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People who drive on rural roads at night and don't turn their high beams off for approaching traffic. Lazy, inconsiderate and unsafe.
 
^^ Maybe they just forgot??
Do you flash your highbeams at them to remind them? Works like a charm :)
 
Transcendence said:
I fucking hate it when a waitress asks me if I'm still "working on" my food. If I considered it work to eat the food then I wouldn't still be sitting here you stupid bitch. I know it's just an expression but it makes my blood boil all the same. Yes, I am neurotic.
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even worse, when they take the food when you're mid bite lol
 
Movie previews that show most of the important parts of the. Why!?? Let me watch the movie and be surprised. I am usually interested in the movie within ten seconds of the advertisement, but then they show so many crucial scenes.

Also, TV shows that say what is about to happen. Tonight on "24" RIGHT before it starts at 8 O'Clock, they run an "advertisement" for it, saying, "Blah blah blah and a traitor is revealed." Why the fuck are they doing that!? I am already watching the show, do they really need to persuade me further to watch it!??
 
Fjones said:
I didn't say people should move to the left. That was someone else.

I apologize for any confusion though. When you said, "maybe they are from the US, here they stand on the right," I thought you were saying that people here in the US DO stand to the right; I now realize what you were saying is they are SUPPOSED to stand on the right :)

On a related pet peeve: In NYC, bicyclists ride with reckless abandon, sometimes obeying the rules of pedestrians and sometimes obeying the rules of cars. This makes their actions difficult to predict and increases their chances of getting hit by a car. It is very unnerving when they dart in and out of traffic, then suddenly go on the sidewalk, then make a turn when traffic isn't allowed to, then go the wrong way on a street. I hope they get hit by a car.
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This is hilarious. There was a very long and pissy debate about whether bicyclists are dicks on the road or if it's just the fact that cities are unaccomidating for bicyclists (no way true in Chicago or NYC IMO). It was great I'll try to dig it up for you! Sorry about the confusion. I understand your point now. :)
 
well, I will say that many places are less than IDEAL for bicyclists, but that doesn't excuse the maniacal things they do. And then if I hit one of them, I am the asshole for crippling someone! ugh!
 
pet peeve: Dictionary.com. Somehow I mispalced my dictionary and thesaurus (???), so I use dictionary.com sometimes. It SUCKS! They use the word to define itself!

For example,

Chemical -noun 1. a substance produced by or used in a chemical process.
Chemical -adjective 3. of, used in, produced by, or concerned with chemistry or chemicals: a chemical formula; chemical agents.

Are they fucking serious? Miriam Webster online is no better.
 
^^ Hahaha that made me lol!! Are they serious? :D
Chemical - noun 1. a chemical
:D
 
Fjones said:
well, I will say that many places are less than IDEAL for bicyclists, but that doesn't excuse the maniacal things they do. And then if I hit one of them, I am the asshole for crippling someone! ugh!
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Even within large cities there are places that are less than ideal but there are designated roads that should be used for the majority of their travel... which they fail to use. Oh god, we're getting back into the main arguments of the fantastic debate. I did a search with no results. Someone help!
 
This happened because someone got into an a debate with me about whether table sugar is a food or chemical. I said food, he said chemical. Then he ridiculed my science education for even questioning him. So I went to the dictionary to see if table sugar is technically a chemical, and as you can see, that led me NOWHERE!
 
AmorRoark said:
Even within large cities there are places that are less than ideal but there are designated roads that should be used for the majority of their travel... which they fail to use. Oh god, we're getting back into the main arguments of the fantastic debate. I did a search with no results. Someone help!
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I would love to see it. I am amazed that anyone actually sided with the bicyclists. They are just insane and maniacal.
 
I'd say you're both right Fjones.
Then again, I'm a chronic fencesitter =D

But seriously, table sugar is a food, sucrose is a chemical. So you're both right.
 
Agreed. Semantics weren't important in this case (wow, I cannot beleive I actually just said that). What was important was the connotation and tone of what he said. It was definitely inappropriate for him to use the word "chemical" in this particular case.
 
claire22 said:
  • people say "No offence, but..." or "I'm sorry, but..." when it's clear they are insulting/offending someone
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  • Claire, don't you know you can say whatever you want to someone as long as you say "......with all due respect........"

    ......it's in the Geneva Convention, look it up....
 
xxkcxx said:
But that doesn't mean you can just sit back and not try to better yourself because of the diagnosis. The whole reason they have therapy is because of the idea that you can change.

I'm sick of people (and loved ones who do it for them) who live their lives being assholes and then saying "well, I'm a junkie" or "it's not my fault--I have bipolar."

Mental health diagnoses should not give people cart blanche to do what they want no matter who it hurts.
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arsey said:
that is true, but some people blame all their bad behavior on the fact that they have a disorder, without trying to help themselves
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xxkcxx said:
Right.

IMO, it is more like getting peeve that a person with a broken leg uses his broken leg as an excuse to not get up from the couch for the entire 6 weeks it takes to heal and rings a bell at everybody to signify he would like a soda and if someone does not come within 3 seconds of the bell ring he threatens to kill himself.
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I agree, however I think you’re just being a bit harsh on the “working” on themselves to become functioning human beings. Disorders take a lot of time/effort to break (years and many hours of therapy) and it’s a long journey, so someone may be trying and just failing/having a lot of difficulty getting there and just not show it.

However, I think in terms of using a disorder as an excuse, the people you’re referring to are not really those with a mental illness, but those who want to/think they have a mental illness… which leads me into another pet peeve….

I REALLY questions whether someone who is claiming their bad behaviors are caused by their disorder/using it as an excuse OUTWARDLY to the general public as an excuse really HAS that disorder. I’m pretty about shit on these boards, where I’m typing to nice people who I will most likely never run into, but not out there in non-cyber-world. Because a) I don’t generally like people thinking I’m crazy/looking at me like I am and b)there’s a lot of shame/guilty at being diagnosed (anorexia) with a disorder that face-face is a little too overpowering… and that’s the common thread I’ve seen in a lot of mentally ill people. Most keep their diagnoses secret and would prefer almost anything to having to confess that they can’t do something because of it (and would do anything to NOT have it, and not have to be aided/pitied for it.)

My theory is that the people who use their disorder as an excuse are the same people who don’t leave their house for two days and claim “I’m an agoraphobic” skip breakfast and claim “I’m anorexic” have a really good two days followed by a few bad days and claim “I’m bipolar” get nervous for a test and can’t concentrate on the SAT and claim “I have anxiety and ADHD” have a habit of double checking their locks at night and claim “I have OCD” and I could go on for another ten sentences but I won’t. I hate/can’t stand people who self-diagnose themselves with mental illness and then walk around promoting it, and like you’re saying, using it as an excuse not to do shit and expect everyone to stop what they’re doing and turn around and pity/help them… basically wanting to reek what they see as the “benefits” of being mentally ill (not being able to function so people have to step in and do it for you, and people feel bad for you) and for some reason enjoy seeing themselves as disordered and sick. It wouldn’t bother me as much as it does, except that these people give everyone with a mental illness a bad rep, promote the idea that we’re an attention-seeking, incapable and lazy breed, proud of our flaws and wanting everyone to know.

An example…. the cult of teenage girls on those PRO ANA/PRO MIA websites asking for advice on how they can become more eating disordered/what diet pills work the best/tips on how best to manipulate their fingers to induce vomiting. Anyone asking for advice on HOW to have an eating disorder does NOT have an eating disorder and is just hoping to find some kind of identity in it and be taken care of… and thinks that apparently anorexia looks sexy. In the case of those girls, they reinforce the idea that those with eating disorders are just shallow rich white girls who don’t care about anything but losing weight and looking like Kate Moss… when most with an eating disorder are incredibly sensitive and self-loathing men/women who are not concerned with appearing beautiful to the outside world and are just trying to get through the day.


Tried to make that as succinct as possible but 5 AM ranting while switching back and forth to my essay doesn’t promote the best debate skills.

Oh, and not beat a dead horse but I HATE bicyclists on school campuses. When I am walking to class I do not want to have to fear for my life as I dodge maniacs on bikes who expect me to run away from them. I’m indifferent to bicyclists on the street as long as they don’t go in the middle of the lane and then stay there… several times I’ve honked and honked as some guy is in the middle of a regular lane and I’m trying to go above 15 miles an hour but can’t… just move to the side of the lane and let me pass you.


don’t much care about bicyclists on the street, but I
 
This is an interesting point you bring up Mia. But, it can go both ways.

For example, I don't really know if I am bipolar or not. I have fairly dramatic mood swings sometimes. Some of my friends and doctors and family members have told me that I am in denial and the sooner I accept it and get treatment, the sooner I can become "normal."

On the other hand, if I told people I had bi-polar, I suspect some people would have a similar reaction to the one you just described.

And there isn't really any way to tell who is right, is there? The diagnosis isn't like diagnosing cancer or something like that. There is a lot of grey area.
 
mrs_mia_wallace said:
My theory is that the people who use their disorder as an excuse are the same people who don’t leave their house for two days and claim “I’m an agoraphobic” skip breakfast and claim “I’m anorexic” have a really good two days followed by a few bad days and claim “I’m bipolar” get nervous for a test and can’t concentrate on the SAT and claim “I have anxiety and ADHD” have a habit of double checking their locks at night and claim “I have OCD” and I could go on for another ten sentences but I won’t.
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Being a hypochondriac is a disorder, too. Trust me.
 
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