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-Kitten

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Meh, I for one never thought I would even consider such thing. Anywho just three questions....:

1. What do you think about it?
2. Can it last?!
3. How the hell do you survive being with someone you are insanely attracted too but have no sex or very little sex?
 
-Kitten said:
Meh, I for one never thought I would even consider such thing. Anywho just three questions....:

1. What do you think about it?
2. Can it last?!
3. How the hell do you survive being with someone you are insanely attracted too but have no sex or very little sex?
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1. While lots of people do this, I never could.
2. Nope.
3. No idea.
 
It's not up to me... it's up to his dick sadly. It took me months to understand it isn't me but he truely has a issue. His idea is our realtionship will be something like this:

Cuddles and hugs.
Kissing.
Carressing.
Him touching me and me touching him.
Sucking etc.
Him jacking off.......
Everything but intercourse.

To be this will be losing all our Passion ( or me losing it all... :( ), I won't even want him to touch me, kiss me, after a while like ( a week?) bc I don't want to get all having a lost hope of maybe having sex. I love him. So i said fine... but it took me along time to agree but, when we do have sex he can't stay up and won't cum, it's been like this all his life he doesn't know why niether do the docs.

I'm not sure if I would handle this....It would feel like being a young teenager... doing everything but real sex. I can't cheat on him i adore him... I went through MONTHS of up and downs with him, as some of you may have read past posts you might know. We fixed a lot of things but sex will never be fixed.

Theres no point to have it if he gets nothing and won't stay hard after a bit.

All that ^^then the fact that I'm most frustrated about is that while I'm dying of not frustration but a desire for his body he will just not give a damn and be able to jack off with his little porno while i sit aside recieving jack shit.
 
1. I think it is a good option for people under strict parents, trying to avoid pregnancy or have religious views that are against pre-marital sex.

2. I believe it can last longer than relationships with sex.

3. No sex and very little sex are completely different. No sex would really be determined by if both parties are virgins or not. If the boy has had sex with 20+ girls and the girl is still a virgin, then I could see "no sex" becoming a problem very quickly.

I've had plenty of friends who had sexless relationships due to religious beliefs and they lasted 4+ years even until marriage.
 
couldn't do it. had a (mostly) sexless relationship, and it wasn't so much the physical frustration as the bitterness and loss of intimacy that really sucked the life out of us. you're young, and this isn't a need that's just going to go away.
 
-Kitten said:
Meh yeah but so am I....
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If only you were =/

Ok, bad time for humor. I wouldn’t be able to do it though. Is this something he is willing to work on or has he just decided this is how it’s going to be and you just have to deal with it?
 
double ewe said:
couldn't do it. had a (mostly) sexless relationship, and it wasn't so much the physical frustration as the bitterness and loss of intimacy that really sucked the life out of us. you're young, and this isn't a need that's just going to go away.
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Yeah that's the issue... its the loss of the intimacy and the passion thats going to make me go nuts.


LuGoJ said:
If only you were =/

Ok, bad time for humor. I wouldn’t be able to do it though. Is this something he is willing to work on or has he just decided this is how it’s going to be and you just have to deal with it?
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He is my fiance, sometimes it will be okay and we kinda fix his issue but it will always be coming back. He worked his whole life to fix it, just not gonna work I suppose. So at the end a sexless relationship is better obviously... for me that way I don't have to rethink weather it's my fault or not and for him not to hate him self for something that isn't his fault.
 
Hes got some issues & only you & him know what the deal is.............sexless relationships do occur but are few & far between........usually with older couples. It seems he loves watching porn & jacking off too much, am I right? When I am in a relationship, the last thing I do is watch porn, but thats just me............

Maybe thing will get better...........good luck!
 
TheLostBoys said:
Hes got some issues & only you & him know what the deal is.............sexless relationships do occur but are few & far between........usually with older couples. It seems he loves watching porn & jacking off too much, am I right? When I am in a relationship, the last thing I do is watch porn, but thats just me............

Maybe thing will get better...........good luck!
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Before he jacked offand watched porn every chance he could i think. by the looks of it right before we would have sex he would jack off. look at porn on his phone in the bathroom im guessing. idk if he still does this a lot of times he says know but its obvious he has... he is the only guy i know who does that..or did it...idk. most guys try to fuck first.. not jack off but he told methis is how he used to do it... probs still does.
 
Sounds like the first thing that needs to happen is for this guy to lay off the porn. Also, beating off before sex is probably a performance anxiety thing.
 
why doesn't he get some cialis or viagra... sure to make him hard enough to fuck you
 
1. What do you think about it?
Fine if you're into it
2. Can it last?!
Yes.
3. How the hell do you survive being with someone you are insanely attracted too but have no sex or very little sex?
personaly If I was romantically entangled with an asexual person I'd sit down and explain that I need to tag some game every blue moon. take it from there.
 
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