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Saying goodbye

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Bare_head

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So is there any reason to say goodbye to and loved ones relatives? Is if best to write a letter.explaining it all and leaving it, or simply up and leave? I don't feel like I should be in this environment anymore and I really want to start a fresh with no one I know, ne one that has done this can u tell me your story, how it went, where you are now?
 
probably best to say goodbye in person, give them a hug, tell them where your going, how you can be reached, why your leaving.

i think that is only courteous. otherwise it would have them feeling abandoned potentially.

next best thing would be a letter, but that seems strange to me.
 
I don't really know your life, but in my experience cutting people out wholesale is a mistake. The reason being that you might need them someday, and only the forgiving ones will take you back.

On the other hand, if you're wanting a radical change, then I've found that telling everyone is a big mistake... because people will naturally want to relate to you as the same old person, as part of their comfort zone. They might try to hold you in place.

So... it's best to figure out which people might be the most supportive of your desire to break free, and tell them. They can inform the others who don't know, if it comes up. You'll want the most understanding people as allies anyway. The others will just question you and make you doubt yourself.

But saying nothing to everyone? Kind of crummy for them.
 
You should at least let someone know you are leaving so they know you are not in need of help. Besides you don't want the police looking for you and the issues that can cause anyway.
 
The only people I want to know us my mum, that's it..

I mean I have been thinking of ending it all but I feel just going might help me
 
By all means try someplace else before you decide you have to die to change the life you are living. But I worry about someone that is feeling that low going off into a whole new place where there is no support system. Do you have any ideas about what you will do or where specifically you want to go? Telling your mum seems a very good idea. Stay in touch with her if you do go. Remember, whatever you have made of your life so far is only so far! You can stay in one place or travel the world but you take your thought patterns and entrenched ways of thinking with you unless you determine to change them. It takes stamina, but the rewards are great.<3

If you ever want to PM me about anything at all, please don't hesitate.
 
I am really bad at saying goodbyes and I would usually just disconnect from them and then talk to them after I have settled, it was much easier that way cause I hate to do a lot of explaining and if I wasn't ready to explain to them or feel comfortable then I just leave it be for some time. Most of my relatives are not over dramatic and it is understandable for them that I have my own life to live.
 
Speaking from the POV of someone who ran away from home after my husband died, if you don't fix your issues, they will just follow you to the new place.

You can't have a fresh start with old problems.
 
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