I've seriously had more changes of attitude on this topic than I've had changes of underwear.... lol.
Up until I was about 22, I
never had any desire to have kids. None whatsoever. Then, suddenly, something changed. I can only describe it as a physical, basic shift... I can even remember the exact time it happened. I was in Scotland, living in a little apartment with my then-boyfriend at the time... supposedly meant to be having the time of my single life. But suddenly, overwhelmingly, I started to want a baby. I even wrote to my girlfirend about it, who'd recently had a kid. I remember her answer: "Don't worry, it's just your ovaries going haywire. Ignore it."
She was right. Because I did forget about it, and for the next 4 years or so it was the last thing on my mind. At the time I had a 38 year old boyfriend who had 4 kids of his own... I was hardly aching to have any MORE intrusion into my private life. Although, if I am honest, that first revelation still left lingering thoughts in my mind, such that I even asked him if he'd consider getting his vasectomy reversed for me.
Fast foward to the breakup of that relationship and the start of my current one - age 26 to now (29). All of a sudden, I
desperately want kids. It's like a complete turnaround. I don't know if it's because of the partner I'm with now (who I can see would be a great dad), or because I'm just getting older... but I find myself obsessing over this. Not every day, not even every week - but pretty regularly.
I'd NEVER
EVER trick my current boyfriend and get pregnant without his knowlege. But I can't help fantasising about getting pregnant, and having a little life, all of my own, to shape and influence and experience that awesome love I hear so much about. I guess it will happen in time.
But yeah.... I used to think "FUCK NO"... now I've done a 180 degrees.