Recommending Rehab? Southern California

[sp00nix]

I'm looking for information on rehab for a suspected opiate addict. I can honestly say that I should be the last person to judge anyone when it comes to drug usage, but I am worried about my brother.

I am suspecting that my brother (aged 24) is abusing Oxycontin or heroin for many years. I think it's really effected his life. He's still living at home, has never had a job, and seems separated from his family and friends.

I've suspected for a few years now, but today I found some foil with burned patterns on both sides. I haven't confronted him or my family, nor am I convinced anyone else is aware.

Can anyone give me advice or recommendations for rehabilitation? Is this a professional matter?

 

[KidCharlemange]

Well...the only free one I know of off the top of my head is The Impact House...I don't know much about it. If he's on your parents insurance he may be covered for a nice rehab with good treatment. I don't know your guys relationship but if you feel it's ruining his life you may want to confront him and figure out what's going on with him. If he decides to go to rehab it would have to be HIS decision. When I was younger I completed a program that was 1 year and 35 days long and used the first day I got out! I completed it more for my family than myself. Since then I've been to rehab a few more times and am now currently sober. Good luck to you,man.

 

[herbavore]

You can call your county mental health and ask them for recovery resources in your area. I think talking to your brother would be best. Unfortunately, as the above poster said, quitting because your family thinks you should just won't work. I know how badly you want this for him. I have been in your shoes with both a brother and a son. It is a very painful place to be and I am sorry for all concerned.

 

[sp00nix]

thanks guys

 

[cj]

You cant force him to get help. I would ask him in a non confrontational manner that means no threats ultamatums bottom lines none of that tough love bullshit they sell on tv. But be prepared for him to tell you its none of your business.

 

[jspun]

Damn impact's hard core. Personally, I've put together alittle recovery and haven't had much respect for rehabs. Now I am comming up om 90 days. Just 12 step recovery. go to meetings- self motivated. I think this is the best approach. You get to live in the free world- but gotta be self motivated.

Now on the other hand, interventions, rehabs, ect... an expensive and in somecases corrupt industry. They have a saying. You can pay $10,000 for a Big Book by going to rehab or $8.00 for it by going to a meeting.

Now for the really bad news. People are not goining to have lasting clean time until they're ready. Their friends that can get clean can serve as a model (attraction rather than promotion.) Short of that pray for him if you believe in some kinda God- just don't expect your prayers to be heard right away- we (he) all still have free will- hee needs to be ready or willing- can't impart that. Good luck to you, your brother, and family and may good come your way.

Harm reduction (methadone, sub, aint a bad stop gap measure.) I recommend both from experience.

 

[motherofearth]

I went to the "country club" of rehabs, or so it is known. McDonald Center in San Diego. They take most insurance - both my stay were free. The councelors really fight for you to get a good stay. They have great aftercare plans. Downside: a lot of gravy in the food and no coffee.

PS I was there for heroin.... among other things.

 

[xxsicknessxx]

Try to reason with him a lot, I might really try your best to reach him before telling on him.. a drug addicts mind is twisted and I promise you if you tell on him and let the cat out of the bag he will turn all his pain and hate on you and you will never be able to get him any real help.

A addict must want help to get help... it sounds stupid but its true if he doesn't want to get clean then telling on him to the family will only turn him away forever.. However you can't just let it go on forever either.... its complicated there is a middle ground... try to reach him as much as you can and if it doesn't work if he won't tell his parents on his own and won't let it out then after along time... you will have to tell them

Because.... other wise he will end up dead, in the hospital or jail...