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Dcshark

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I met a woman at work, vibrate, sexy, very beautiful. She is single, three teenage kids. At first we had sex every chance we got. We couldnt get enough, had sex everywhere, sessions lasted for hours.
I moved in with her, and its boring, non existing. Last weekend she said she didnt want to make noise in fear of kids hearing, put she wont close bedroom door. She gets on her phone in the bathroom nearly every night until midnight, and when she comes to bed she falls asleep fast. I am blue balled. I love her and her kids. I am frustrated and getting to the point I am looking at other women when I really dont want anyone else I want her
 
I've been going through the meeting other women, enjoying it, but it not being the person I was with for nearly 3 years.

Those feelings will die with time, until they are just a distant memory.

One of the sad facts of love when we have to move on.
 
pofacedhoe said:
tell her this not us would be my first suggestion
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Exactly. Dialogue is the first thing you should try and it's essential for any relationship.
Romances too focused on sex first and more than usual tends to be more temporary IMO, as the couple jumps the getting to know each other part. I'm not saying this is the case. Try talking to her before jumping to conclusions.

Good luck!
 
Here's the thing: It was fun and exciting for her at work. That was her place to get away from her brats and have a fling. Now that you're living together, it's not a fantasy anymore and the kids are involved. Moving in killed the whole thing for her. That's just my guess...

Wanted to add that her saying "We're good" is not good enough. I would get down to the bottom of it and really tell her how you feel. Also ask about those late night phone calls. That's very shady. I'm sorry, but I would be seriously considering moving out.
 
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Any way you guys can get a sitter at least once a week and go out, have a good time together, and then have great sex? Maybe do like a date night or something where it's just the two of you.
 
It is natural for that to happen in a long term relationship.

Sometimes people drift apart because of it, and sometimes people find a way to enrich their sex lives outside of the primary relationship.

The latter option is more common than most people would like to believe in my opinion.
 
I did this to my ex husband... I stopped having sex with him and this is totally crazy... but we hadn't had sex for a year BEFORE we got married!! We ended up in separate bedrooms and I used my insomnia as a reason for that one. I just thought wasn't sexually attracted to him and instead of working on it and communicating about , it I think I really really hurt him with the constant rejection. He finally stopped asking but always made jokes about how gross sex was and his he wouldn't want to have sex. I realize now that was his way of processing his rejection , by turning it into self depricating humor.
It is a very bad sign and I wish I had handled it so much differently.
There were other factors that caused issues and created a distance between us, but once the sex was gone it was a domino effect , one thing after another
And in retrospect I know I was to blame for most of it...and I probably really hurt him with that rejection but it was red herring for sure!! There usually IS a reason why sex isn't happening and her downplaying it seems a little less then honest

Sure people have dry spells and life gets in the way, but a continued period of less intamacy and no sex will only becone normal to both of you I always thought the idea of needing sex was so "base". But that was me trying to rationalize my behavior , you do need intimacy ! Wether it be sex or cuddling making out staying up late talking, if one person is backing away from that I would really suggest you try to confront it There is prob a reason for her not wanting sex. I hate to say that
 
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