DeathDomokun
Ex-Bluelighter
Okay, well the closest person I have to a friend was sexually assaulted.
I don't know the specifics, but she was at a park and saw somebody she used to go to HS with.
Apparently this kid has some sort of mental problems, and there had been some 'creepy' hearsay involving him.
From what I know he asked her some (I assume strange) questions and forced her to whisper he replies, becoming angry if she spoke louder. He told her she had pretty hair and then he asked her to do some stuff to him (like kiss and hug him) and then asked if he asked if he could touch her legs.
She was nervous and scared and felt weird, so at first she tried to be friendly because she didn't know what else to do. She feared what he might do if she just tried to leave or was stern/firm, so she just went along with things for a little bit. Eventually she'd had enough, and he kissed her before she got up and said she was leaving.
When she left he said he'd miss her and that he'll see her around (which makes me think he might not have seen what he was doing as wrong, but that's literally all I know so he could have done it in a much more sinister fashion to what I imagine), as they live in the same neighborhood.
Now if I lived in the US/with her I'd be having a little word with this person, but I don't.
As nice as it is to avenge someone, that's not my concern.
I'm not sure how much worth the (little of the) story is, so I thought I'd include what I know.
She already had anxiety and self-esteem/self-worth, well she has an issue with self-loathing as well as some pretty serious self-harm (although she has only recently started (before the incident, although I'm sure it will only increase the incidences) after over a year hiatus, so she is able to stop for some time)
After finding out, I sent her this (some other people had been trying to tell her how she should feel):
I’m not going to tell you what to think, and I’m not going to tell you how to feel. I will however say that every emotion you experience is yours, and every reaction is subjective. The fact that you experience an emotion validates that emotion. (she looks for validation to others, and was undermining herself because other people have worse experiences) If you want to examine that emotion to see if it conforms to other reactions, that’s good.
Ruminate all you like to come to a reasonable conclusion, but please don’t do it in a self-loathing way.
I know I can’t change whether you do or not, but I enjoy your company.
I’m sorry this happened to you.
Don’t ever feel like you deserved this. Especially if it originates from feeling like you have less worth, that sensitivity is some sort of negation, like your feelings aren’t valid because of social indoctrination and a warped perception.
I think you’re great.
I try to be supportive, and will continue to do so, but is there anything else I can do?
I don't know the specifics, but she was at a park and saw somebody she used to go to HS with.
Apparently this kid has some sort of mental problems, and there had been some 'creepy' hearsay involving him.
From what I know he asked her some (I assume strange) questions and forced her to whisper he replies, becoming angry if she spoke louder. He told her she had pretty hair and then he asked her to do some stuff to him (like kiss and hug him) and then asked if he asked if he could touch her legs.
She was nervous and scared and felt weird, so at first she tried to be friendly because she didn't know what else to do. She feared what he might do if she just tried to leave or was stern/firm, so she just went along with things for a little bit. Eventually she'd had enough, and he kissed her before she got up and said she was leaving.
When she left he said he'd miss her and that he'll see her around (which makes me think he might not have seen what he was doing as wrong, but that's literally all I know so he could have done it in a much more sinister fashion to what I imagine), as they live in the same neighborhood.
Now if I lived in the US/with her I'd be having a little word with this person, but I don't.
As nice as it is to avenge someone, that's not my concern.
I'm not sure how much worth the (little of the) story is, so I thought I'd include what I know.
She already had anxiety and self-esteem/self-worth, well she has an issue with self-loathing as well as some pretty serious self-harm (although she has only recently started (before the incident, although I'm sure it will only increase the incidences) after over a year hiatus, so she is able to stop for some time)
After finding out, I sent her this (some other people had been trying to tell her how she should feel):
I’m not going to tell you what to think, and I’m not going to tell you how to feel. I will however say that every emotion you experience is yours, and every reaction is subjective. The fact that you experience an emotion validates that emotion. (she looks for validation to others, and was undermining herself because other people have worse experiences) If you want to examine that emotion to see if it conforms to other reactions, that’s good.
Ruminate all you like to come to a reasonable conclusion, but please don’t do it in a self-loathing way.
I know I can’t change whether you do or not, but I enjoy your company.
I’m sorry this happened to you.
Don’t ever feel like you deserved this. Especially if it originates from feeling like you have less worth, that sensitivity is some sort of negation, like your feelings aren’t valid because of social indoctrination and a warped perception.
I think you’re great.
I try to be supportive, and will continue to do so, but is there anything else I can do?
