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Revenge cheating

Tomer said:
Sorry, maybe I think differently than some of you, but were not fucking 5 years old. If someone cheats on me, I am not seeking revenge. Just dump their ass and move on. It seems like a really immature act to seek revenge on someone who has caused you pain. Give them a peace of your mind and move on with your life.
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Ding ding ding! Winner.
 
I definitely would rather be the better person and either walk away, or deal with it maturely instead of lowering myself to the scummy level of cheating.
 
Revenge cheating is such a bad idea. I just heard a story about a girl that cheated on her bf with a old guy so he pissed all over the inside of her car and then cheated on her.
God people, its dumb. Cut you losses and get the hell out of there. Nothing good can come from it.
 
What gets me with revenge cheating is that the other party probably doesn't care if you're sleeping with someone else as their already cheating on you. If it doesn't really bother them then it isn't much of a revenge.
 
^Or they think "ah good, they are as bad as me now - we're back to square one again" and then they get totally let off the hook. Doesn't seem very beneficial to me. I don't think by revenge cheating you will get the outcome you desire.
 
If you are trying to keep the relationship goiong afterward, then no, saying "you did it so i will too" never works. plus, it ends up feeling very hollow and meaningless, because you arent really having sex with the other person, you're just having sex not with ur SO. complicated to explain, and i got to get to class, so i wont try, but hopefully someone else will pick this up

if the relationship has ended, then having quick, semi-anonymous (ie not a good friend, but not some stranger) sex can feel very good
 
wizekrak said:
What gets me with revenge cheating is that the other party probably doesn't care if you're sleeping with someone else as their already cheating on you. If it doesn't really bother them then it isn't much of a revenge.
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i think the OP was referring to more of a one off mistake. and both parties are keen to continue the relationship

if the relationship had ended, or the cheating was on-going i think your point is valid.
 
My boyfriend has cheated on me, and yes, the thought of getting back at him crossed my mind. I never could do it, I played with the idea with one person and do not speak to him at my boyfriends request (as he does not talk to the girl at my request.) When he asked why I couldn't do it, I said the truth... I couldn't hurt him like he hurt me. Ever since being with him random sex is so trivial to me.

So more than 2 years after that happened, I have continued to remain faithful and always will. I am over what he did, we have an awesome relationship (almost 3 years together) and he made a mistake. I won't repeat his mistake.

To me, revenge cheating is just opening the door to screw up your relationship more than it already was.
 
I've been down that road and it was ugly for me. He cheating on me by getting a bj, when I cheated I slept with someone else, so then he slept with someone else. We never really went back to being an exclusive couple after it started and it was one of many things that led to the ruin of the relationship
 
Yep, time to move on to something else I say.

Once the bounds of trust have been broken, there's no real way of getting them back.

I imagine the revenge cheating will just be the starting point of justifying more 'extra-curricular' liaisons....

Unfortunately.
 
The only girl that I've ever loved cheated on me. When I found out, it had been going on for a while. I confronted her about and she literally begged me for a second chance, so I agreed (a mistake in retrospect) because I loved her. I tried to forgive and forget, but I just couldn't. Everytime we had an arguement it came up. Everytime she went out by herself or didn't answer her phone, I thought the worst. I just couldn't let it go. Somehow I thought that if I cheated on her the we'd be even and I wouldn't think about anymore. So I my friend invited me to roll with him and a few girls, so I did and ended up with one having sex with one of them. I felt guilty the whole time. I couldn't even cum (blamed it on the pills). Afterward I felt guilty and it accomplished nothing. The relationship was doomed and eventually I realized it. Lesson learned.
 
I've never experienced any of that things on my relations but I know I would not forgive nor forget. And why would I give a second chance to someone that has hurt me once?

If I found that my girl has cheated on me, I would consider that the relation is over just there and I would go for the payback, then break up.

Why the payback? To teach her how it feels to be betrayed by the one you love.
I know it can sound bad but its just how I am, when I read Unbreakable's story I was laughing thinking about how good he could feel with the revenge :\
 
I have a friend who did this with his ex partners both men and women who'd cheated on him, and I didn't understand it?

He still stayed with these people even though he'd done the "revenge" cheating on them and I would have just broken up with them once I'd learned they'd cheated.
 
I dont see the HUGE deal. To me 'cheating' is simply a broken promise like any other. I.e. Breaking a promise to fill the car with gas after driving it or to stop.smoking.

Sex is not fucking some magical, sacred act.

So I'd (if I was in a boring mono relationship) probably revenge cheat the same.way I'd not top her car up if she.diddnt mine.

But I might not cause its also pretty petty.

Get over this mystical attachment to act of a piston reciprocating in a cylinder with elastic walls. That's all it is, I could describe it in HamiltonIan mechanics for fucks sake.
 
I certainly wanted to but I don't think it fixes anything in the end. If that's how a slate is wiped clean in a couple I think it shows a big problem...much more productive to just sit down and talk about it I think.
 
I've been used as the revenge fuck years ago. It was doubly satisfying as I couldn't stand her boyfriend, a real prick. Probably not one of my greatest moments but this was over a decade ago. Morally dubious I grant you but we'd gone out previously and she just called and asked for a 'guitar lesson' on a weeknight. I was more than happy to show her the Lydian mode! Not sure I'd go as far as Rangrz's great metaphor for 'love making' but I see his point. Pretty hardcore though!
 
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