Relationship & Partner dealing with a death.

[Lost Ego]

I like her. Haven't felt this way about someone in a while. However... She's still talking to another guy and will probably see him(issue 1). She doesn't want to commit yet because her dad just died a couple of months ago (3)... She says she wants to wait until she knows it'll last before she gets into a committed relationship.

3) Can any of you relate to her situation? How long will it take for her to get over it? What can I expect from a relationship with someone who just lost a loved one? She says we're not committed but at the same time we're more than just fuck buddies - where does that put us [not that labels matter] ?

1) Only reason I'm considering dealing with it is cause she's been completely honest about all of it and I'm going into the military in 3 months so perhaps it just isn't meant to be long-term and because of [issue 3] and I do like her a bunch... I'm extremely jealous though but eh. It'd probably make the jealousy go away if I fucked someone else but I don't want that, I want her and only her... I'm just torn about her refusing to stop talking to him, I'd normally never deal with that sorta thing. I had already stopped talking to all other women who were more than friends after the 2nd date because I was convinced I'd wanted her to be the only one.

-been dating a week <- shut up, i know i may be asking alot lol, it's just that it feels like so much more
-she only sees the other guy perhaps once a month
-we have had sex and I spent the weekend+monday+tuesday at her house.
-Just found out about the other guy Sunday. She's not hiding anything and I do appreciate that.

 

[Lustmord]

My ex's grandma died and things melted down rather nicely. Don't want to imagine the dad. You can't put a time limit on emotional healing and I wouldn't wait for it, things have changed incredibly for her and quite frankly she doesn't give two shits about a relationship.

 

[sexNcandy]

You're going in... she has someone else on the sidelines... you know how it goes

 

[GeorgeChristia]

According to my point of view, you should approach to her. I know, there are some difficulties. But, my friend, life is the second name of difficulty. So, just convince her. Just explain her the actual meaning of life. Also tell her, life never be stopped. It continues running and Everything is written. Whatever is happening, happening for the best. Change her mindset up and take her for a long drive and make a sure that you are always with her. I think, she would be recovered.

 

[pofacedhoe]

doesn't sound serious.

sounds like you want to pass the time until your service and she's banging different people to reduce her grief

whats to say?

hmm enjoy it for what it is. but so far you have a non monogamous realtionship that could begin and how will that make you feel when you are away thinking about the other guy she is friends with. when you begin with no boundaries, its hard to have trust/loyalty.

you also say you are jealous8)