Performance Anxiety

[murther]

I'm a 17 year old male and have been with my girlfriend for only about a month now. We've tried to have sex twice and I'm having a bit of an embarrassing problem. We'll get naked and start getting down, but whenever it's actually time for me to go in I lose my stiffy. She's mentioned that I seem really shakey during this as well. I'm a technical virgin and my only sexual experiences have mainly been while really drunk or high at various parties. She's had a fair bit of sex but doesn't really seem all too empathetic as she hasn't ever had to deal with this problem before. I want to be able to please her and have sex but I have no idea how to get over this. Thankfully she's trying to be understanding and we're still together. I just don't want to keep making her take all of her clothes off, getting her horny, and then not being able to perform. I think I'm just incredibly worried about my performance and what she'll think. I don't want to have to buy viagra off the street, so does anyone have any experience or advice to get over this "stage-fright"?

 

[Teabag Johnny]

I'm a 17 year old male and have been with my girlfriend for only about a month now. We've tried to have sex twice and I'm having a bit of an embarrassing problem. We'll get naked and start getting down, but whenever it's actually time for me to go in I lose my stiffy. She's mentioned that I seem really shakey during this as well. I'm a technical virgin and my only sexual experiences have mainly been while really drunk or high at various parties. She's had a fair bit of sex but doesn't really seem all too empathetic as she hasn't ever had to deal with this problem before. I want to be able to please her and have sex but I have no idea how to get over this. Thankfully she's trying to be understanding and we're still together. I just don't want to keep making her take all of her clothes off, getting her horny, and then not being able to perform. I think I'm just incredibly worried about my performance and what she'll think. I don't want to have to buy viagra off the street, so does anyone have any experience or advice to get over this "stage-fright"?

I have a proposal:

How about you refrain from taking all the cloths off and having actual intercourse for a while. You can still do all the foreplay type activities like kissing, cuddling, body massages, and maybe you could even do her a favor and give her oral. All this foreplay and teasing over time is going to get you excited. I could just imagine massaging her smokin' ass in her panties over time is going to turn you into a sexual animal. I'm a Lion, "Roooaaarrr!" It's going to accumulate some testosterone. Be sure to refrain from masturbation and watching porn. Trust me, you will turn into an animal, but you'll probably be a minute man the first time at sex. Just take a break, and go again. After you find you're comfort, you can control all the variables.

Just relax, don't rush, and don't feel obligated to rock her world in bed so soon. She'll appreciate it if you gave her attention & foreplay. If she gets concerned, just talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. You're only 17, that's pretty dam young.

Life is too short to have anxiety & Stressin' is a waste of time