I work ten 10rhs a day 5 days a week...get off at 9....take care of my daughter (toddler) and wait until tomorrow to do the same...but is it fair for my boyfriend to have all the fun while i gotta do this every day...and on top of that he aint got a job or any kind of hobby to keep him occupied...i mean is been 3 years that we been togther....Our relationship went from best to worse to better....Sometimes i just feel like be done with it cuz all we doing is hurting each other and our relationship (even when trying to be friends) its not going anywhere further than this....I keep giving time and time and time...and it gets to some points that i just cant handle all the stress and its just makes me wanna say f**k this and dissappear...And the crazy thing is im 21 and he 30...hmmm....yeap....cant get any better..right?
"yeap....cant get any better..right? "
WRONG:
If no child was involved I might be inclined to say “cut your losses and leave", but seriously I think you need to try and sort it out. I’m not saying put up with his shit forever, but give it all you can. You owe it yourself and to your little princess.
Have you discussed it with him, and I mean discussed, not argued.
Most, MOST, guys are fairly bad at opening up. And I reckon that he would be feeling pretty shitty about not being able to support his family (no job, etc). It wouldn't surprise me if a bit of depression was going around. Perhaps both you and him.
My advice is, if you can afford it, get some counselling. One on one and together. Sounds like you both might need a non bias person to vent to and try to fix the big things.
Also DONT SWEAT THE LITTHE THINGS. No one is perfect. Sometimes compromise is the BEST solution.
If you want someone to chat to and you see me online feel free to hit me up.
I’ve been in a similar situation and have managed to work through it. Guys just don’t look at things the same as chicks do. Until my girl came to me I didn't even know she was unhappy.
Anyway enough rambling. Hope you can sort it out and things get better.
PS: not knowing the full story I hope I didn't sound too arrogant. I just think that if you love someone it is worth really giving it a shot.
WRONG:
If no child was involved I might be inclined to say “cut your losses and leave", but seriously I think you need to try and sort it out. I’m not saying put up with his shit forever, but give it all you can. You owe it yourself and to your little princess.
Have you discussed it with him, and I mean discussed, not argued.
Most, MOST, guys are fairly bad at opening up. And I reckon that he would be feeling pretty shitty about not being able to support his family (no job, etc). It wouldn't surprise me if a bit of depression was going around. Perhaps both you and him.
My advice is, if you can afford it, get some counselling. One on one and together. Sounds like you both might need a non bias person to vent to and try to fix the big things.
Also DONT SWEAT THE LITTHE THINGS. No one is perfect. Sometimes compromise is the BEST solution.
If you want someone to chat to and you see me online feel free to hit me up.
I’ve been in a similar situation and have managed to work through it. Guys just don’t look at things the same as chicks do. Until my girl came to me I didn't even know she was unhappy.
Anyway enough rambling. Hope you can sort it out and things get better.
PS: not knowing the full story I hope I didn't sound too arrogant. I just think that if you love someone it is worth really giving it a shot.
