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RIP sekio

Good bye Evert. I'm thankful to have visited and that I was able to have gotten to know you. You touched a lot of people. The news of your death comes as a shock. I wish in retrospect that this last call with you would have lasted longer. I didn't know.
 
RIP, what a loss... I didn't have a personal relationship with him, but he clearly contributed massively to the forum.
 
Hey everyone,

I will add some context on his death for those interested:

I missed a call from sekio in late January while on my way to work. I don't remember if I called him back or not, but he texted me "pocket dial". I unfortunately did not respond until a couple weeks later when I reached out to ask how he was doing. I will forever regret this.

I found out via Google a couple weeks ago that his death was published in a government obituary sometime in the first week of February, meaning that he died in the week prior.
Sekio was paraplegic following an accident that resulted in him falling a few stories out of a window a few years ago, and he struggled considerably with neglectful hospital nurses, a medication regime that he felt was insufficient in managing his symptoms, and the understandable resultant mental health issues.
He had discussed medically assisted suicide in the months before his death, and had recently began to engage in heavy research chemical binges following his transfer from hospital care to some sort of independent housing situation.
I don't think that he was in contact with most/all of his family and none of them have posted a public obituary, so we can only speculate as to his passing.

What is clear is that the world has lost a brilliant and truly gifted, incredibly intelligent, and kind-hearted person who touched the lives of many in our community.
 
Very sad to read this.

I never interacted with Sekio outside of this forum but he was brilliant. He was the smartest guy I ever encountered on this forum and I imagine he must've suffered significantly in life from being so intelligent.
 
RIP for the dude..i didn't know him.never talked even.i think..but is old member i think,,,,i hope is in abetter place
 
BTW as @arrall correctly notes, sekio only mentioned his family once but I asked and he didn't know where any of them lived. I was aware that he had struggled to find appropriate support for over a year.
 
4DQSAR said:
BTW as @arrall correctly notes, sekio only mentioned his family once but I asked and he didn't know where any of them lived. I was aware that he had struggled to find appropriate support for over a year.
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Are you active on the Discord, or did you just have contact with him outside of the forums through another medium?
Not sure if I know you under another name or not.
 
Just via PMs.

I won't pretend I knew him better than many others, only that my also being physically disabled meant that we could more readily discuss certain things. There were shared experiences that unless you have lived through, you can't really grasp. It's just my opinion but it sounded like he didn't accept being treated as a problem to be accomodated (with poor grace), but as a person. Never nasty or confrontational, but not submisive - and a LOT of so-called carers don't accept thar the disabled still have the right to be treeated with respect.

I lived in supported housing for a couple of years. One time I got sick, collapsed and wasn't found for 3 days! I just woke up in hospital and it was a week later. As it turned out, they hadn't bothered to check how I was or inform the hospital I was on long-term medication. I think we ALL have those stories. Realizing that nobody cares if you live or die IS depressing.
 
4DQSAR said:
Just via PMs.

I won't pretend I knew him better than many others, only that my also being physically disabled meant that we could more readily discuss certain things. There were shared experiences that unless you have lived through, you can't really grasp. It's just my opinion but it sounded like he didn't accept being treated as a problem to be accomodated (with poor grace), but as a person. Never nasty or confrontational, but not submisive - and a LOT of so-called carers don't accept thar the disabled still have the right to be treeated with respect.

I lived in supported housing for a couple of years. One time I got sick, collapsed and wasn't found for 3 days! I just woke up in hospital and it was a week later. As it turned out, they hadn't bothered to check how I was or inform the hospital I was on long-term medication. I think we ALL have those stories. Realizing that nobody cares if you live or die IS depressing.
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He had hopes to overcome his condition within his lifetime. He had high hopes for a study about (I think) growing olfactory nerves and via that regaining mobility. From what I understand this worked in the study on a number of patients. It pains me that none of the doctors took him seriously "anyone can upload stuff to pubmed". It really saddens me that apparently he ultimately lost hope for that.

BTW. His website is down by now but friends mirrored it: sekiolabs.com.
 
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Sekio was one of the people who attracted me to bluelight about a decade ago. Hearing this news is devastating. I will miss him deeply.
 
4DQSAR said:
I'm truly devastaated to learn of his loss.

https://www.bluelight.org/community/proxy.php?image=https%3A%2F%2Fi.ibb.co%2F8DmvLD27%2Ffelicis.png&hash=a5676fa2f5643c9e1967546c86837132

I've reposted the image of the plushie because in spite of all the things that happened to him, it seemed like the only loss that really upset him was the loss of his sekio.
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Can u share if there was a significance or memory about the panda plushie? Like why was it so special to him?
 
LucidSDreamr said:
Can u share if there was a significance or memory about the panda plushie? Like why was it so special to him?
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Sekio was involved in a fire. He lost all of his possessions. The ONLY thing he really was upset to lose was his plushie, sekio. Hence the name he used.

I don't feel I can list everything I know, but safe to say, I think the only 'person' who didn't let him down was sekio.

He was one of the kindest and most generous people it was ever my privilage to know.
 
4DQSAR said:
Sekio was involved in a fire. He lost all of his possessions. The ONLY thing he really was upset to lose was his plushie, sekio. Hence the name he used.

I don't feel I can list everything I know, but safe to say, I think the only 'person' who didn't let him down was sekio.

He was one of the kindest and most generous people it was ever my privilage to know.
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He always seems so professional and respectful on here. Like I never saw an emotional or reactive post from him and that’s wild considering he was going through so much. I envy that strength and stoicism.

The fact that he could form a sentimental attachment to a stuffed plushie; I don’t know if that’s the result of having first lost the human connections from the ppl that let him down or if he could do that before people in his life let him down. It is rough when your family finally cuts ties with you.

I don’t know if it’s true or not for everyone for sure but one concept I’ve been thinking about recently is basically “at the end of the day, nobody has got you…but you.” I’m not sure of the stoicism and strength sekio exhibited helps in dealing with this uncomfortable truth or not, or if it is equally as painful as letting this truth rattle you emotionally, but if it does help I wish I could gain that somehow…maybe it’s just a gift he had and can’t be learned.
 
arrall said:
The panda plushie was felicis.
I'm guessing that the sekio was a different plushie?
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I wish I had the PMs to refer back to but I believe sekio was a dolphin. I'm glad he found something that made him happy. From what I know, he didn't have any sort of support in meat-space so if he named the replacment felicis, be sure that the name was important to him - not chosen on a whim.

Maybe it refers to the work of David Burns? I mean, I sensed that sekio displaced unhapiness and making felicis happy made him happy?

I can TOTALLY see sekio leaving us with clues. Not clues to show how smart he was, but clues to how he was coping. But that's just my opinion.
 
LucidSDreamr said:
Can u share if there was a significance or memory about the panda plushie? Like why was it so special to him?
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Felicis became kinda popular on bluelight discord. It started with Jesso who had such a plushie. She would show pictures and always make up fun stories about what adventures felicis was on this time. It became a reoccuring thing. Eventually several people wanted one. Its true that he had a sentimental attachment to that plushie. He wasn't the only one however.
 
sHR00m said:
Felicis became kinda popular on bluelight discord. It started with Jesso who had such a plushie. She would show pictures and always make up fun stories about what adventures felicis was on this time. It became a reoccuring thing. Eventually several people wanted one. Its true that he had a sentimental attachment to that plushie. He wasn't the only one however.
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Well, I'm sure you know better than I.

I just miss the guy. Few people are that special. so to lose one hurts.
 
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