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sebation13901

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So what websites have you used to meet someone? any free ones work? any paid ones work better than another?
 
I'm a big fan of it, mainly due to the isolated, lonely, anti-social lifestyle I lead. It's virtually impossible to meet people given my situation. Plentyoffish is the biggest, most popular free dating site there is and is a great site. I have met a few people on there. Honestly, if it weren't for online dating sites, I wouldn't have lost my virginity until two years after I actually did, nor would I have fucked any more than 1 chick at this point. Definitely check out plentyoffish.com. okcupid.com is another decent one that has some pros over PoF but isn't quite as active. Sign up for PoF and do a search for people in your city/ town and you'll be blown away by the amount of familiar faces you come across.

Good luck bro!
 
I personally think online dating is a bit of a waste of time. If you're average looking and have ok social skills you will do way better meeting women by more conventional means like through friends or at a bar.

The thing I don't like about it is 1) most of the women are not attractive, although there is the odd hot girl on there. You're pretty much scraping the bottom of the barrel when doing online dating. 2) having good social skills and having the ability to go up to a girl in a bar or where ever is a big advantage in the normal dating scene. With online dating this advantage is taken away as anyone can just send a message to a girl online. So automatically you're competing against alot more men than you would normally. 3) even though you may speak online it takes away the effect of being able to suss out if you're actually compatible with a person that you can tell when you go through normal means. Hence, why you may have alot of exceptionally awkward first dates.

if you really want to try it, okcupid is alright and free.
 
I spent a year doing this online dating thing...I talked with over 200 girls online and met with 15 face to face. I only hooked up with one girl and we had a relationship for three months...
I think it's a waste of time - most of the girls I've met had some issues or psychological problems of some sort, or they have been abused or hurt in the past,etc...
 
psytaco said:
I personally think online dating is a bit of a waste of time. If you're average looking and have ok social skills you will do way better by meeting women by more conventional means like through friends or at a bar.
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This. Good luck!
 
psytaco said:
I personally think online dating is a bit of a waste of time. If you're average looking and have ok social skills you will do way better meeting women by more conventional means like through friends or at a bar.

The thing I don't like about it is 1) most of the women are not attractive, although there is the odd hot girl on there. You're pretty much scraping the bottom of the barrel when doing online dating. 2) having good social skills and having the ability to go up to a girl in a bar or where ever is a big advantage in the normal dating scene. With online dating this advantage is taken away as anyone can just send a message to a girl online. So automatically you're competing against alot more men than you would normally. 3) even though you may speak online it takes away the effect of being able to suss out if you're actually compatible with a person that you can tell when you go through normal means. Hence, why you may have alot of exceptionally awkward first dates.

if you really want to try it, okcupid is alright and free.
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Your latter two points are spot-on, especially about it potentially leading to awkward first dates which I just had last night. But I must disagree huge with the first point. Sites like plentyoffish are HUGE and have a fucking shitload of hot babes from your area. Honestly, just do a postal code search in your area or something on that site. I think you may be underestimating just how popular it has become. I always wonder why some of the smoking hot chicks are even on there. I know chicks in town that have countless friends and could get any guy they wanted, yet theyre constantly on those sites. You are right in your second con though that these chicks get dozens and dozens of messages daily, which is obviously a huge negative.
 
I have used online dating, I am 22 and I am now dating a 29 year old. I used match and okcupid. I used online dating because it's hard to meet people in my area (rural), I am very socially awkward or I attract the wrong type of guy (or maybe the setting of bars is bad as well). I was also looking for someone more serious, someone who also wanted a friendhsip that turned into a relationship (for me, friendship first to know what you are getting into).

The problem I found with online dating is that you have to really filter out your results and be active looking for someone. I haven't had personal postive things happen by waiting for some guy to message me. I messaged guys if I found something on their profile interesting. If they didn't answer, not a big deal, obviously I wouldn't take offense to be ignored: as I ignored some guys who I found unattractive profile wise or physically. I used match.com and I think it was better in the sense that people had to pay for their profile versus signing up and messaging any hot girl they see. BUT okcupid (free) had more people on it but quality over quantity in this case. Okcupid was filled with guys looking to just hook up and I was not interested, despite saying I was looking for something serious in my profile.

What I have personally found interesting about online dating is that, you should speak over the phone first before meeting. I hate talking on the phone BUT I met a guy and just texted him, it ended up he had a lisp and speech problem (which was not that reason I didn't like him) but we just had nothing in common. I think talking on the phone would have helped avoid that awkward situation. I spoke with my current boyfriend on the phone beforehand and we spoke 3 or 4 times before meeting which I think helped.

Another thing that I find interesting is that I don't think I would have had a problem meeting someone or had to use match.com if I had a facebook. I hated facebook and deleted 3 years ago and I then reactivated it for business reasons. People started adding me, whom I didn't know, they were cute, my age, had friends and hobbies in common, just on facebook. They would message me and ask me out or I would ask who they were and they will really tell me everything lol. I am very much surprised on how facebook could bring people to date and I thnk it would be a huge possibilty.

If you do try online dating, don't get too hung up on some people's profiles either or hung up on a particular trait. I was looking for someone into music (personally electronic genre). Anyone who didn't like my particular genre or who did like it, I would automatically group them as a no and yes group. If I did that with my current boyfriend, we wouldn't be together. I introduced him to my music and now it's something special for us, that brought us together. Our differences brought us together in way and now we both enjoy it. So give people a chance, there's more than a profile. I also said I wouldn't date older than 27...which could have hindered me. I realize I have more in common with older guys than I knew and I don't feel an age difference between us at all.

What I think really counts is messaging at first though. You can really tell if someone on there is trashy or not based on their messaging back and forth...so grammar (to me) matters as I value a good education and intelligence. I guess don't think too much about it: dive in, message as many people as you can, try and keep an open mind as well :)
 
My friend, who is average looking, but has always gotten girls because of my fantastic, humorous personality, uses POF. He copies and pastes the same message to dozens and dozens of girls a day, gets a couple responses, then immediately asks the girls for their number, texts them, and goes on at least one date a week. He has probably had sex with more than a couple handfuls of attractive girls from POF. All this happens in a city with a terribly pathetic pool of attractive women. I'm amazed... Then again, he cleans up offline, too, so why am I surprised?
 
Didn't have luck with online dating sites, but I've met people I've chatted with online for a long time and it's worked out well.
 
I don't like online "dating".

I meet crazy people, flakes, people who are major teases and who don't want to ever actually even date or meet up. I also meet people who are just into sex only but they can't even just tell the truth and say, "I don't want to date or have a relationship at all but casual sex is what I want." I also have met men and women who were way too desperate and into stalking online.

I tried online "dating" for years trying to find men and women and I just found the above so I no longer do it.
 
pof is free, i suggest you dont use it though

like was said above, probably 1 out of every 4 girls on there, just genuinely has trouble finding guys..maybe less

for the rest, they have problems that make them unfit for the regular dating scene, therefore use the mask of anonymity on an online dating site. Which gives them the upper hand to lure you to them with how they talk

i can talk a mean wrist game, but dosent always mean that im gonna be able to follow through on every slick thing i say.
thats why i would rather here a girl talk, and be able to see the actions she takes.

Dude, for all you know, i could be a 50 year old man with schizophrenia...but youd never know because im sitting behind my computer. Just tread lightly man
 
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