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muzby

muzby

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punctuality

this is seriously one of my pet peeves...

people not being on time...


yeah, fair enough, you get held up with things, but for gods sake, at least have the courtesy to let people know as far in advance as possible..

i'm a reasonably punctual person myself, yeah i do run late as we all do, but i have the courtesy to let people know that i'm late, and i do that as soon as i realise...

i mean, how frustrating is it when you have arrived on time, or are like 5 minutes away from somewhere, and you get an sms from the person you are meeting "sorry, running about half an hour late". this shits me. i'm here (or like 5 minutes away) so surely you do not just realise then that you are going to be half an hour late. why cant you send that message HALF AN HOUR AGO when you realised this.. not just 5 minutes before meeting...

the other one is "i'm 5 minutes away". sorry, but like hell you are.. how many times do you hear that someone is "5 minutes away" and they turn up 20 minutes later... i'm sorry, but i do consider my time valuable, and i dont like standing outside somewhere, sitting in my car or drinking by myself whilst i wait for someone who cant control their time management...

yet another case was last week at sydney airport.. i was waiting for a flight to go to melbourne that was delayed by the mock terrorist threat thimg.. . yes, i know that the B-O-B scare was a big thing, but what was happening was that we were waiting at the gate, on time for the boarding time, and the "boarding time" on the screen kept getting moved by 10 minutes. we'd reach the boarding time, then they'd push it back by 10 minutes. this kept happening for 40 minutes... if they had given us a reasonable time frame at the start, like "i'm sorry ladies and gentlemen, but this flight will be delayed by 30 minutes" or wotever, i could have actually done something with my time (like head back to the bar) not just stand there at the gate, grumbling along with everyone else..

but yeah, my main point is, we all have watches, we have clocks in our mobiles, in our cars, round our house, shit, just about everywhere...

lets use em to be on time.. and if we cant keep to time, have the courtesy to let people know so they are not wasting their time waiting...

/end grumpy muzby rant
 
i am always always always always late.

it's 'cause i procrastinate too much. and even when i *am* on time, i always get worried that it's only because i've forgotten to do a whole bunch of stuff. which i then stress about, thus making me late anyway.

sorry :(
 
i'm almost never late.

i think too far ahead and i make sure i get everything done on time....and if i cant, i tell people. i'm always the first to finish my duties at work, and i'm usually 5 minutes early to meet someone.

and dont go thinking i'm all uptight!!! far from it....its just not in my nature to be late....it makes me feel weird:\ =D
 
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Originally posted by onetwothreefour
..even when i *am* on time, i always get worried that it's only because i've forgotten to do a whole bunch of stuff. which i then stress about, thus making me late anyway.

^-=Nods=-
Damn Capricornness. :\

I hear ya', onetwothreefour.
I wander around the house for a good ten minutes usually, fretting I've forgotten something...and I'm the type to run back 5+ times to get something.

That said, I hate tardiness.
<---Hypocrite x extreme.
 
I hate this too, but when meeting up with someone I usually end up getting there about 2 hours before the right time and then wait around for ages :(

I guess I'm too keen to get there...
 
I've got no tolerance for people being late ... I was a constant late arriver for the first 16 years of my life ... if I rang and said I'd be down in 5, that meant at least 2 hours. Nowadays I am the king of punctuality and expect others to be the same. I've been known to leave if someone doesn't show up right on time.
 
I fucking hate people who don't even tell you they'll be late. And people cancelling shit at the last minute. I have noticed that mainly girls tend to do this stuff, and it fucking irks me to no end. I invited this sheila as my guest to my brother's wedding, and she SMS'd me on the day, an hour before the wedding to tell me she was too sick to come. FUCKING SMS. INCREDIBLE! NOT EVEN A PHONE CALL. If I wasn't such a soft cock i'd prolly leave if they were late. It all comes down to a complete lack of respect and consideration for the other person. It's bullshit. GYARGH! I'm out.
 
dudei know exactly what you mean. definitely a pet peeve of mine. i respect my time as well as other peoples expect people to be on time. if not a reaosnable excuse with reasonable warning of being late. not last minute calls.

somehow i almost feel cheated when people are late to meet at the arranged time/place.
 
Not too long ago I was afraid I turned up half an hour late for a date. Turns out she turned up half an hour early. =D
 
I am absolutely always late, ask any of my friends.

I think it was BREAKaBEAT who said I run on 'Yarni-time'. eg The other week I was picking her up and was actually on time but she hadn't even started getting ready. Her excuse? 'Oh shit sorry! I was running on Yarni-time so thought you'd be another 1/2 hour at least.'

I even have some friends [wisely] tell me a meetup time that is half an hour before the actual meetup time because that way there is a greater chance of us arriving at the same time.

And out of the last 10 shifts at work I've been late for 9 which prompted my boss to say, 'If you weren't so good at your job I'd fire you.'

Yes I'm one of those annoying people that everyone hates. =D
 
I'm always early because I worry so much that I'll be late, I hurry and get places about 20 minutes early, then end up bored waiting for other people to arrive.
Although if I have something on at 9 in the morning or so I'm likely to be late, though I try to organize things that aren't too early.
 
I'm nearly always on time. I always plan shit meticulously, leaving me enough time to get ready. If I am running late and am driving I just speed...
 
I am terrible at getting places on time. I am perpetually 5-20 minutes late, and thus am always hurrying my arse off in a sense of self-imposed panic.

I am getting better however. The little calendar reminders thing in my phone has changed my life.
 
Once upon a time, I was the most punctual person I knew. And I was extremely uptight about others' punctuality too. If people were late, I'd be livid, and I was ALWAYS at least five minutes early wherever I went.

I spent too much time waiting for people.

Enter boyfriend who lives in the land of late. We were together for a year and a half, and the only occasions that he was EVER on time was our first date and to the airport when we went on holidays. One day he was supposed to meet me at my house and was SEVEN HOURS LATE.
I was constantly upset at his lack of consideration or care for my time, and it continued through our entire relationship.
Shortly after we broke up, I noticed that I was needing more and more to create excuses for MY tardiness, and that I wasn't waiting for people anymore, ever. I guess I was conditioned to be late and now (six months later!) I'm still having trouble with punctuality, I've just gotten too relaxed about getting around.

While I was with him, I had someone to blame for being late and I took it for granted that whilst dawdling as long as I liked, he would always be later than me ;)

So sorry to the on time people. I know how frustrating it is. But I've done my time YEARS over.
 
I use the following rule of thumb in every case regarding somewhere I have to be at a certain time:

If I need to be there : 5 minutes early

If they need me to be there : 5 minutes late
 
faerie said:
I'm always early because I worry so much that I'll be late, I hurry and get places about 20 minutes early, then end up bored waiting for other people to arrive.
Although if I have something on at 9 in the morning or so I'm likely to be late, though I try to organize things that aren't too early.
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That sounds just like me!!! If people are 10 or more minutes late without a phone call, I end up calling them which I find quite unfair as is their responsibility. As I am quite concious that this is one of my pet hates I generally call whoever I'm meeting up with and let them know exactly what time my bus/train will get to our meeting point. Surely if I can go to this effort (they know it!!!) they can pick up a god damn phone and dial my number!!!
 
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muzby said:
yet another case was last week at sydney airport.. i was waiting for a flight to go to melbourne that was delayed by the mock terrorist threat thimg.. . yes, i know that the B-O-B scare was a big thing, but what was happening was that we were waiting at the gate, on time for the boarding time, and the "boarding time" on the screen kept getting moved by 10 minutes. we'd reach the boarding time, then they'd push it back by 10 minutes. this kept happening for 40 minutes... if they had given us a reasonable time frame at the start, like "i'm sorry ladies and gentlemen, but this flight will be delayed by 30 minutes" or wotever, i could have actually done something with my time (like head back to the bar) not just stand there at the gate, grumbling along with everyone else..
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Sounds like CityRail Trains.

I agree muzby.People that do this shit me.

I also,can't stand people that say that they are going to call you ("Off there own bat they say it too") and don't.I expect friendships and relationships to be a two way street.I call people when I say I will.I'm NOT talking an exact time either.They say a day and don't :p .

So,if I can be reliable!,why can't others?? :X
 
^^^Because they're unreliable, I guess it all comes down to how you like to be treated, if you like people to be on time and would hate for someone to not call you if they're running late then you're more like to considerate of this.

You'll find that a lot of "late" people do not get as angry over lateness as punctual people do.
 
Once again I wholeheartedly agree with you Muzby!

Nothing enrages me more than being kept waiting (except, perhaps, people walking off in the middle of an argument, but that's another story).

It's bad enough when friends do it, but people who want *my* business have been doing it to me lately! After weeks of pestering on their part I finally schedule a meeting with a rep who wants to sell us advertising, or a marketing company who wants to work with us, then the rude fuckers turn up late without even the courtesy of a call. It's absolutely unacceptable.

The other week I was left waiting in the boardroom with my senior manager and the chairman of our company for 20 minutes - who'd both agreed under sufferance to attend the meeting - smiling nervously and saying "sorry, I'm sure they'll be here soon". I phoned the person on their mobile - he said "Oh, yeah, sorry, we're still driving around looking for you". Um.... could it have killed you to pull over and give me a quick call to inform me of this?

I don't understand some people. A carpet cleaning company - you know, the guys with those super-sonic vaccum machines they try to sell you - scheduled a "free demonstration" with us at 7.30pm last Tuesday. Well, we cleaned out the loungeroom and were sitting waiting at 7.20pm. 7.30 came and went.... then 7.45.... then 8pm. By this stage I was ropeable. What sort of impression is this giving me of your company, for fuck's sake?

When the people finally turned up at my door at 8.15pm I gave them a huge serve - without opening the wire door my first words were: "You're 45 minutes late". They said "Sorry, we were held up". I said "And you don't have a phone?" Mumbled apologies, but no real explaination. So I said "sorry, but we're not interested now" and closed the door. I will never deal with a company who treats my time with that much disrespect. :X
 
i too am one who hates other peoples unpunctuality! i am an on time sort of girl and if not if usually 5 mins early. i constantly leave my house early enough but often get there about 15 mins early, thus resulting in me waiting around, but i'd rather do that than be late....

my friend is a terrible terrible person with punctuality so we always tell her to meet about 1/2 an hour earlier than the time we are really meeting as she is ALWAYS late!
 
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