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BlueSaffron

BlueSaffron

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So, I kind of can't believe I'm posting this, but whatever - I'm going to because it's been bugging me.

Basically, I feel like I'm a pretty sexually confident girl - I love sex and think it's beautiful when you're in love and can be pretty fantastic even when you're not. I'm open to trying almost anything, I love anal, and I love giving head. None of those things are an issue for me. But.. I'm seeing this guy, it's more of a friends with benefits thing although i care about him and vice versa. He's amazing in bed and I love being with him.


One time, I was on my knees going down on him and he said "don't forget the balls, baby". I kissed and licked and sucked them, and I liked doing it, but... in the back of my mind, I was thinking "Is he going to think less of me for doing this?" And it kind of took some of the enjoyment out of it. I've seen him plenty of times since then, and he hasn't asked me to do it again. I want to do it, because I like doing things to please him, and also because I just liked doing it :) But in the back of my mind is just this thing - he's going to think less of me. He's going to be grossed out afterwards that I did it.

I don't think this about anything else - about talking dirty, begging him to fuck me, doing anal, him calling me his little fucktoy. Everything's all good.. except for this.

So my question is to the guys here - and please give me an honest answer - would you be kind of grossed out if your gf/fwb did that? Would you think less of her? Am I just tripping or do I have reasons to be feeling what I'm feeling?
 
i dont see the big deal, ur trippin a bit

you shouldnt worry too much about what other ppl think of you
 
If a girl decides to attack my taint like a bowl of pudding I might have reservations what else she puts in her mouth, however your boyfriend seems more than receptive to ball licking so I'm guessing he wouldn't think any less of you.
 
Hmmm... I consider paying attention to the balls as part of any good blowjob. I do it every time. Obviously he is in to it...I wouldn't think too much about it if I were you...
 
Have you done this with other lovers in the past? I'm guessing not...

That's probably what it is, you just have to haze the awkwardness out of your head. It gives him pleasure, you aren't physically grossed out by it. That's the essence of sex right there. Any people who would judge you for doing this aren't worth your time. Good sex is animalistic and animals aren't going to care about this kind of judgement. They will dive in head-first.
 
mate any man in the right mind would be buzzin his head off because you did that dont be stressing yaself over it i can honestly say your over thinking this way way too much lol no offence
 
RedLeader said:
Have you done this with other lovers in the past? I'm guessing not...

That's probably what it is, you just have to haze the awkwardness out of your head. It gives him pleasure, you aren't physically grossed out by it. That's the essence of sex right there. Any people who would judge you for doing this aren't worth your time. Good sex is animalistic and animals aren't going to care about this kind of judgement. They will dive in head-first.
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Maybe that's it - I never did it for anyone else before, I never wanted to. Somehow it was just different with him, he made me want to do it. :)

Thanks for the replies guys. I'll try not to overthink it next time I see him. %)
 
It's so funny to see what people get hung up on with sex. To me, that's part of what sex is; a large part being you are putting yourself out there completely, with humility, for your partner's enjoyment. As RedLeader said recently in another thread, and I'm paraphrasing a little, your sexual willingness in the bedroom is a barometer of your willingness and character throughout every other part of your relationship. Furthermore, your own degradation -- if you really even want to call it that (I wouldn't) -- for his enjoyment is an act of accepting him as someone you really like and care for. Like an act of generosity that says, "I will do anything for you to make you happy." He should feel that way on the opposite end as well; if you want to make him feel good, he'll love you for it, and vice versa.

I understand that you're not in a relationship with him...but I think any dude would tend to agree, "YEAH, YOU'RE DOIN' IT RIGHT!"
 
If the man thinks the less of you because you did a sex act for him that he asked for, well you're better off without him.
This is a double standard.
Think of Robert de Niro in his mafioso role telling the psych that he goes to hookers for blowjobs because he doesn't want the lips that kiss his children to be the same lips that kiss his cock.
Like not okay.
 
the area beside the balls/dick inside the leg before the perineum is one that at lot of people dont realise is super sensitive (i always lick/suck this gently to any dude and they go mental)- there is a tiny area at the back of the balls thats really sensitive down the midline fracture (lol).

insider tips
 
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