Not too many parents here, eh? I'm the father of a sixteen year old girl and a fifteen year old boy. I test them randomly. Why?
Read and understand.
I have taught my kids about government, the intrinsic flaws of authority, Bastiat, the conceits of religion, and yes, drugs.
They can prattle off just about anything, and both of them attend this very board regularly. They are somewhat disenchanted with drugs because recently they lost a close close friend to drug inhibited driving. He was a passenger. The driver lived, but was terrribly inured. Anyway...
They have seen two of their friends get pregnant while rolling, and watched the deteriorating health of many of their friends as they roll away, weekend after weekend, without taking the proper precautions of organ protection, rejuvination, seratonin replenishment, etc., etc. In short, they see first hand the destructive aspects of drugs, right up close.
Now, both of my kids have tried a multitude of drugs. Cocaine, X, weed, alcohol and speed so far. They knew they would be tested and caught. What were they thinking?
They told me. They limited their intake because they thought about the decreased chances of being detected. Also, they decided that they would talk to me about the experiences if I asked, but if I didn't test them they were going to remain silent on the issue altogether.
So what is accomplished here?
Two things: Moderation and communication.
Is that so bad? I agree that my kids live in a world where they are the custodians of their bodies. I have also described to them the legal consequences to ME and their MOTHER if they get caught. This tempers their use considerably. Do I want my kids to do drugs?
I will say this: I want my kids to RESPECT drugs, and the consequences that using has. I hope they know how to fool the tests. They are already familiar with the storebought false positives. Know why? Because when my son told me he had NOT done cocaine I TRUSTED him and went the extra mile to discover (while he watched) the existence of the false positives. I demonstrated that I can be open to his word over a test (I knew for a fact he had not done any ). I am not a fool. I monitor my kids and their friends very closely. Other students stay the fuck away from my daughter (she is 5'10" blonde/blue model material) because they know about me and that I watch and I react to bullshit quicker than lightning.
You can say all you want about trust. I agree. My kids trust me to watch out for their asses until they have learned the ropes.
I promised them both that if they tested clean throughout the school year we would go on a vacation to places where things can be examined...
I told them I would walk them through the worthwhile experiences myself, and that there were certain ones worth haveing, and not to waste them on bullshit unknowns with a bunch of punk asses who don't even know what they are selling. Later, we'll share some very special experiences in a legal, safer environment. They know I've done countless drugs. They know I've OD'ed and nearly died.
They know I trust them and love them. Hell, they might even stop by and post here in a reply.
You see now? Its not always about lack of trust.