Had a bad break up with my ex wife. Caught her cheating. I'm now in a relationship for almost 3 years with another woman. But when I'm having sex with my girlfriend I only think of my ex wife to climax. Even though my girlfriend is a lot better in bed than my ex wife. I think visually I'm more attracted to my ex wife.
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Sex with girlfriend but Im thinking of my ex wife
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Notsoprettyinpink
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Usually I wouldn't say this because I'd hate to think my husband is thinking of an ex while with me yet I can honestly say that if, God forbid, we ever broke up I'd be thinking about him IF it were to happen and IF I was with another man. Coming from a woman's stand point I honestly think I'd be the same as you.Thx for your message.
I really don't like to think of my ex but I just can't help it. I don't think it's fair on my girlfriend because I do love her. I feel really shallow also because it's a visual thing. My ex wife is more attractive than my girlfriend but that's it. I would NEVER want to get back with her.Notsoprettyinpink
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WOW. What you just wrote amazes me because it's the EXACT opposite for me but so very relatable. In my early 20's I had become so sick of attractive men either abusing me or cheating on me. I then met a man (while still in an abusive relationship for a few years) who wasn't very attractive but treated me SO good that his appearance didn't matter. He proposed to me a month after we met and I accepted.
10 years later I began thinking, "this isn't right. It's not fair to him"....I asked for a divorce.
I then met my current husband (drop dead gorgeous, amazing body, years younger then me)....he's now the one not treating me right (I'll spare you the details but it's not cheating and I know he never would) yet his charming ways (at times) and appearance keep me. He's by far the most attractive man I've been with. Yet if I went back to "looks don't matter, only a kind heart does (which is how I think we both know it should be)"...I'm positive, actually, that I'd be thinking of him if I were ever with another.
I'm sorry for the lengthy message back but I learned something about myself through your thread and message back and it's making me feel very shallow because my ex husband would give anything to have me back and treated me like a queen.