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Pregnancy Scare, beyond terrified

Beachcat said:
OP, seriously....your amount of anxiety over this is WAY out of proportion to the facts. It seems to be seriously affecting your day to day life, even in light of the chances being infinitesimal.

Is this the first time you have experienced anxiety and obsessiveness like this? Honestly, you may want to get this checked out.
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No, I've had some extreme anxiety about things before. With my last girlfriend I had this exact same fear happen to me twice, one time i was CONVINCED she was pregnant, and when the test came out negative it actually took me a little while to accept that as a fact. It's bizarre I know, and being like this is pretty irritating sometimes. This is just a situation that is so far out of my control I can't stand it. I've been trying to calm down with it but it's tough, I'll go from totally optimistic to completely hopeless within minutes. I do appreciate the positive comments though, everyone here has been helpful, I'm just losing my shit hoping this turns out ok and I can go on with life as normal.

CoffeeDrinker said:
OP....stfu....
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Yeah, I figured someone would think this was really stupid but I didn't know what else to do and I felt like I had to talk about it so I came here. I like dr. octagon though.
 
is like this-

your ocd is causing you to have worst case scenario fantasies

maybe in future you need to get a relationship with someone who is on the pill
 
Yeah...it might definitely be worth looking more into your anxiety or trying to find help for it OP, because to be affected to that extent by something so unlikely definitely isn't very healthy :\
Especially if it's a recurrent thing.
 
OP, the other thing is...you're paranoia is bound to make the situation as worse as it feasibly can be made. Let's say you did have a kid in this scenario. What kind of neurotic, frightened, psycho will you be raising and subsequently unleashing on the world?

You've already, basically, given all the evidence against her being pregnant from the very first post, yet you still seem to be hopelessly frightened at the POSSIBILITY of this worst case scenario.

They say cortisol from stress counter-acts testosterone. I bet if you got a potency test you might be happy with the results. Just a thought....
 
Yeah maybe I should look into getting my anxiety checked, but I feel like in this situation there is a real reason to really be this anxious, I'm still incredibly scared but all I can do is just wait and hope it turns out OK. It's just very difficult to get my head around the idea that she may not be pregnant, for whatever reason that just isn't a thought process I can sell to my self. I'm almost starting to get angry at this feeling, I'm pretty sick and tired of not being able to help feel like this, the thought that this has to continue for about 3 more weeks is exhausting.
 
Well..like you said it is out of your control at this point and all the worry and anxiety in the world is not going to change it if she is pregnant. But the others are right..yes a pregnancy scare is cause for a little concern but your level of anxiety over this is totally out of proportion to the issue. I'm glad I'm not the one who you slept with..this girl has got to be going nuts with you bugging her about this when she is not concerned.and to be more freaked out because the morning after pill has worked so many times for people you know that you figure that increases your chances of being in the percentage that it doesn't work for is just way over reaction..I bet you are just a load of fun to be around right now.

Obviously no matter how much people with an objective point of view tell you how minimal the chances are of her being pregnant you are still going to drive yourself insane over this. I think you need to be checked out by the doc..seriously. worst case scenario, she is pregnant...cmon..is it the end of the world? So she gets an abortion or you end up paying child support like a zillion other guys in your situation...or it might be the best thing that ever happened to you..who knows? But again, all the worry in the world is not going to change the outcome...so chill...tell yourself the worrying doesn't need to start unless she does tell you she is pregnant...then you can be concerned about what to do.
 
I haven't been talking to her much actually because I know that would drive her insane, and the fact that she isn't worried is one of the few things I can take a little comfort in, so I don't want to be so overbearing that she starts worrying too. So I've left her alone about it, with the exception of yesterday when she texted me saying plan b caused her to bleed (sorry thats probably too much information for you all). That would have been comforting but I know that it doesn't mean anything one way or the other, she'll just have to take a pregnancy test around her period which is still like 3 weeks away.

Until then I'll do my best to avoid worrying, sometimes for a few hours I can break out of it and think "hey everything will be ok and my life will just continue as normal" but that doesn't last too long. I actually think I'm afraid to continue on in a good and happy mood because I'm afraid that I'm going to be faced with terrible news and then my good and happy mood will really come to halt. So I might as well prepare for the first.

Fucked up way of thinking, I know.
 
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Also, sorry to double post, but with this situation and others like it, I feel like since I've convinced myself that it's going to happen, then it's going to happen, I do not envision a future where she tells me she took a pregnancy test and it's negative. Is this for real something that I should get checked out, this level on anxiety and bizarre thought process I have?
 
ABL23 said:
Is this for real something that I should get checked out, this level on anxiety and bizarre thought process I have?
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Yes :\ it really isn't 'normal' (not a great word, but you know what I mean) to be getting this paranoid over this and considering how much of an impact it's having on your life, finding ways to deal with/fix your anxiety would definitely be nothing but beneficial.
 
I may get an appointment scheduled with someone this week. I'm calm and optimistic at the moment but I know that can change at any time.
 
I've remained fairly optimistic the past 2 days about this. I guess I'm just starting to assume that even though we continued to have sex with a condom after I had already finished the condom should have still done it's job. And with plan b in the mix it should be ok hopefully.

We had sex without a condom for less than a minute and although it was incredibly bad judgement the odds of getting pregnant from precum are already pretty low. I don't know if urinating takes sperm out of precum but I'd at least have that going for me if that's the case.

I appreciate all the helpful and encouraging comments, I'm hoping it will turn out well and I'll be sure to post the outcome here.
 
Having a child is a serious and hard decision, but if you can't decide anymore, and the girl want to keep the child, please move together, and have a lot of time with the children, and love him. I know everyone can find an exception, that why he can't, but for the Health of the children, you have to take this sacrifice. Just move together, find a job, and take care of the children, love him and each other. If he/she miss his dad/mom, and nobody is playing with him, he will be emotionally and mentally hurt. Not in that way, that he will be ill, but he will have difficulties in some cases. Like he might fall in love easily, or he will be very shy, or too aggressive. A children need the warm gentle love of the mother, and the strong, leader father who he wants to be when he grow up. The first love of a babygirl is her own father, and the first love of the boy is her own mother. Don't tear him/her apart from the first of their love. Children doesn't want money, doesn't want any special, roller coaster, or vacation. He just needs his 2 parents, who encourage him, and compliment him. A well raised child is one of the best investment, believe me. When you will think about back this in a few years, how ever you decide, you will understand what I talked about.
 
You really are freaking out about nothing! Some women need to have unprotected sex hundreds of times before they get pregnant. That is full unprotected sex with no condom and the man blowing inside her. If it was as easy to get pregnant as in your situation everyone would have like 10 children, sure it can happen but it is unlikely. The chances are very slim that this girl is pregnant so just chill out.
 
I guess my main worry is that i didnt put a condom on right away so we were unprotected for about a minute. Then continued having sex with a condom even after I finished, so maybe the condom slipped a little bit or something and I didn't notice.
 
I will for sure, probably be another week or so. But do you think with what I said in my previous post that there is a high risk? Even with plan b and the time in her cycle?
 
^If the only form of birth control you'd used was a condom then yeah, I'd have answered that what you said in your previous post increased the risk a tiny bit (that's still a minuscule risk, mind, and would absolutely not be a cause for concern)...but considering she took the morning after pill on top of it, no, frankly, there's just no risk.
 
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