dognasher
Bluelighter
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- Jun 27, 2013
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I agree with the above poster - if somebody is having sex with somebody besides you, it means they aren't serious about and they don't intend to be.
I think as women we are raised to not speak about what we want from a relationship for fear of "scaring" a potential partner away, or appearing needy. It's that whole "don't act like you NEED a man thing". I really think in the early stages of a relationship communication is so very key so both parties understand expectations.
Hopefully next time you will see that you are worth somebody being devoted to YOU and only YOU and you can tell them EXACTLY what you expect so it doesn't end terribly. I hope everything works out for you. I've been on both sides of this and it's never fun - when I met my partner I was crystal clear about what I wanted and that set the tone for our relationship, and we've never had any problems in this area. It was the first time I spoke up in the early stages of a relationship and it paid off!
I think as women we are raised to not speak about what we want from a relationship for fear of "scaring" a potential partner away, or appearing needy. It's that whole "don't act like you NEED a man thing". I really think in the early stages of a relationship communication is so very key so both parties understand expectations.
Hopefully next time you will see that you are worth somebody being devoted to YOU and only YOU and you can tell them EXACTLY what you expect so it doesn't end terribly. I hope everything works out for you. I've been on both sides of this and it's never fun - when I met my partner I was crystal clear about what I wanted and that set the tone for our relationship, and we've never had any problems in this area. It was the first time I spoke up in the early stages of a relationship and it paid off!