Quitting....

[Athena777]

I dont know how to tell my boyfriend that i need to quit smoking meth, but in order for me to succeed he needs to quit as well..... like i don't want to be overly controlling because he doesn't do it frequently but i cant handle it for even one night anymore. I've lost so much weight in such little time i cant even look at my reflection without feeling sick. idk how he even finds me attractive at this point tbh......

 

[llama112]

Slr -> tds

 

[Oxy_Ghost]

You definetly can't do it if he's gonna stay in your life and still do it at the same time. Well I'm sure you can but it wouldn't be easy. My girlfriend is still an active user but lives a few hours away from me and idk if I'd be where I'm at now if she wasn't so far away. You should really talk to him and If he really loves you than he'll stop too or give you the space and hopefully realize for himself that he should quit. Hopefully that's the case, I'd hate for someone to have to leave their partner over it. That's why i haven't left my gf, we've been together for 8 years now and I love her too much to give up on her, she's doing what she can to quit. But, Help each other but you gotta help yourself first

 

[pofacedhoe]

if he cares about you he will support you in quitting.

amphetamines are insidious and hard to quit but its certainly doable

i hear ya about the reflection thing. nothing like the shock of a mirror after daily speed use to wake you up to the need to change and care for yourself properly again

 

[nygiants1313]

A question that just popped into my mind for everyone because of your thread OP.

Seeing as the percentages are so low already with addicts quitting hard drugs would you guys think couples quitting together have better long term success or when seperate? Or does it not matter?

And TO OP i believe you guys gotta go at it alone. Some girl i ran with for years had to do it alone. IM still in active addiction but i was clean for 2 months (no subs) --the longest in my life.

You being controlling has nothing to do with it OP, so honestly thete is no point unless he wants because honestly hun, the control addiction has on a person, well, you cant compete with and nobody can if they domt want sobriety bad enough.

 

[namnoc16]

I'm 40 years old and have been using actively for almost 3 decades(damn I feel old).Anyway now I'm on pain meds (my wife has to lock them away and give me a dose at a time) but I've been in relationships with other addicts and I firmly believe that quiting by yourself is extremely hard but when 2 people quit together it isn't twice as hard it's exponentially harder. When one of you is weak that person will chirp in the others ear trying to wear them down. I'm not saying it can't be done(shit anything is possible) but in all of my years of abuse I've never seen 2 people quit together. I truly hope I'm wrong and you and your boyfriend can do it , sincerely I do but if he is weighing you down you have to cut him loose. Love is great but remember to love thy self first or you can't love anyone else.

 

[Erikmen]

I'm not saying it can't be done(shit anything is possible) but in all of my years of abuse I've never seen 2 people quit together. I truly hope I'm wrong and you and your boyfriend can do it , sincerely I do but if he is weighing you down you have to cut him loose. Love is great but remember to love thy self first or you can't love anyone else.

I guess we all get depressed eventually when we finally make it through and become sober. The same principle also applies for your companion and even for the union you've made it together with each other.
You'll be different just like he or she will. And sometimes it's hard to go through a relationship where both of you need to work on yourselves. You'll be different and cravings are potentially worse when you with someone that has also quit.