardust.hero
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I know I miss you
I want to visit the new appt!
I want to visit the new appt!
^ nice work
I feel pretty damn positive about myself and life today...
and i plan on getting something physical done early in the morning tomorow.
@SDHero thats great news.. very best of luck with the business.. nothing in the working world like working for yourself
EDIT: positive today is that im going to have a productive day
I feel pretty damn positive about myself and life today...
and i plan on getting something physical done early in the morning tomorow.
@SDHero thats great news.. very best of luck with the business.. nothing in the working world like working for yourself
EDIT: positive today is that im going to have a productive day
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stardust.hero
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Top five regrets of the dying
A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."
Because knowledge is power and the elders are the ones with the most information I plan to live by their wisdom and take their advice in making my life count in every way I possibly can. Dare to challenge the face of change!
A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."
Because knowledge is power and the elders are the ones with the most information I plan to live by their wisdom and take their advice in making my life count in every way I possibly can
. Dare to challenge the face of change!
Maya
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probably number one 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I'm pretty much the kind of girl who wants to make everyone happy first before thinking of myself including friends "sigh"
Something positive today: the cocktails i'll be drinking at lunch today :D
Something positive today: the cocktails i'll be drinking at lunch today :D
Been a good morning....I'm making a job change, going from waitressing to an actual office job. My wardrobe consists of jeans and hoodies, and I've been stressing about the clothing situation. My best girlfriends all got together and cleaned out their closets and hooked me UP! Cute professional stuff, I'm set.
Got home, checked the mail and found 140 dollar check that I wasn't even expecting.
Clothes and groceries.... score
Got home, checked the mail and found 140 dollar check that I wasn't even expecting.
Clothes and groceries.... score
Congrats on the career change Keiko:D About the check thing I have kinda a funny story.. I got pretty damn sick and over the course of a few years it broke my bank.. but I remember one time I got a check from the medical insurance people for a good decant amount of money.. I was this is great I new those bastards were overcharging or some such malarkey and I only realized the other day that I was most likely supposed to use that to pay some doctor for their well intended failure ( yeah I can rationalize this by the fact that about all the medical field did was suck me dry of cash, enable a very large opiat dependence, and also provided the literature I used to cure my self in three fuckin weeks, something there best and brightest couldn't do with with well over 300,000.00 dollars being paid out by me and my insurance) but cheers to groceries and clothes and mew paths in life
.. follow your heart and nothing else.
Positive about today.. problems problems.. shit but this is nothing new.. takes stock of all that needs to be done, split in into small pieces, break from the longest unlucky streak i've heard of season five and it time to finish up the last of this shit and start forming a really rewarding life again. so I guess perspective and after a two week hiatus ... back to the trenches.. so perspective and new beginnings.
people are responsible for their own damn delusions of hapiness
.. follow your heart and nothing else. Positive about today.. problems problems.. shit but this is nothing new.. takes stock of all that needs to be done, split in into small pieces, break from the longest unlucky streak i've heard of season five and it time to finish up the last of this shit and start forming a really rewarding life again. so I guess perspective and after a two week hiatus ... back to the trenches.. so perspective and new beginnings.
Black Rabbit of Inle
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Had a wonderful lunch with a friend and his mother, bought some books off her and the proceeds go to Breast Cancer Research. Lovely spring weather and a few drinks.
Also heading off to see some other friends tonight. Oh me, oh my, I'm a social little bunny today :D
Also heading off to see some other friends tonight. Oh me, oh my, I'm a social little bunny today :D
Just got back from a weeks holiday with my fantastic partner and children.
I've not been great of late and don't always travel well in that state, the stress, claustrophobia on the plane and being trapped in a holiday resort haven't been the best the last couple of times.
Me and Mrs A have had some counselling of late so are talking more productively so we decided to hire a motor home and tour the UK for a week.
It's been the bets holiday we have had in years ( I quote Mrs A and both the little As) I feel genuinely pleased with myself for managing to relax a little and join in with all the family stuff, not a crossed word between us the whole time.
This coupled with me feeling much better these last few weeks and work shaping up a bit has left me much more positive about life, I'm resolved to sorting out my weekly activity plan again, walking the dog and going to the gym at work. I managed to smash my leg to bits about 12 months ago, it's not right but I can now walk OK so I need to get a bit more active again, I managed a 5 mile walk along the coast and beach so it's holding up.
Love and best wished to all, I may not post here often but it's been a source of really important support for me when I didn't feel I had anyone to talk to
I've not been great of late and don't always travel well in that state, the stress, claustrophobia on the plane and being trapped in a holiday resort haven't been the best the last couple of times.
Me and Mrs A have had some counselling of late so are talking more productively so we decided to hire a motor home and tour the UK for a week.
It's been the bets holiday we have had in years ( I quote Mrs A and both the little As) I feel genuinely pleased with myself for managing to relax a little and join in with all the family stuff, not a crossed word between us the whole time.
This coupled with me feeling much better these last few weeks and work shaping up a bit has left me much more positive about life, I'm resolved to sorting out my weekly activity plan again, walking the dog and going to the gym at work. I managed to smash my leg to bits about 12 months ago, it's not right but I can now walk OK so I need to get a bit more active again, I managed a 5 mile walk along the coast and beach so it's holding up.
Love and best wished to all, I may not post here often but it's been a source of really important support for me when I didn't feel I had anyone to talk to
Mysterie
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i had a really fun time at my friends house and had some good deep happy conversations about life with another friend which is pretty unusual for me
i always find that you become closer to people as you open up to them and they learn more about your true nature but at the same time make an effort to show you like them
i always find that you become closer to people as you open up to them and they learn more about your true nature but at the same time make an effort to show you like them
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