Relationships with people who do not take drugs/look down on drugs and drug users

[purpleprincess]

I guess I'm no different from them. I refuse to be with someone who doesn't at the very least toke. I have no tolerance for people who don't drink alcohol either(unless they are a recovered alcoholic!).

Clearly if someone was awesome I'd make an exception, but there are so many people out there -- no need to settle, right?

 

[dopemaster]

Not for more than 2-3 days usually. I just lied till I got caught to get laid a few times. I always said the pills I were taking were for allergies and just shot up in the bathroom.

 

[Just.Passing]

I'm a non user. I'll tell you why.

My brother sits in a commission house in the middle of nowhere daily. He has no food in the house, he lays on his couch, does every drug known to man, with his gf. Never been there for his daughter.

That's his day. Can't afford to go anywhere, can't afford the bus.

I'm in love with an addict. I worry about him every single day. I worry about his daughter. I cry all the time because he can't get rid of a lifestyle that makes him feel shit about himself every day.

He is the living dead. And there's nothing I can do about it.

How dare you say the above is a "lifestyle". How dare you bullshit about how you have a handle on it. Most of you do not. It controls you and that is very sad.

I realise I'm addressing the addicts here, and not the people. When you go cold turkey for a few days, come back and read the stuff posted on this forum. It's very disturbing.

I'm not churchy, judgemental or perfect. But I am of sound mind and I can tell you all now that the addict inside you is destroying your authentic self, the real you with goals, dreams, family. The you who is good and considerate and kind and intelligent.

If I feel devastated by seeing it happen to my man, imagine how the authentic you is feeling.

I pray that everyone here with a serious problem gets the support and treatment they truly deserve.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

I think it's OK to not mention anything for a 3 mo relationship...but if you want a long-term relationship...

Let them know on the like 3rdish date. I'm usually very open and casual about my drug use. Like, hey what so did you do over the weekend? I rolled balls! Man it was such a blast since I only roll a few times a year. It was really just awesome because I was with my friends and we went to a rave. I'm kind of into that sort of stuff? Are you? :shakes head: Well, aren't you ever curious??? Then I'll go into drug-info about that specific drug. They're usually always interested. See, if you hide it--you make it tabboo. If you just causally bring it up--it's no big deal.

I dated a marine once and he wanted me to roll with him but not really since he couldn't roll (since they get randomly drug tested once a week) so he could see how I would be. He also was willing to trip after I assured him it won't show up in the tests.