Relationship Issues...I.E Cheating.

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years now. When we first met i was 16 and he was 18. It was amazing! Until, about 3 months into the relationship he started to get really jelouse and controlling. He would ask me things like " Why the fuck are you getting so ready for? Who are you going to see?" . Id say nobody just getting ready for school..then after awhile my Best friend at the time told me that if i didnt break up with him she wouldn't be my friend anymore..i was devastated. I didn't know what to do. But i was also wondering what friend would make me choose??? I was so stupid back then I can't even live with myself..I chose to be with him...

So, the next day nobody would talk to me accept for the one friend i had left....

A month later, the only friend i had told me that my boyfriend was stupid and she wished i would break up with him. She said i would be a lot happier..

Then, he told me that he was going to break up with me unless i didn't talk to her!!!! So when she texted one day I didnt text back and haven't talked to her since...

Ive always had bad self esteem even though i have been told i was really pretty...I dont ever feel like i am...

And so we stayed togther.. One day we were at his friends house and i was looking through my phone to see if my mom texted and there was all these text messages of him talking to this girl from pensylvania. They were talking about having sex together and were sending pics back and forth. Bad pics, not just his face or her face!!!!!!! I was so mad and sad!!!! I ran out of the house screaming at him and got in my car...but i couldn't seem to leave!!!!!!!! I don't know why!!!!!! I just loved him too much!!!!!!!!

And i didn't even do anything about it !!!! We just got in the car with his friends and went on a "burn cruise" ( burn cruise= Smoking weed while driving) . And he was living with me at the time so it made it extra hard because he had no where else to go!!!!!!!!!

So after that was forgivin BUT never FORGOTTEN!!!

A few months later we had moved in with my grandma because the rent was cheap...

My aunt had also lived there and she invited over on of her friends...

Her friend just so happen to be someone i knew in middle school..
I haven't seen her since middle school so she really changed a lot. She used to be the dorky girl back then!!!!
Now she said she was a model. Bla Bla Bla!!!

We were all sitting at the dining table. Me, My boyfriend, My aunts friend.

He asked me " Can you please go and roll a cigarette? I really need one."

And I said. "No, can you please do it? Its so hard to do because the roller is like half broken"

My aunts friend. " Here..you can have one of mine."

My boyfriend. "I love you!!!!!!"






HE SAID I LOVE YOU!!!!! TO HER !!!!!

HE SAID IT MEANT NOTHING BUT THAT VERY NIGHT AFTER SHE LEFT HE WAS TEXTING SOMEONE.. I ASKED WHO AND HE HID THE PHONE IN HIS HAND AND SAID NOBODY!!!

THEN AWHILE AFTER THAT I HAD TO USE THE PHONE TO CALL MY MOM.

I had the kind of phone from sprint where you could see who and from deleted messages came from but not the message.

THERE WAS ALL THESE DELETED MESSAGES GOING BACK AND FORTH FROM THEM BOTH!!!!!

HE DENIED THE ENTIRE THING!!!

EVEN AFTER I ASKED HER AND SHE ADMITTED TO IT!!!!!

That was about a year ago now...and that i know of he hasn't cheated on me since....
But, does that even count as cheating??
I am so god damn confused!!
And i haven't felt pretty ever since he did these things to me!!!
I love him so much...
That now i am living with him and have NO WHERE else to go now!!!!
No friends.
No life.
No...NOTHING!!!
Nothing but working at a fast food resturaunt!!!!!!!!!!!!

i dont know what to do !!!!!!!!!!!! I always think he is going to cheat on me again!!!!

He also told me that the only reason he did it was because i was talking to my ex RIGHT when we were first dating.

Please help me i don't know what to do !! i just joined because this very moment i am sitting in my room by myself and he's out with HIS FRIENDS!!!! WHERE THE FUCK ARE MY FRIENDS!?!?!?!? AND WHY THE FUCK CAN HE GO OUT AND DO WHATEVER THE FUCK HE WANTS AND I HAVE TO STAY HOME ALL THE DAMN TIME@!!!!!!!!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO !!!!!!!!!

 

this just hits so close to home with me... im 20 years old.. i was w my ex boyfriend from the time i was 14-18... my whole WORLD revolved around him... i thought if i ever lost him i would legit just die... we were together every second of everyday.. in the last 2 mnths of our relationship i caughtb him cheating... i literally dropped to the ground nd couldnt stop crying... i could barely breathe..it was such a terrible feeling.. but i loved him so much i didnt think i could live w.o him so i stayed w him(like and idiot).. i was living at his house at the timey nd by this timme i had lost allllllllll my friends ..while my friends were out partying having so much fun.. i was home w him everynight..i think bak nd i lost out on so much of my teenage years...well all of them.. neways i ended up breaking up with him.. i wanted to start a new chpter in my life.. i finallly got the courage to do it.. nd when i finally did.. life was a m a z i n g.. i got bak allll my friends.. i started going out and having the time of my life!!..-- if guys cheat oncee they will ALWAYS do it again... he ended up being w the girl he cheated on me with after we broke up.. i ended up beating the shittt outtaa her.. lolll ... but neways moral of the story is.. dont ever doubt urself..theres soo much more out there than the shitty boyfriend you have now..TRUST ME..i found such amazing and hotter guys that i barely eveer thought of him.. im not saying it will be totally easy but once u get ur friends bak they will helpp you forget about him.. break up with himm.. i promise u u will find someone so much better waiting for you at the end of this road...

 

IMO, break up with the dude, he obviously isn't going to stay faithful after you keep letting him slide by with doing stuff like this, if you're not happy then you're not living life, what's the point of staying in a relationship that you get nothing out of? He doesn't want to be committed to a relationship it sounds like, you owe it to yourself to find a guy who loves, cares, and respects you the way you- a woman should be treated, and remember no matter what you're beautiful, true beauty is the fact that no two people are exactly the same, physically looks are not the most important thing, as long as you have a good heart and try your best in life than you're good. Best of luck and I hope you make the right decision for the sake of your own happiness.

 

Yeah, he sounds like an ass.

Say, have you seen our Sex, Love and Relationships forum? Chock full of advice about situations such as these!

 

Once a guy cheats, he will always cheat? FALSE! Guys have needs and they need to be met everyday. If you take care of issues in the bedroom, the issues outside the bedroom will be somewhat normal. Men find other women to mess around with because something is not being met. Find that something.

 

thanks yu guys sooo much....n lol to anggxx I WOULD LOVE to beat the FUCK outta these dum hoes he was fuckin with...
this really helps a lot

 

i keep readin these comments like damn yu gus are so right...i am NOT going to let things slide no more..and i have talked to him about it. he promises he will never do it again and that he loves me..i think i am going to wait and see how things turn out..idk if its the right thing or not to do but, to be honest...i don't exactly have another choice. like i said i have no where else to go...i just turned 18 and my moms boyfriend hates me for sum unknown reason...so she said i can't stay there anymore...just like two days ago actually..but, i do love him..............im just scared hell do it again......................REALLY scared......