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Mental Health People who put down others & are condescending...

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I just wanted to get the input on a theory I just thought up. Does anyone else feel the reason some people are demeaning and condescending to others - especially in the work place or involving skill required activities - is because it is makes them comfortable to see others uncomfortable? My belief is these people are insecure and attempt to remedy their insecurity by putting pressure on those around them. Almost like passing the buck of pressure/anxiety and deflecting it towards someone else so all eyes are on the other person. Just a thought I was having, and BTW I hate people like this, they are scum bags.

Edit: I also think these people pray on the socially anxious and introverted types. They are easy targets to pressure and this causes them to perform inadequately and in turn make the pressuring individual appear or competent.
 
yes that's been a theory that has been accepted for a long time however i don't entirely agree with it. This is a form of social herding used by people to set boundaries on who should be accepted and who should not, it is the result of a competitive society. This herding happens from a very young age, any person who does not follow the status quo will get pushed outside through bullying, name calling, harassment and other such techniques by what are deemed to be the 'social herders', usually kids from stronger backgrounds with more social skills and friends.

i was very introverted and socially anxious growing up; i essentially learned all of my social skills on my own and i wasn't targeted by anyone after i learned how to adapt. Even as I am getting older and older i still see this kind of social herding happening, essentially reproducing the class system in our society like ordering cars into certain lanes based on skills/looks/abilities and mostly social connections.

It's shitty but it's the Brave New World essentially, just not as exaggerated yet.
 
I hate this type. Got to deal with them at times. I either stand up to them or more often ignore them and act like I'm enjoying my day regardless. This pisses them off immensely and they often try even harder to get to me. If I can keep on smiling through that they will be unbelievably pissed and unsatisfied. Which is such a good feeling for me. I take the high road in a way that still feels like taking the low road in that I get satisfaction out of others frustration. But fuck 'em. They started it.
 
I worked closely with a CEO who loved to fuck with staff and I observed him picking on people using a humiliation technique. It could be a simple mistake but if this man was in a bad mood, everybody suffered. He would find something that person did wrong and bring it to senior management's attention. This way they would all know of the mistake and get depending on his wrath, most times agreed which would wind him up even more. It would turn into a wolf pack mentality.

Next that person would be called up into the office and interrogation would ensue with boss man and 3-4 upper staff members. They all would get their chance to take shots now. My stomach would get in knots just hearing this happen. Depending on the severity of the situation and/or the employee's attitude, it could go on for 2 hours or be done with in ten minutes. Either way no matter how the person was disciplined or not, it was meant to make the employee feel intimidated.
 
^that sounds horrible, there must be some recourse to that kind of behavior; I've found generally not giving a fuck what management thinks at all about me is useful in that sense, not like they are gonna promote me if i suck their dicks anyway so fuck them. There must be some social engineering techniques to get through this sort of stuff though and turn it right around on them.
 
Maybe it's because I can't stand insolent behaviour, but I always turn it around on the perpetrator, regardless if they are my superior or not. I can't just sit there and take it, and pretend like it's not happening. I used to be really reactive and just dish it out right back at them, but now I enjoy debunking the insult and skillfully pointing out the degree of self-ignorance that is required to bully others.

Bullies are often in hardcore denial about their own problems, so as soon as you get close to their nearest and dearest issues they will back down immediately in order to avoid it. If you can include other victims in your retaliation then it will add the embarrassment factor and they will think twice next time.

They only persist if you let them. Once you demonstrate that you will never make it easy for them, they'll fuck right off. I've had bosses completely crack and go for the throat, only to end up being fired, because my non-chalance wasn't feeding their egoistic dilemma and it drove them crazy.
 
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