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well i dont think anything is wrong with it..parents could just say it is 'smoking' so they would just refer it to smoking... like the movie 'humboldt county' the little girl seemed way mature for her age.. i think it is because they didnt shelter her from anything....
 
This isn't a Philosophy & Spirituality topic really. Lots of parenting threads in Second Opinion and SLR, but Second Opinion doesn't do drug threads. I'm going to try sending this to Drug Culture with apologies if my attempt at putting this in an applicable place was in error.

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Depends on the situation. Like, lighting a joint up in the car with your little kid in the backseat isn't really cool. And it's probably not good to smoke around them constantly (like smoke up in the morning, while eating with them, etc), but when it comes down to it I don't think it's more offensive then a parent drinking some wine or something in front of a kid. I look upon smoking tobacco around kids worse then I look upon smoking weed around them.
 
Everything a parent does sets an example for the kids. I believe those kids are much more likely to start smoking/(ab)using some other intoxicants one day also. Would not recommend a parent to smoke at all.
The best way to raise (influence) kids is to set a 'good' example with ones own behavior.
 
No. Encouraging substance use in children regardless of whether it is cigarettes, alcohol, marijuana or heroin shouldn't occur. A child who sees their parent imbibing in a substance is much more likely to repeat the same behavior.
 
I really don't like the idea. As adults we make conscious, hopefully educated decision. However, as children we don't have the capability to make informed, educated, well rounded decisions about things. Allow your kids to be just that, kids. Don't burden them with things that could greatly impact the person they become. As they grow and become older they will have the right to make these decisions and they won't be subconsciously affected by what they experienced at home.
 
capstone said:
Bad idea. Would you like them to say something about that to their teachers at school?

Depends on their age and non-narciness, I suppose.
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My parents smoked weed in front of me, and I did say something to my teachers and my grandparents. I was so young I did not know any better. I would say no. It damaged me during my childhood. I was learning in school it was bad to do drugs, and at home my parents were doing drugs. Caused alot of anger toward my parents.:(
 
When I become a parent one day, I'm never gonna encourage drinking or drug use to my kids. In fact if I catch my kids doing anything bad, I'm gonna ground them for a long time. Its hypocritical, but I don't want my kids to end up like me.
 
Grounding kids for a long time for drug use does shit all. If anything it makes them way more defiant.
 
euphoricnod said:
Grounding kids for a long time for drug use does shit all. If anything it makes them way more defiant.
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Yeah that may be true. Back when my friends and I used to get grounded for drinking and smoking, it wouldn't discourage us at all. We would just wait until the punishment ended, and then get right back into drinking and smoking. I would definitely punish my kids severely somehow though.
 
MindFruit said:
Yeah that may be true. Back when my friends and I used to get grounded for drinking and smoking, it wouldn't discourage us at all. We would just wait until the punishment ended, and then get right back into drinking and smoking. I would definitely punish my kids severely somehow though.
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It's not about punishment. It's A LOT more about showing understanding, love and care. Really.
 
I had my first kid in 1979, when I was 20. I smoked up until the time I had him because it stopped the morning sickness in it's tracks. I found once he arrived that I wasn't keen to dull my consciousness. I got high just from having my son in my arms. I didn't want to smell like smoke and I didn't want him to ever smell like smoke. He smelled like sweetness and light to my mind anyway.

I had three more kids with my husband and I stayed off drugs altogether. Weed was illegal back then, highly illegal, and I would NEVER have wanted to risk losing my four little angels to Child Protective Services.

My oldest baby is 31 now and my youngest baby is 24. My 26 year old daughter smokes weed. Come to find out, she started smoking when she was 14, the same age I started smoking weed, but she didn't know I had ever smoked so she hid it from me. When I found out a few years ago, I got my medical card and started smoking again. The smoking daughter loves it. The rest of the kids don't like it very much because they didn't know I had ever done it to begin with. It's good to be back under the influence and considering the way the economy has gone, I am glad I have something to release the stress.

I am extremely glad I didn't risk my parental rights by risking arrest. I'm glad the kids had their own opportunities to find out if they liked or did not like drugs. They have all since discussed their drug experiments with me. Only one likes weed and the other three don't like anything.

It was worth waiting until they were adults to discuss this with them. I am glad I stopped drugs when I became a parent. I could have discussed drugs with them when they were first getting introduced to drugs but they didn't know about my extensive drug use as a teen, and I didn't know about their drug trials when they were teens. It's sad that it was all so hidden but considering how much of a huge NO NO it is to use drugs in our culture it was worth letting each of my kids experience drugs on their own without my implicit consent.
 
capstone said:
Bad idea. Would you like them to say something about that to their teachers at school?

Depends on their age and non-narciness, I suppose.
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Yea it's not a good idea concidering that they teach kids to call the cops on their parents in DARE.
 
They do tell teachers to do that, although I am not the only teacher I know who smokes marijuana. We are not all like that, but we have to stay in the closet, MUCH more so than the trannies or the gays we work with. We need to have a weed pride day and weed pride legislature to make it fair for people of all walks of life to work as teachers.
 
Why not go to the bath room, or go to a different room? Keep a window open, turn the fan on, use some common sense. Always have something you can do (set a bong down on a table, joint in an ash tray, etc.) in a second's notice so you can attend to the child if they need your assistance.
 
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