Regrets are not worth having

I used to have a terrible attitude and sometimes still do. I felt like I wasn't dealt a fair hand for most my life.

I have been through some things no one should have to. But still those experiences made me the man I am today.

I was a jerk for a long time and it got to the point where people called me on my shit. I've lost friends and relationships with irreparable damage.

Tine doesn't heal all wounds, so it is what it is. I was speaking to a friend trying to tell him he had to accept some things as they were as that is the only way I can make peace with some things.

I change what I can and sometimes I fail because the change was not meant to happen but evert once in a while there is a significant reward for mending things.

I was at a point where I felt a need for redemption for soome things. I did some volunteer work, made some apologies, and let some people know I had no quarrels with them. It helped.

Good things happen with time and sometimes I have to step back and take a realistic look at how things were. I realized I couldn't be mad over things in life that just are not fair or just can't be changed.

Most of wisdom comes at a price. If I learn from my mistakes I can't regret them. I can't carrt a grudge as it is more weight than I can carry.

As far as forgiveness it is easier to forgive in your heart than in person. Sometimes people live so wrong it is best to just stay away despite what you think of them.

For me that is difficult with women I have feelings for but can't see because I can't afford their problems in my life. I can't let anyone's problems become my own. I am not talking about helping someone fix their car.... I will lend someone a hand if I have time especially if they would do it for me.

I see a clear line between a user and abuser when it comes to having fun in that way. I have to avoid people with that one track mind even if they mean well.

My friend gave me some advice years ago and I remember exactly wgat he said: There are good times and there are bad times, sometimes the bad times seem longer ir unbearable but its up to you basically to get through, the goid times make life worth living and they do last longer, they are just easier to take for granted"

I find a true friend to be worth more than all aquaintances combined. Sure you might know alot if people you may call friends but when shit gets real you will find out fast if you don't already know who is a true friend.

I say fuck living in denial, blaminf others for your problems as an adult, and fuck regretting your past mistakes.

Sometimes the only way you learn is the hard way and that a bitter pill to swallow. As much as I wish things were different sometimes I have to realize something similar would have happened if I had not learned.

All in all I find I find seeing things fir what they are and moving forward to be the best and only sensible way to live.

I still think you should go for what you want in life ir fuck up trying and then try again until you get it right. Life is too short to dwell. The only regret you can honestly have is never trying and its never too late to at least make the best of your situation.

 

This is a great write up of something that not everyone gets to in their minds--when you can replace blame and being a victim with forgiveness and a healthy dose of perspective. Even if you were actually victimized at some point in your life, it is carrying that view of yourself that makes you get fatalistic, cynical and ultimately hopeless. I still struggle with not doing that but it gets easier and easier with age.

Thanks for writing this. It made my day!

 

Thanks for reading it.

Sometimes you have to take a look at things from a new perspective and ask yourself "Where do I want to go from here."

You can dwell in the past but it won't change a thing. Its best to listen to people who already have wisdom and have your best interests at heart but those people are rare and taking someones advice is easier said than done.

I had to learn a great deal of things the hard way. I wouldn't and didn't believe people who had been through the same things.

Life is what you make of it and not all can be fixed but you can always build something new and what can be mended is worth it.

The only thing is sometimes you have to let people go even if they hold on to you. Sadly people you were once close to can be toxic and drag you down.

It's your life, so live it right and the way you want to. You have to make your own decisions and accept what come of it. Still I would rather do what I feel is best regardless of the opinions of people that do not matter and never will.

I think often times people say play it safe in terms of careers, romance, and lifestyles but they don't have to be you. Only you get to be you and I for one will not compromise myself to please some people.