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Other Ideas on How to Help a Broken hearted friend

Maya

Maya

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I just found out two days ago that one of my guy friends was diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy and severe sleep apnea. He has been courting this girl for two months but he found out that the girl doesn't like him. He has been going to the gym everyday due to his heart condition and to see if by any chance he can at least lose a few pounds to get a girlfriend.. I have been trying my best to help him emotionally but he strongly said that his heart cannot take a beating anymore.. literally and emotionally and it seems as if he has given up.

Cardiomyopathy is a heart condition with risk of a heart failure. His right ventricle is enlarged causing an irregular circulation of fluid is his body... He is recovering but he is still at risk.
 
The only thing you can really do is be a listening ear for him. Maybe you could be his gym buddy?
 
No guy should ever join a dating site. 90% of the time its a big ass waste of time.

Its for women like shopping, dresses, and late night phone chats with bffs.
 
It's great that he wants to get in shape to help his condition, but it shouldn't be done for the sole purpose of getting a girlfriend. There are plenty of women out there who will love and appreciate him just the way he is.

I would suggest what others have- try going to the gym with him to keep him company. Also, maybe see if you can introduce him to a few of your kind female friends?
 
I agree with the gym buddy! Maybe even take some gym classes together? Those are always fun. :)

Just go out and have fun! Enjoy life! Do fun stuff together. :) Exciting, new stuff! Life's too short to be sad over a chick. Plus, you meet girls outside when you're having fun.

I also agree with the online dating website though. I mean, even if he doesn't meet someone.. maybe it would be nice for him to talk to girls online? Have a little company?
 
Just spend time with him and be there for him. Like others have said - go to the gym with him. Take classes with him. Of course, hang out outside the gym as well.
 
there are many medications out there that can assist with his heart arrhythmia; but that will also fuel his depression.

based on the limited query of the OP; i can only assume that above all ailments; your friend is low on self esteem mostly due to his physical appearance and fear of not being perceived as "attractive enough" to the opposite sex.

there are two solutions to this problem; and neither are as black and white as i portray.

he can (sadly) deal with the repeated blows of rejection (like the rest of us) or change his methods of thinking and treatment of his conditions and positively turn his proposed situation around.

whether it works out with the woman you mentioned or not; doesnt add weight to how he perceives his self value. only he can change how he feels about himself. youre a good friend for caring about his feelings; but you cant change them; no matter how much you invest. only he can.

good luck <3

...kytnism...:|
 
Thank you guys for the advices!! He is actually a gymaholic but I guess I can try to be his gym buddy as well. he is actually feeling a lot better now thank god I was able to pull him out of it! We are goin out for dinner tomorrow night with our other friend so I guess bringing him out on social events will be the best thing so he can meet more people :)
 
Good to hear! Sometimes all a person like that needs is good friend (or more) to spend time with :)
 
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