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Okay, I say the following based on very little information but usually if you're with someone who won't "let" you break up with them, chances are that person is pretty damn crazy. With that being said, this isn't necessarily advice for you but for anyone involved with a sick person.
Restraining orders are your friend. They're hard to get because you have to have a lot of legitimate evidence that the person is a physical or mental threat and the judge will want solid proof, but they're worth it. I had to get one against my ex because he wouldn't "let" me break up with him. Even though I called it quits he would show up everywhere I was and act as if he was my boyfriend still. He would even show up at my house in the middle of the night, break in, and stand over me before waking me up. Once I got enough witnesses and evidence I was able to take out a three year long restraining order. He was admitted into a mental hospital shortly thereafter for breaking it and it was either that or jail (he was clearly off in the head, normally they would just arrest the person).
Seriously though. Don't let someone else control your life. That's stupid. I know it's hard when people are psychotic and controlling, but you need to do everything you can to end this because it's not fair to you and it can get really dangerous with people like that.
As far as my ex goes, our story ended well. We didn't have any contact for many years and during that time I moved far, far away so he had no choice but to move on. He found someone else and now he's married and seems happy. The restraining order lapsed several years ago and he wrote me a long letter apologizing. In it he told me that he was extremely sick but even then there was no excuse for his behavior. He apologized for affecting my life in such a negative way and explained how badly he still felt for everything he put me through. It was a beautiful letter. We're obviously not friends or anything, but I would say we're on good terms now.
This can't always happen but sometimes it does. If you truly care about yourself and this girl, you will do both yourselves a favor and nix that relationship immediately. Obviously she can't handle any contact with you so don't have anything to do with her for several years. Chances are she'll move on and maybe you two can be friends again one day if you still care about her enough to want a friendship. It's for the best, really.
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