Psychological addiction: anyone else in the same boat?

[xtcxtc]

syn -- great post -- maybe the best i have ever read on b/l or most anywhere else concerning LOVE.

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in individuals, insanity is rare: but in groups,parties, nations and epochs (plus stock market bubbles ) it is the rule.
friedrich nietzsche.

 

[candyflip]

I like Syn's heartfelt honesty and clarity, but I can't agree with the sentiment actually....
Love is not about being blind to anyone's failings. Yes, we accept them as much as we can. But to ignore alcoholism or a drug dependency in someone you love (for example) is plain stupidity. That's putting the person you love in huge danger (and yourself, actually).
To say nothing to an alcoholic your living with..to just accept it because "Love Conquers All" is then plainly idiotic... (Syn: not saying you were saying that exactly, but a progresion of your argument leads here I think).
Try living with an alcoholic (which I've done) and just 'accepting them, no matter their faults'...it can't be done..not if you want to remain sane. As they shoot themselves, and everyone else around them down in a torrent of self imposed loathing and hatred, you will also lose, big time...
I believe in standing by someone you love...ignoring their (sometimes) huge problems however, helps absolutely nobody...
candyflip

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[Wookie]

The bottom line is that if this person nags (for want of a better word) you to quit your vices, then this person from now and ever more will be seen as the one who will prevent you from doing things..which will breed discontent, which leads to lies (in order to protect this person), which leads to further problems down the road. If you are mature about the things you do, eventually YOU will work out what is important and will reach the decision to start or stop the vices in your life.....other than that, this significant other should be there to support you, pick up the pieces (sometimes) and enjoy the fruits of your relationship all the times.
If this fails, tell her to pop a pill and chill!
the Wookie has spoken!
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