Primary school was the worst time for me. I was a pretty hyperactive kid. Probably a bit
too full on for most. And i woudl so often be left out of things which my "firneds" organised and so on a so forth. Never
physical bulliying or even really
verbal bullying, but simply just that horrible sinking gut renching agony that u feel when ur a young child and
"nobody likes you"... i moved school in grade four, becasue i just wanted to try and make some "proper" friends... i fast discovered that,
proper friends are pretty hard to come by in primary school.
I found that being at an all girls school there is a lot of bitchiness... over the timiest of issues... i spose thats what happens at an all girls school tho... everyone has PMS at different times. Even when u find what u think is "youre group" the nastiest things happen, girls are still left out, i think the majority of bitchiness stems from the whole group thing. I know my school is overly "clickey" and if u dont ahve a group, or a group doesnt accept you, or whatever... u can feel so horrible.
Even the early years of High school are littered with the same kind of situations, but it was basically just feeling like shit becasue of one girl, its the litte comments, and the remarks, and the fact that she "knows" shes better than u and treats you like shit... just simply the put downs and little comments... the little things that break your heeart.
The affore mentioned girlie, still says things and tries to put me down, but really, its gotten to the stage where i can accept that, if she has to do those things to feel confident and boost her self esteem, well then, im gonna let her do them, becasue really it doesn't hurt me... im obviously a stronger person than her, and you know, why not help her feel a bit better about herself,
if hse has to treat ppl like that, then she obviously feels pretty terrible about herwself.
...but i think bullys have gotten worse as time has gone on. My little sister is in year six this year, and she moved school the beginning of this year, to get away from the "clickiness" of her primary school. But some of the things that went on! ...
She has really bad learning difficulties, and really really struggles at school. And she really really small... looks about 6 instead of 12... (i mean, ive been asked if i was her mum several times before... and i dont look that old)But one day, towards the end of last year, i walk home to see this
tiny littel girl bawled up on our big couch just crying.
she runs to the door
throws herself around my waist and cries and cries and cries.
finally i get it out of her, that this boy had
followed her home on his bike, tormenting her, teasing her, calling her names, calling her stupid and asking her all these questions about things, that even *i* wouldnt know the answer to, trying to make her feel dumb. i was so angry, i called up the boys mother and told her exactly what happenned...
The mother was truly apologetic and shocked that her son had dont such a thing, but i also found out that the boy had been receiving
HATE MAIL from some of the girls in the year. Those girls were the same girls that had invited my sister over to somebodies house, and then
not been there when she arrived and things like that. THe same girls who
constantly excluded her, and pput her down about her height and how she struggles in school. again, the littlest things can crush a childs soul.
I think children can be so cruel. Perhaps crueler than what they think... becasue they dont quite understand exaclty the power of their words or their actions...
but, i wonder how much of what gets said is actually meant.. i think the whole "pack meantality" thing has a great deal to do with the behaviour of some of the girls... there is alwyas an obvious "leader", in this case a truly malicious and vindictive girl, who is
NOT a happy little vegemite... but like my mum says, "there are always these people in life, its how you deal with them, which proves that you arent one of them"
then there is the theory that says, by the age of
7 a childs mentaality and personality is basically formed... But what about the children who are so easily
led... they are generally far worse than the bully's themselves, because being excluded or ridiculed or simply bullied by someone who was once perhaps a friend, has the worst sting of all...
Going to an all girls school, learning to be a *bitch* comes a free extra...
i used to get involved in the bitchyness of my school, and (if i may say so myselkf) i got to be a good little come back queen (well as good as u can be in year 7,8 and 9) but by halfway through year 9, i realised, what is the point of getting involved... its the whole,
"stooping to their level" and i AM NOT a bully, or a bitchy person, so i would *never* feel any better about myself, or the situation after i had just put someone down... im not like that. So i deceided that, i wouldnt get involved at all. Nowadays, i am *SO*far out of the gossip/scandal/BITCHY loop that i
never have a clue what people are tlaking aobut at lunchtime...
but
exclusions in m poersinal opionion is the worst way to bully someone...
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