TacototheCloud
Greenlighter
Lola - Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree that I need to back off and stop bringing the issue up to him, as it's only adding more stress to the situation.
He initiated sex last night and it was incredible, so I don't think he has a complex about me being a mother; in fact he couldn't wait to pounce on me after I gave birth to our daughter (we did not wait the recommended 6 weeks to have sex after she was born- we only waited 2.5 weeks - I felt completely healed by then). Nonetheless I will try to focus my energy on other things like exercise. I have an awesome vibrator, that I do use on occasion when he doesn't want to have sex. I can achieve orgasm with it and just by using my hand... but let's face it, it's nowhere near the same as having sex with a partner. My need and want to have physical intimacy with my partner isn't just about getting off... in fact that's the least important part. Its about having that deep connection with someone - a connection you don't have with anyone else
He initiated sex last night and it was incredible, so I don't think he has a complex about me being a mother; in fact he couldn't wait to pounce on me after I gave birth to our daughter (we did not wait the recommended 6 weeks to have sex after she was born- we only waited 2.5 weeks - I felt completely healed by then). Nonetheless I will try to focus my energy on other things like exercise. I have an awesome vibrator, that I do use on occasion when he doesn't want to have sex. I can achieve orgasm with it and just by using my hand... but let's face it, it's nowhere near the same as having sex with a partner. My need and want to have physical intimacy with my partner isn't just about getting off... in fact that's the least important part. Its about having that deep connection with someone - a connection you don't have with anyone else
