Fjones
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I'm not sure how this will translate into better success for you with connecting with women but it may have some bearing.
I'm old, out of shape, and of a generally rude temperament. I have many women in my real life and my online life that dig me. I engage their minds or their hearts their vaginas are a desert I don't have room for.
I'm not giving the main thing that may help, yet. Indifference, sangfroid, being cool, its all the same thing. Really wanting it makes it less attainable. I'm sure you could get gay guys with out even trying precisely because you are not even trying. If you wanted them they would scatter. I've started my thing with a pre-supposition that they sensed you wanted them and that they want someone who cares less than they do so that the man can steer the drama a bit before the woman ultimately conquers. Probably, I'm just imagining
Phone numbers are for future concerns. Casual sex involves getting you to their place or them to yours. Are you looking for casual sex or for a relationship. My opinion, relationships are unlikely in bars. Look at clubs in the sense of: volunteering, church, mensa, fraternal order of elks, what have you. Bar connections can be other than sex but its almost heading towards lottery odds.
I am not sure what I'm looking for. I am just trying to talk to people more often instead of just huddling with the people I came to the bar with. What I want is for a woman to either NOT talk to me much at all or talk to me for a half hour and then not act weird when I text her a week later to see what she's up to.
In one of the cases in question, I went up to a group of gorgeous women at the bar, partly because mt roommate bet me I wouldn't. Once there, I introduced myself, made small talk, suggested they join us to hang out, and went back to my roommate and other friend.
20 minutes later, after we had left the bar to go for a smoke and returned, they decided to come chat for a bit and stayed for awhile. I exchanged numbers with one of them who appeared interested in both me and my roommate. I wouldn't say I was appearing "needy" or "wanting it." I'm just trying to be social and meet people and make conversation. I exchanged numbers because she seemed genuinely interested in hanging out with us, even asking if there was another good place to go (There wasn't, not in this town).
The next time I texted her simply seeing what she was up to, she brushed me off completely.
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